A wonderful thing has happened
By Carol Brown
@blitzfrick (2890)
United States
April 5, 2016 2:02am CST
March 4, 2016
I've been given a book written by my brother. It's an autobiography. The backstory is that I was adopted at age 18months and thus separated from my brother and sister. My brother, sister and I reconnected when I was in junior high school but have now been estranged for many years.
Out of the blue, I recently heard from his daughter, whom I've never met. I made a family ancestors calendar at Redbubble and she found it, and me, there. We emailed fast and furiously for awhile.
She's interested in genealogy, so we've been exchanging information and documents. I've been holding these documents since the late 1990s, just caretaking them and wishing someone in the family was interested in them, because I'm old and would hate for them to be discarded or lost when I die.
In our conversations, she mentioned this autobiography and now she's sent me a copy. I started reading it tonight. It's heartbreaking and informative. It informs me where I got a lot of my inexpicable habits. My adoptive mother personally knew my biological parents and told me some stories, but not very detailed. It's amazing how healing it is to have so many gaps filled in.
Do you know anyone who's been adopted?
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@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
5 Apr 16
@hereandthere Oh yes, she has grown up as part of the family and therefore will always be his daughter and my niece.
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
5 Apr 16
@Asylum the mom was willing to give her up? do mom and daughter still have contact?
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@JamesHxstatic (29410)
• Eugene, Oregon
5 Apr 16
I know one younger person and she has no interest at all in finding her birth mother.
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@Jackalyn (7558)
• Oxford, England
7 Apr 16
@blitzfrick I am so glad you were rescued from that awful start.
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@blitzfrick (2890)
• United States
8 Apr 16
@Jackalyn I constantly thank my lucky stars. My life since then hasn't been easy, many issues. Not to minimize my own troubles, but egad, the life my siblings had to lead I can begin to understand why they would have issues.
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@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
5 Apr 16
Since you reconnect with them in high school, why drift apart again?
Even if all of you leave for other places, there must be phone numbers to call, and cards to send.
I wonder if there is a way for you to meet up with your biological family members.
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@blitzfrick (2890)
• United States
6 Apr 16
Oh yes, contact info exists but I had to search it out on the internet. To reconnect there must be willingness to do so on both sides, which is not the case (I am willing but my brother and sister aren't). I have, in the past 15 years, met other members of my biological family.
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@blitzfrick (2890)
• United States
6 Apr 16
Yes, I'm really enjoying this new person in my life! However, I have no expectations of the estrangement ending because of it; I'm continuing a "wait and see" attitude.
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@Jackalyn (7558)
• Oxford, England
7 Apr 16
@blitzfrick I have a family member who frequently takes offence and throws me out of their life. The rest of the family are waiting for this current phase to pass. It is always about a small imagined slight as far as I can see.
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
7 May 16
No, I don't know anyone that's been adopted. Is that brother still alive? At first I thought you said your birth mother told you stories that you read in that book, but after reading again I see what you said. It's good that the parent's you grew up with knew your birth mom. Did your brother also know her and did he relay more stories about them for you? I'd think he'd have to know them to pinpoint where your habits originated from.
It's good that you finally found family to give our documents to, even though you;re not that old, if you've not had contact with anyone I can see your concern.
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@JamesHxstatic (29410)
• Eugene, Oregon
24 Apr 16
My daughter (27 now) was adopted, two days old, by me and my then wife.
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@blitzfrick (2890)
• United States
25 Apr 16
I totally admire adoptive parents, and social workers too, I must add.
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