HOW TO HANDLE A TEEN CRUSH ON A MIDDLE AGE MAN?
@aryangentleman (1122)
India
November 24, 2006 9:24pm CST
There is a girl of 17 year old who happen to be a daughter of a supervisor working under me. I met her at a party thrown for the employees and their family Lately I have been noticing she keep dropping in my office, giving me call asking my well being and sending flirtatious SMS to me. At first I thought she some teenager who got smitten with aura I carry as I am the Head of the organisation so I entertain her with some conversation when ever she met me(exactly 7 times, twice in the party and five time in my office) or calls me but now her lucid SMS and shaking voice on phone had convinced me she is a teenager who had a crush on me and I realy dont know how to handle her. I dont want to be rude to her as apart my suspicion and once hugging her,were I was uncomfortable when she threw her weight on me, I dont have any confirmation of her intention. Should I ask her father to ask her not to come here or talk to her in fatherly way and put her in the danger of self humiliation. I know how to handle women but this is beyond my grasp.
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4 responses
@mvsrao (4365)
• India
18 Dec 06
you need to talk to the girl regarding her
behaviour . Not to her father at this time.
after talking to the girl , if you strongly
feel that she will be ruining her life ,
and if you are sure about it , then only
you have to talk to her father .
if required , her father has to consult
a councellor ...
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@aryangentleman (1122)
• India
18 Dec 06
No way I dont want the girl to be near me and further I am not sure if I could make any sense to her.
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@aryangentleman (1122)
• India
14 Jan 07
Yes with the help of input here I did resolved the matter. I had a talk with the father of the girl(not a direct talk instead I addressed all senior employees ) and told that my office dosent welcome visit by family members except in emergency and in a party which office threw before new year eve she did come to me and I asked my wife to handle her(I told my wife about her, she was amused). Whatever she not coming to the office and nor I am getting any SMS. So I guess she understood life has much better things to offer to her than me.
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@euniceeleanor (5966)
• Singapore
18 Dec 06
i think that things are getting out of control here! and it's better to talk to her father on your suspicion and said that it's an office by the way, you would not want to see his daughter keep dropping by for no apparent reason. i think you will have to be more firm on this issue and let both the father and daughter know that you mean business. in another way, you will gain respect for not taking advantage of the daughter too. Good Luck!
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@aryangentleman (1122)
• India
18 Dec 06
Yes I was thinking of having a talk with the father and as earlier mentioned I am not sure how to open up with him. What I thinkis a asking my people in official meeting not to entertain family members at office time and except in emergency visits by members will be not be appreciated. And send a SMS to girl that not to visit office or call me as I am not intrested in knowing about her.
@ronita34 (3921)
• Canada
25 Jan 07
You must talk to her do not talk to her father because if you mention this to him it might get under her fathers skin. Just tell her that she is much too young for you and that you do not want her getting the wrong ideas about teh two of you! I am sure that she will understand and is she pursues the amtter further than you may wish to approach her father then!
@aryangentleman (1122)
• India
25 Jan 07
The matter is closed now but talking to the girl was real risky thing she was so infatuated that in her eyes you can see things and further there was a chance that my denial might hurt her badly and she feel humilated and as I earlier said I dont have any idea how to handle a teenager girl who is smitten(I am no Saint could have handled if she been some adult). I told my wife because that was the safest thing to do if she strikes back at me in hurt and anger.
@cutemamabiik (47)
• United States
14 Jan 07
My best suggestion is to speak with her father first. If you talk to her first, she would get upset and might spread nasty rumors about you... unless she's a well mannered girl then there's nothing to worry about. However, it's still better to speak with her father first. Because who knows what will happen when you talk to her first?
@aryangentleman (1122)
• India
14 Jan 07
you are very correct i didnt talked to her instead i approched her father and till now things r fine she isnt comming not calling after getting no response from me.
