Our guests are staying

I am really nervous about this. We went away overnight my kids and I and then the next morning Valentine's day when we were home Glenn was pretty short tempered with my kids. The same thing the following day. Yesterday I asked him if he is 100% sure he wants to live here before we go moving everything all around. Our kids don't get along, his son doesn't like my strictness and I seem to not be allowed to discipline him like I can my own children so there is no consequences if he doesn't listen to me.... and my kids drive Glenn nuts. I really hope things will calm down soon and this won't all be for nothing.

@TiarasOceanView I spent all of Monday night laying in bed crying. Mike was being mean in the morning and then I told him later on no more ps3 for the day because he wouldn't help out when I asked him to. That is how I punish my kids. I think we are a family and I do a lot for them so when I ask for their help I expect them to help out. My kids saw Mike on the ps2 and tattled about it. Glenn screamed at them and told them that he says its okay if Michael plays it. So what I did now is just tell the kids not to bother sharing anymore. For the year Michael was here last time my son had to share everything of his. The month that Michael has been here now I made him share his ps3 and he has hated it. The fights have all been over this. So I said to my kids you play your stuff and Michael plays his stuff and we will no longer share at all. That is pretty much the only thing Michael has so he might be bored after awhile but I am done putting up with the fighting. I take care of his son before and after school and he needs to be able to tolerate mine in the few hours they are awake when he is home. If not this will just not work. Hopefully after this no more having to share issue things will calm down.

@shaggin Oh no, it is so hard when children are involved. Had that problem once myself Shaggin. I dont blame you for being nervous because your children have to come first, same with me. For me, it definitely did not work out, but it was an extreme case of not getting along..two different worlds for sure. However, I wish you the very best. You will know what to do when the time comes...I know a lot of work if things are not going to calm down.

Seems like everyone around me is having bad relationships right now. Mine isn't bad its just a struggle to learn to live together and blend our families. I have OCD pretty bad to and that was tough for him to deal with last time we were together and tough for me to deal with some of his uncleanliness. We spent time together this weekend and it was really nice to just have things calm.

@shaggin I am happy you had a nice time together.

I might have over reacted last night and it lead to another night of being angry. I told him before the bed came to get sheets for it. The yesterday when it arrived I knew he still hadn't bought it so I told him to buy some on the way home which he didn't. He is planning to go buy them at Walmart today with his son to pick them out. I tried putting one of our extra sheets on it to keep the mattress clean but he wouldn't let me. The bed is right below the light in the room and it is going to get broken so he should have not slept on the top bunk until it is moved but once again his father said it was fine after I said no. A little tears and the kid can do whatever he wants yet if my son does it he tells him to quit whining etc. I was fuming last night so I just shut my computer off and went upstairs to get away from them. No matter how irritated I am I never scream at his son or am mean to him. These were the exact problems I had with him when we were together before he had no tolerance for my kids and my ocd drove him nuts. In the photo I attached it looks like more room from the bed to the light but its only about 2 feet. His head misses the light by about 4 inches. The light bulb has mercury in it if it breaks its not good especially if he gets cut by it.

No lol this was actually a mutual thing. I love him and I want this to work out but I am leery that it will not. I get his son up and ready and off to school in the morning and watch him an hour after the kids get out of school before Glenn gets home from work. Glenn has very little patience for other peoples children so I am not sure if this is going to go well us all living together. Anyhow the futon bunk bed has arrived. It is beautiful but takes up a ton of space in the room. I cannot wait for Michael to get home and see it. I am excited knowing how excited he will be to sit on the futon and play on the playstation 3.

@shaggin Honestly, after reading some of the comments you've left on this post, it sounds like there is a lot of work that needs to take place within the relationship. You and Glenn really need to sit down and discuss how discipline will work and things like that. To be perfectly frank, I'd probably have already told him that his lack of respect for my children in their own home is unacceptable, and if he can't treat them decently he can GTF on down the road.