The End Chapter of Her Life

@Shavkat (137221)
Philippines
January 15, 2016 4:24am CST
Some couples who were together for years split up because they fell out of love. For instance, my friend finally decided to call it quits because she doesn’t love her fiancé anymore. She split up with her long-time boyfriend. Her close friends and I never saw it coming since they’ve been together for two years. It was quite surprising because there were no signs or clues that their relationship was on the rocks. She said the reason they broke up is because her boyfriend told her he didn’t have any plans of ever getting married. My dear friend just assumed all those years they’ve been together that they had the same views about the future of their relationship. Unfortunately, it wasn’t the case, so she decided to call it quits. Despite everything, she learned a lot from their relationship, so she’s still thankful for it. What do you think guys? How can she surpass this hurting process?
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@Morleyhunt (21736)
• Canada
15 Jan 16
It is always good to know what your partner wants out of a relationship. If they have no plans for commitment, it is best to move on.
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@Shavkat (137221)
• Philippines
15 Jan 16
@Morleyhunt I do think we need to think first to be ready in commitment. Some people are too coward to stand at his point of loving someone. In some case, it reflects that some are players.
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• India
15 Jan 16
things told clearly is some times heart breaking but it gives strength to fight with the shortcomings o f life
• India
15 Jan 16
@Shavkat out of two at least one should be more honest and understanding so that fake is out forever
@shubhu3 (36464)
• New Delhi, India
15 Jan 16
I would say it's not about falling out of love and thus breaking up and stuff. That's inappropriate and kiddish. It's like if you are with someone,you love her and most importantly if you are serious with her then you will never ever leave her even if you fall out of love at any point in your life. I agree at some point everybody falls out of love and at that point is where your commitment towards someone that comes into action. If you genuinely are serious with someone you will never leave that person and if you did then that means you were not serious to be seriously honest. I think she should accept this fact and move on. She deserves better and she'll surely get better one day. And she should never forget that whatever happens with or to us happens for the good and what is meant to happen will happen just stay patient and strong.
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@Shavkat (137221)
• Philippines
15 Jan 16
@shubhu3 Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I do think she needs to move on and find her life as she recovered from her breakup.
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@Shavkat (137221)
• Philippines
16 Jan 16
@abhinalstrikr Indeed my friend, it is a part of life's lesson engaged in a relationship.
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• India
15 Jan 16
as every mistake gives some lesions in life.
• United States
16 Jan 16
Although she is in a lot of pain now, it is better or else she will be led on throughout more years and her now ex-boyfriend had no intensions or vision of marriage where she did.
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• United States
17 Jan 16
@Shavkat Yes, it is time wasted. I hope she has a better relationship in the future. I do believe in marriage also, but if the guy doesn't ~ I wouldn't want to waste my time to love him, and not get the same thoughts in return.
@Shavkat (137221)
• Philippines
17 Jan 16
@infatuatedbby It is really unhealthy to have a relationship like this. It will waste all the time and effort. There are a lot of people out there who still believes in marriage.
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@wiLLmaH (8801)
• Singapore, Singapore
15 Jan 16
That's a good move for her. If they her partner is not ready to take the next level with her why waste time on that relationship. Being Boyfriend-Girlfriend is the primary stage to get-to-know your future spouse. Good that she learned from that linking.
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@Shavkat (137221)
• Philippines
16 Jan 16
@wiLLmaH I agree to you my friend. It would be a learning process for having this kind of relationship. It may seem easy to forget, but to forgive is another story. @abhinalstrikr I agree she needs to walk through her life out of this situation.
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• India
15 Jan 16
past will remain as history see should move to next level of life
@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
16 Jan 16
Well if she's fell out of love, then it shouldn't be too hard to move on
@Shavkat (137221)
• Philippines
16 Jan 16
@Drosophila Sometimes action is more evident than saying its statements. I know deep inside there is still a painful sentiments. She showed nothing had happened. In fact, she was trying to conceal the pain from within.
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
16 Jan 16
@Shavkat Oh ya am sure separating from someone you have been with for a long time can't be easy. But it certainly helps if you're no longer in love with them.
@Shavkat (137221)
• Philippines
17 Jan 16
@Drosophila If falling out of love, it is surely that moving on would be so easy.
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• Kolkata, India
15 Jan 16
Id say to spend most of her time around friends, the people who matter in her life. Probably go out, have fun, be around people, it gets more easier that way, you tend to forgive but never forget, memories always remain, but yeah, family, friends, movies, this is the time she can spend with good people. :)
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@Shavkat (137221)
• Philippines
16 Jan 16
@Leanderjustin24 Close friends are really her support system at this point time. I and the others agreed to let her feel important in times like this. She took it in a positive way.
@cherriefic (10400)
• Philippines
17 Jan 16
Well, it depends on their level of commitment. But I would be doing the same thing. No point of wasting my time with someone who cant give me a deeper commitment.
@MusesM (584)
16 Jan 16
maybe she and her fiance have a fight recently?
@Shavkat (137221)
• Philippines
17 Jan 16
@MusesM They always do fight due to this issue. My friend realized how bad it will take if continued to be lured in this kind of relationship. It is a high time for to let go.
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@MusesM (584)
18 Jan 16
@Shavkat oh that's true,if they are not happy together,it is good time to let go
@softbabe44 (5816)
• Vancouver, Washington
16 Jan 16
That is a hard one to figure out.didnt see that coming.
@Shavkat (137221)
• Philippines
17 Jan 16
@softbabe44 I am not so sure. Perhaps she was blinded under the spell of loving him.
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• Vancouver, Washington
18 Jan 16
@Shavkat That very well could be
• India
15 Jan 16
the title is great !
@Shavkat (137221)
• Philippines
16 Jan 16
@abhinalstrikr Your statements are very well-said. I agree that she needs to cope up by having her peers and take one-step process to forget and forgive.
• India
15 Jan 16
as its really a heartbreaking story,the only way out I see should involve herself deeply into some work to forget such strained relationship.I think she should join this platform for getting the mental support.overcoming the punchured life.
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• India
15 Jan 16
@abhinalstrikr just as a matter of fact see should know the fact the best thing see will ever do is working on herself. just move on, no matter whatever the case may be.start loving yourself