He's moving out
@shaggin (71704)
United States
April 4, 2016 10:23am CST
I got the news today that my man is moving out. I just had the vibes about this yesterday.
He just sent me a text from work giving me a heads up that he is looking at a place later tonight.
He wants more room for his things and he is having a very hard time dealing with my kids. Our parenting styles are very very different.
I get it all it trust me its just not working for the same reasons it didn't work last time and I feel he just doesn't really care about me enough either.
I'm really upset right now. I don't feel like doing anything now.
I was at the computer going through emails and going to write a blog. With his text my heart started pounding so hard. I closed out of everything I was doing on the computer and came and laid down on the couch.
I have a doctors appointment to go to a 2. I have to go once a month to get my medication refills. I dread going now I don't want to put makeup on I'm just going to cry it off.
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13 responses
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
4 Apr 16
That's tough!
I hope you're OK though. And that you come out of this even stronger.
And if you ever need a good word or two, to help you get through, we're here (friends in myLot). I know that we're all anonymous here, and sometimes words don't really mean much, but even if just to get your mind off things, we could always provide the distraction!
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@shaggin (71704)
• United States
4 Apr 16
I paced the house for hours earlier. I turned on the stove when I meant to turn on the oven. My head is all jumbled up. My stomach is nauseated but I managed to eat an apple and an orange. I am just wondering what will happen tonight. My guess is he will go check out this house then go eat dinner and drink at the bar and come home super late or not at all at this point.
@JohnRoberts (109848)
• Los Angeles, California
5 Apr 16
I have no experience with this type of situation so I don't know what to say except cliche platitudes. All you can do is soldier on and start sorting things out for the future.
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@shaggin (71704)
• United States
10 Apr 16
Even though you have no experience with this type of situation I appreciate your comments. Thank you for trying to give me words of platitudes :) It is nice how much people here at mylot care!
@kaka135 (14918)
• Malaysia
6 Apr 16
I am really sorry to hear that. This is really hard for you. I am sure you love him, and you love your children very much too, but if he can't really get along well with your children, that's really difficult. Also, if he couldn't work this out, it'd be difficult for you to get back together as well.
I agree with siva, when a door closes another opens. But I do understand it will surely take time to be healed. Perhaps doing something to distract yourself or spending some good time with your family (children and sister) might make you feel slightly better. Take care! 
@shaggin (71704)
• United States
8 Apr 16
I think if it does not work out this time that it will be over for good for the both of us. No matter how much I love him if it doesn't work out this time I know it never will. There is just to many differences for us to work out that I don't really think can be worked out. I am very sad about it but I will get through it just like last time. Hopefully easier then I did last time.
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@infatuatedbby (94921)
• United States
5 Apr 16
I'm sorry to hear 
I haven't been in this position, but it's hard if your man doesn't accept your kids and parenting. It's all about compromise though.. I hope all the best for you!
I haven't been in this position, but it's hard if your man doesn't accept your kids and parenting. It's all about compromise though.. I hope all the best for you!@shaggin (71704)
• United States
7 Apr 16
I am always nice to his son no matter how much he drives me nuts. Even when he ruined a drawing on the wall that someone did for my daughter I never yelled at him. I wanted to cry but I didn't make a big deal out of it. I am very understanding and patient with his son as I know he is going through a lot. I think when shoe is on the other foot though he just cannot deal with it. He just doesn't have any patience for anyone else's kids. I don't think it is something that will change.
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@shaggin (71704)
• United States
8 Apr 16
@infatuatedbby I'm really not sure that he does love me enough thats a pretty big part of it. Some people just cannot tolerate children or orther peoples children no matter how hard they try. I am much more patient with kids then he is. I can understand if he can't handle it but he needs to be nice to them or just leave..which he is going to
@infatuatedbby (94921)
• United States
7 Apr 16
@shaggin That isn't a good sign, I can see it being hard to adapt to another child/children and accepting as their own - but if he truely loves you, he will accept what you come with - your kids. Kids will be kids, so we have to try to be patient with them. I hope you feel better soon
@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
1 Jul 16
Wow. I didn't know this. I am sorry to hear he wants to leave. Look, not everyone will get along sometimes. But you are a wonderful person and will find someone without a doubt. Again, I am sorry to hear this. I know this is an older post, I hope by now you are feeling much better.
@shaggin (71704)
• United States
1 Jul 16
I thought when he moved out it would be the end of things but I have gone once or twice a week to visit him at his new place. Its 5 miles from my house is all and out in a quiet area in the country. He wanted to continue to see each other so I have. He just got custody of his son and has him now as of 8 days. I have not seem him since and doubt I will anytime soon. I think he will see now that this will not work out but I am just enjoying my summer and trying not to let it get me down.
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
14 Apr 16
Oh I'm sorry to know about this. I hope you can move on as quickly (though it's hard really) and get life moving.
@shaggin (71704)
• United States
14 Apr 16
So far he is still living here. We haven't talked at all about when he is leaving. I have no idea what he his plans are. I assume that he will just one day up and tell him that today is the day you know... until then I just try not to think about it or worry. I don't know what will happen.
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
14 Apr 16
@shaggin Well, I still hope everything will be for the better of you both.
@LovingMyBabies (85125)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Apr 16
I am sorry! I know its hard but maybe it happened because its not meant to be and someone even more amazing is around the corner. You never know. Either way I will keep you in my prayers!
@Hate2Iron (15729)
• Canada
4 Apr 16
I'm really sorry that you are going through this. If it helps at all, I'm sending a boatload of hugs. Hope that the coming days will be better!!
@shaggin (71704)
• United States
4 Apr 16
Thank you very much. My stomach is so sick feeling and I'm cold and shaking. My kids are home now and so I'm trying not to let myself get to upset. I am just worried about how things will be later tonight.
@LeaPea2417 (36783)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Apr 16
I am very sorry to read this. I may sound cheesy to say this (because it is an expression many do say), but I will say it, "this is for the best because someone better will come along". That is my prayer for you.
@shaggin (71704)
• United States
12 Apr 16
I don't know if someone better will come along for sure. We just have no way of knowing things like that. I love him so much and want things to work but whatever happens happens I can't force things. I just want to be happy and hope someday I can feel that way again.
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@MakeMyDollar (129)
• United States
4 Apr 16
Don't let it get you down, just look forward and think of your future, health, kids and having a chance to work things out for yourself!
@shaggin (71704)
• United States
5 Apr 16
I am trying to think that way. If it just isn't going to work out at least the kids and I will have a summer to ourselves and we can go and do whatever we want. I will make it the best darn summer for them. Last year summer was awesome but this one can be even better.
@shaggin (71704)
• United States
4 Apr 16
It hurts so much to think about losing him but it just is never going to work out its obvious. It sucks when you love someone so much and it just doesn't work out. I'm not going to beg him to stay. We will just go our separate ways. My heart will ache for along time but someday I will move on again.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
4 Apr 16
Keep your head high,it`s not my place to say this but it`S the reality, it`s better if he leaves than the 2 of you staying together and making each other miserable.
Some things are not meant to be no matter how hard you fight to make them work.
I'm sorry,you`ll survive this believe me.
@shaggin (71704)
• United States
4 Apr 16
My kids don't like him and his son doesn't want to live here so I think that is the main reason he is moving. Last time when his son didn't want to live here they didn't want to move in and we broke up. It was just as I was getting over that breakup and realizing we weren't meant to be that he stepped back into my life.
