A child abducted by his father

Greece
January 9, 2016 4:15am CST
I was waiting in the train station this morning when I heard an announcement that a child was abducted by his own father. I got really scared since I heard a lot about parents fighting for custody and one of them would hide the child. I know that we should educate our kids not to talk to strangers to avoid kidnapping. I was watching a reality show and there was a scene where the parent left his triplets to buy food telling them not to go with anyone and just wait for him. Then after that, he asked a random girl to approach his kids to test them if they will follow his orders and not go with the stranger. His kids were really friendly but refused the girl at first then when she said that, "Let's go and find your dad", they went with her and one of them even took the girl's hand. You could see the horror in the father's eye as he saw how his kids fail the test. Good for him to think about testing them because he saw how vulnerable they were for kidnappers ( not to mention, they're father is an actor so people will assume that they're rich). The father will now make more effort to lecture them. Anyway, back to the announcement this morning, I don't want to judge the situation as I know that the father has the right to be with his son too or it must be a misunderstanding, but what if for example, the boy is really in trouble because his dad or mom or a family member wanted to kidnap him or is planning something suspicious, how can we warn our kids about not going with them even how sweet and close they are to the kid?
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@ria1606roy (2797)
• Kolkata, India
9 Jan 16
Yes, sentences like"Your dad has sent me" and "Let's go find your parents" usually make children more at ease, and it is exactly what they should be warned about. No matter whatever they are being told, even if it's sweet or kind, or if the stranger is offering something harmless, they should be rooted to the spot. However convincing they may sound. Making them understand is the way to make them vigilant.
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• Greece
9 Jan 16
That's true. I hate to give my child a cellular phone at an early age but I think having phone can help them too as they would have the means to call me to confirm but it can be dangerous as well. I read a book about giving children password that only the two of you knows and I think it will work.
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• Kolkata, India
9 Jan 16
@olivetree27 yes giving a cellphone to children is a risky decision, so a password should be fixed. Also you can give such a phone on which she could only do basics, like phone, message and nothing concerning multimedia....just for emergency cases. That will curb the ill effects a phone has on young people.
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• Greece
9 Jan 16
@ria1606roy Even text messaging is dangerous too nowadays. I heard a lot of news about kids or teenagers exchanging messages with strangers. We could ask them not to give their cellphone number to anyone or should keep the number to ourselves and not even tell it to the child (is there a program to do that?). I'm actually contemplating to home-school my kids.
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• Delhi, India
9 Jan 16
we use to remain alone in house since we were very young because both our parents were working but i think they taught us rightly not to entertain stranger whatever the situation is!
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• Greece
9 Jan 16
Good job for your parents. It must be difficult for them to be both working but sometimes, parents need to work both so children need to be smart enough to defend themselves and be careful of whom they entertain.
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@cherriefic (10400)
• Philippines
12 Jan 16
I am training my kids not to go with someone except me. Atleast it is applicable in my situation.
@softbabe44 (5816)
• Vancouver, Washington
10 Jan 16
Do not under any circumstances go with strangers no talking to then either.
@mnjhun1 (226)
• Peru
10 Jan 16
I'd scare my kids by telling them what could really happen if they'd trust strangers just like that
@Mbalie (316)
• South Africa
9 Jan 16
Family feuds are so draining. Kids get caught in the middle of all the drama between the parents. If only parents could take a more matured approach and settle their differences in a calm way for the safety of their kids. But I guess situations and circumstances are different. People are dealing with sometimes very dangerous and hectic situations at home.
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• Greece
9 Jan 16
True. Some parents are not thinking about how their behaviour affects the kids. Children who were left in the middle are confused on who is really the villain and would believe whatever the closest person to them will tell.
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• Greece
9 Jan 16
It is a risk these days to leave a child alone for even a few minutes so instructing a child from an early age is a necessity. Even so children are naturally trusting and have no reason to be afraid of adults if they have only experienced love.
@KristenH (33351)
• Cuyahoga Falls, Ohio
9 Jan 16
Parental kidnappers do happen from time to time, especially in domestic disputes over custody in a divorce. This is sad.
@fishtiger58 (29823)
• Momence, Illinois
9 Jan 16
Many child abductions are by the non custodial parent. They have a right to see their child but not to take them like that. I was always with my kids, never left them for a second. It's scary out in this nasty world.