Are Men really from Mars???
By cassandra
@Castlerock34 (2255)
Minneapolis, Minnesota
April 6, 2016 12:51pm CST
As always I seem to find myself in any predicament I can get myself into, but this seems to be a reoccurring thing for me. Could be a deep seeded issue I continue to cover up ...who knows
I have noticed from experience and have witnessed many friends go through this but there is a significant difference between men and women..OBVIOUSLY right?
When it come to intimacy men seem to detach faster and easier than women do. Why??
I recently reconnected with a man a met over a year ago because I missed his company and our talks and he finally admitted he has missed me too. He isnt quick to admit feelings but he has always told me he doesn't want any sort of relationship he just is comfortable with being by himself, which isnt abnormal.
He has an army background and is kinda screwed up and none of his relationships have lasted more than 1 year and he is in his mid thirties.
We had a great time the other night and have to admit he gave me what I needed both mentally and physically and I cant get it out of my head. I have sent him short texts and stuff so he doesn't forget about me type of thing and now he says that I am over complicating our night and I have been a little intense since our meet up and that was on Sunday and I spent the night.
Please someone tell me how I am supposed to act and any male insight would be great, well any insight would be great. Ive tried to be the women who acts like she could care less and that seems to do the trick to have them keep calling. This man is a tricky one though because I really do like him since the first day I met him. I know we will never be anything..
So anyone?
***UPDATE****
I just got a text from him saying he was sorry he was so harsh with me earlier and he said we had not talked in months and then we hang out one night and I mention going out to see a movie or dinner.
I just told him this has been a year and a half of us doing this and I dont like doing stuff once a month and want to be consistant..so...
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@TiarasOceanView (70020)
• United States
6 Apr 16
Well I was going to chip in and say create some distance like you dont care less, but since he is tricky..hmm do it anyway..Is he really worth it if he is already saying things like that?
Just my two cents, pay no mind if it doesnt suit.
I just know that if you dont seem to care, they usually do..dont know why really.
Good luck with this Cassandra.
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@Castlerock34 (2255)
• Minneapolis, Minnesota
6 Apr 16
I have no idea whats wrong with me I seem to flock to the damaged and unavailable. I really do enjoy his company but it is not very often since he is so busy. I think I will pretend I could care less and maybe he will contact me. I know I shouldn't be around someone like that because nothing will happen. He gives me something I lack and maybe thats why I am so drawn to him and the fact he is cute doesnt help either. But why do you think women get so attached and men dont?
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@TiarasOceanView (70020)
• United States
6 Apr 16
@Castlerock34 Well at least if he is useful to you, go ahead and enjoy him when you can if you still want to that is. Maybe you may lose interest in him, never know. Sometimes just when you think you are missing them so much, someone else comes along and knocks your socks off lolz
Oh I know, I did that jag for years..wrong guys all the time, still, man, did I have some awesome fun, cant lie about that.
I think men do get attatched, but they act like they dont..once someone told me that men are more ´robotic´ about their attractions..dunno your guess is as good as mine. But you can be just as mysterious as he can be.
Oh I know, I did that jag for years..wrong guys all the time, still, man, did I have some awesome fun, cant lie about that.
I think men do get attatched, but they act like they dont..once someone told me that men are more ´robotic´ about their attractions..dunno your guess is as good as mine. But you can be just as mysterious as he can be.2 people like this
@kevin1877uk (36987)
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6 Apr 16
Myself I can't ever get enough of being with someone, I love all the hugs and kisses and everything else, that is something I totally miss now I'm single.
I think like what Roz is saying below, is he really worth it if he is happy by himself? From what I can see, he will be there one minute gone the next. Down to you what you want and if you want that kind of relationship.
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@kevin1877uk (36987)
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6 Apr 16
@Castlerock34 I know what you mean, one wonderful night is worth a lot. I don't even get one night, no one in my life and like you say it's becomes lonely.
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@Castlerock34 (2255)
• Minneapolis, Minnesota
6 Apr 16
@kevin1877uk It is very lonely but I have lived by myself for at least 3 years now and I have come to terms with it, im not as dependent as I used to be. I like my space most of the time but I miss intimacy very very much and the comments are great. So Its like I go out on 10 5 minute dates with people just to get that attention I crave
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@Castlerock34 (2255)
• Minneapolis, Minnesota
6 Apr 16
I have a messed up way of thinking maybe because I feel so lonley and I think I like the chase. When we are together it feels llike that one night is worth all the other crap the comes with it.
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@antonbunot (11146)
• Calgary, Alberta
7 Apr 16
As far as physical and mental differences between a man and a woman, I believe men are from Mars and women from Venus. 
. . Now with regard to this man you like, since his past relationships did not last more than a year, I suggest you better find another man that longs for a loooonnnnngggg relationship with a woman. You can find one of this kind, who is as attractive and good performer as the man you mentioned in your post.
. . Now with regard to this man you like, since his past relationships did not last more than a year, I suggest you better find another man that longs for a loooonnnnngggg relationship with a woman. You can find one of this kind, who is as attractive and good performer as the man you mentioned in your post.1 person likes this
@Castlerock34 (2255)
• Minneapolis, Minnesota
7 Apr 16
Yes I agree. I know there are more people like him out there. I suppose it doesnt help to leave him when I feel comfortable with him
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
7 Apr 16
He just might be a loner. Or maybe something happened while he was in the army and he can't get over it. Who really knows why people are like they are.
@KuznVinny (768)
• United States
6 Apr 16
I don't have a comment, probably, that would be appreciated. I'm a one-woman man and I didn't spend any nights with her until we wed. Any man can get along with a woman for a while, but if there is no commitment, it can end at any time.
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