Why cheat?

@JMAndres (702)
Zamboanga City, Philippines
April 6, 2016 1:46pm CST
when will you consider a cheat to your partner? If you went on a date? hold hands? had a kiss? or done something intimate? Does falling in love with another person consider a cheat? What if you found someone compatible for you yet you cant leave your partner for whatever reason there is, is cheating an option? I read in a quote that once you cheat your partner you don't love that person anymore and just leave the relationship. What if your in a situation you can't leave your partner (children/health issues) but you don't love that person anymore? is cheating an option? will it still be considered cheating?
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• Minneapolis, Minnesota
6 Apr 16
Its not as cut and dry as that nor is it black and white. Cheating on your spouse is a very tricky thing and so many emotions and feelings get hurt and many peoples heart are involved. I wouldnt recommend doing this, its tough
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@JMAndres (702)
• Zamboanga City, Philippines
6 Apr 16
I am really not at the age of marriage, but with all the things that happens in our society it seems like cheating is something common to do. Not that I agree on cheating. I will really be hurt and mad if my future husband will cheat on me. But how can society realize that it is wrong ever if most of the people are doing it. @@
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• Minneapolis, Minnesota
6 Apr 16
@JMAndres It is so much easier to cheat now with having technology as it is now. Before you had to go out and meet people now its all over the internet and it is much more accessible to cheat.
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@JMAndres (702)
• Zamboanga City, Philippines
6 Apr 16
@Castlerock34 just curious is chatting or texting your ex is considered cheating even if your partner is aware that both of you still communicate with each other? :)
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@Dextoi (1845)
• Philippines
7 Apr 16
People who cheat are not really 'in love'. I think, the love that they 'felt' is not really "love"... I think it's more of infatuation, or puppy love or worst, physical desires...
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@Dextoi (1845)
• Philippines
7 Apr 16
@JMAndres Only time can define what true love is... :) Your post got me thinking, is it a situation you are in?
@JMAndres (702)
• Zamboanga City, Philippines
7 Apr 16
I agree. Because being inlove leads us to become a better version of our self and not doing some degrading act like cheating and justify it into their so called love.
@JMAndres (702)
• Zamboanga City, Philippines
7 Apr 16
@Dextoi No. :) I just wonder about it because last night there was so many post about relationship problems and divorce and I really wonder if cheating is now accepted because many people are doing it. Fortunately it is not. :)
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Apr 16
That changes nothing cheating is vile for goodness sakes tell the mate you want out be honest don't cheat better for the kids not to live a l ie ,if a mate cheats o nce he will aging and two people cheating does not make cheating right.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Apr 16
@JMAndres yes Im glad more people see it wrong l ike I do, I know I would have been devastated had my hubby ev er cheated on me as I love him too pieces but he was alove and was faithful too we were friends Im widowed bt still after many years miss him we had 33 years
@JMAndres (702)
• Zamboanga City, Philippines
7 Apr 16
@Hatley aw I'm sorry to hear that. But I know you had great time together. You're lucky. :) Now a days it is difficult to find someone you can be with who will stay loyal and truthful to you. Still I believe there are still those who can love honestly and be loyal to someone. :)
@JMAndres (702)
• Zamboanga City, Philippines
6 Apr 16
thank you for your insights. I totally agree with you. I really am not in this kind of situation and this thing is too much for my age :) .. I am just wondering what does other people think about cheating. It seems like cheating is now a tradition that mostly everyone practice. Luckily there are still people like you. :)
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@SHOHANA (16096)
• Bangladesh
7 Apr 16
A true lover and an honest person never cheat his/her partner
@JMAndres (702)
• Zamboanga City, Philippines
7 Apr 16
true :) if you love your partner, cheating isn't an option. You can never tell you love that person and yet decided to cheat on them.
@avi256 (8489)
• Pune, India
7 Apr 16
Cheating may have different yardstick for different people. Its really a very tricky thing to generalize it. I think it depends more on intentions and your feelings than your actions.
@Lekaxxx (58)
6 Apr 16
I believe cheating is not acceptable in any case. Sure you'll find other people attractive every now and then but that is not an excuse if you're commited to someone. If you wake up one day and you find you don't love your partner anymore just tell him/her. Is not going to be easy but is definetly the best.
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7 Apr 16
@JMAndres I hope that too, really. It happened to me twice in my life and if affected me deeply, now is hard for me to trust anybody completely. People sometimes don't stop to think on how their actions could affect those around them.
@JMAndres (702)
• Zamboanga City, Philippines
7 Apr 16
@Lekaxxx aw, I'm sorry about that. But I know you became stronger in those experience it is just a shame that building trust now will be much more difficult than before. Cheating really affects the other party. Some will feel degraded about themselves and others won't believe in love anymore. It is a shame that there are really a lot of people who doesn't think before doing the action. :(
@JMAndres (702)
• Zamboanga City, Philippines
7 Apr 16
I totally agree with you. :) I feel that if you just address the root of the problem instead of using other things as reason to validate once action is better. I just hope people will start to realize that cheating isn't ok even though most people are doing it. :)
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@newest1 (295)
7 Apr 16
99.99% are cheaters in the world