Not Allowed To Dislike

@else34 (13515)
New Delhi, India
January 22, 2016 6:32am CST
On Mylot you may like a discussion you read.If you don't like it,you are free to leave it and move ahead.And if you leave it and move ahead,it does not necessarily mean you disliked the discussion.Your moving ahead may as well mean you have not read the discussion. 'Like' is eloquent,'dislike' is tacit.Does it mean here we are not allowed to hurt each other?
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@owlwings (43897)
• Cambridge, England
22 Jan 16
The very first paragraph of the Guidelines says "When in doubt, follow the Golden Rule!". If you don't know what "The Golden Rule" is, then that very phrase links to the Wikipedia article explaining that it is variously expressed as Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Now, nobody likes to be hurt, so it follows that we should not hurt others (by 'disliking' or any other positive action designed to hurt others). 'Moving on', 'not liking' and otherwise ignoring a discussion and even responding to a discussion with information which disagrees with it or is clearly designed to correct rather than to abuse anyone is therefore allowed. If someone feels 'hurt' by such action (or inaction), they may appeal to the Moderator, @GoAskAlice, to arbitrate but it is very likely to be their own over-sensitivity or misunderstanding of the advice which is at fault, not the other person's insensitivity or intended abuse. So, YES. We are NOT allowed to hurt each other here but that does not mean that people may not be hurt.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
23 Jan 16
@owlwings,You are right.And the initiator of a discussion should not feel hurt if someone dislikes their discussion and criticises it.However criticism should not be rude and offending.
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@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
26 Jan 16
Very well said , i like the last part very much , my friend because it is so true . Indeed , it is inevitable that another maybe be hurt by a comment we made because not all people have the same interpretation of our comments .
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
23 Jan 16
@owlwings,If I am strongly opposed to the matter raised in a discussion,I am free to express my disagreement,but it should not be rude criticism.Still if the initiator of the discussion is sensitive enough to feel hurt by it,then the respondent [ myself ] should not be blamed.
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@amnabas (14877)
• Karachi, Pakistan
22 Jan 16
It's fine to like and leave if not like.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
23 Jan 16
@amnabas,Yes,like,if you really like it.If not,then please don't say,'I dislike it' or 'I hate it',just move ahead.Don't hurt others.
@mammots (3209)
• Philippines
22 Jan 16
I like the positiveness of liking a discussion and leaving a comment with substance wherein other members of mylot may learn from.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
23 Jan 16
mammots,In fact,there is no reason why one should feel offended by a genuine response with substance.Still there are people who are over sensitive.I would like to draw your attention to the response by @lokisdad.
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@mammots (3209)
• Philippines
23 Jan 16
@else34 We cant control how others react to our comments here and in other writing sites no matter how much care we put in making our comments substantial and relevant just like in the case of @lokisdad.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
24 Jan 16
@mammots That's immature conduct.A mature person welcomes criticism.
@silvermist (19701)
• India
26 Jan 16
@else34 Already the ''block'' feature is being misused by some.We do not want a'' dislike '' feature added.
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@silvermist (19701)
• India
26 Jan 16
@else34 Yes,let there be positive interactions .No blocking at the drop of a hat.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
26 Jan 16
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
26 Jan 16
@silvermist,You are right.I,too, don't like 'dislike' feature to be there.Let the positiveness of the site maintained.
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@jaboUK (64346)
• United Kingdom
22 Jan 16
You shouldn't intentionally hurt anyone either on here or in real life. However, on here we are allowed to express our opinion even if it differs from the poster's, but we should do it in a polite manner.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
23 Jan 16
@jaboUK,Absolutely right.We should not expect others to be in favour of everything we say.Sometimes we have to face differences and we should not feel hurt by it.However the criticism should not be offending or rude.
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@lokisdad (4226)
• United States
22 Jan 16
The problem with dislikes is that some people use them to hurt another writer who may have made them upset. i once had it happen on another site the person wrote a post and i didn't like it. I felt that they really wrote a poorly written post. It was a hateful post one that would insite a problem with others and not only that the idiot filled it with no real punctuation it was like this.... You know what I mean... It pissed me off...this is just an attempt to cheat the system when you have nothing to say....and you would have disliked it too. I explained why I disliked it and the person got mad and disliked a ridiculous number of my posts. Which irked me because they did it to be spiteful.I told them thanks for boosting my earnings with all the dislikes.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
23 Jan 16
@lokisdad,Lol !! There is no dearth of such idiots.Even to genuinely feel hurt one needs some wits.The incident you have narrated here proves that there are fools who may get hurt even by a detailed response.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
25 Jan 16
@lokisdad I often come across such idiots both online and offline.They want everybody to always agree with them.
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@lokisdad (4226)
• United States
25 Jan 16
@else34 lol yes you are probably right a lost cause.
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@valmnz (17095)
• New Zealand
23 Jan 16
Unfortunately I don't have enough faith in the human nature of some to believe a dislike button would not be grossly over-used, for the wrong reasons. It serves no purpose at all and would encourage 'naughtiness' and straight out maliciousness
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
23 Jan 16
@valmnz,Yes,we human beings are prone to misuse our freedom to do something.Here on Mylot I recently came across a user who takes pleasure in blocking others.However this doesn't mean we should be disallowed to block others.
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@valmnz (17095)
• New Zealand
23 Jan 16
@else34 I see blocking as far less harmful than disliking.
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
23 Jan 16
yeah the whole point is be nice, but I dont think anyone takes a lack of a like personally, people use that function differently
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
23 Jan 16
@Jessicalynnt,I know,but lack of dislike button coincidentally seems symbolical.
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• Centralia, Missouri
23 Jan 16
@else34 I guess one could see it that way, I use the like button as a way to tell if I commented, if I commented, I like it. fast way to check, it's not really a like or not thing with me, for the most part.
@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
25 Jan 16
Why would you want to hurt someone. Doing so on purpose shows a lack of sensitivity on the part of the person commenting. People should always strive to be nice in the comments they leave.