Can we be friends after break up?

Tweet

Butterflies in our tummy, sunshine in our blue days everything feels right and perfect and for a million unknown reason everything just has to end there. And we need to face a future without that person, another day without them by our side. Not seeing the person or have any communication may hurt but will help with the healing process. However, most of us ask this question after breaking up with someone ''can we still be friends?'' Is it really possible to be friends with someone you used to love (or still love)? Can you still look at that person simply as a friend of yours? can you hide the urge of getting closer to that person after a relationship ends? Some people want to stay friends simply because they want to save of what was left in their relationship, some just can't adjust with the changes that the break up could bring. Some just got so used to the other person and can't live a life without them anymore. For whatever reason we have, does this help? Why a relationship ends, I don't think it would be helpful to be friends with the person you used to love especially right after the breakup. I know it can be difficult, it takes a lot to be able to move on. You see, moving on doesn't really mean that you should forget everything and anything that had happened between the two of you. Remember that for once this person, who is now a stranger was someone whom you shared your greatest dreams and greatest fears with. This was once the most important person in your life. And waking up the next day just to accept that it's all over is really tough. Can be an unbearable pain, that some of us don't know where or how to start again. Though the option of staying as a friend is open to both parties, sometimes it takes a strong person to finally just accept the truth that things are really over between the two of you. What should I do then? Take your time, as I said, you are not required to forget everything. Instead, give each other that space and time just what every relationship that has ended needs. If you are so used to having that person around all the time, be strong and take one step at a time doing things by yourself. Give yourself time on your own, it means try not to talk with friends yet, I have nothing against friends but sometimes we just need to be by ourselves to put our emotions in place. Friends may influence how we think and what we decide and with a broken heart, it can easily be sway away with our friends' advice. How about a date? Well, yes. But not now, make sure you fix yourself first. Breaking up with someone doesn't require you to look for a replacement the day after that. Remember a relationship is not the toy you receive for a present that when it gets broken you can buy a new one the next day. Trust me that won't solve anything and besides, that's just too childish. Fix yourself and life first and when you're ready you can go out there and enjoy a nice date. But can we still be friends with my ex? The answer is yes but it all depends on what state you are in. If you are ready then you can be sure that having that person as a friend will be just fine. Just make sure that you are going to have that person as a friend not because you are hoping that you can bring back what you had. Acceptance can be difficult and it takes time but that's the first step to recovery. What do you think?