Unpopular Opinions
@AnnaAutopsy (705)
United States
May 15, 2016 4:58pm CST
Everyone has a few unpopular opinions, and as for me I am full of them. Most people take them the wrong way, or just too personally. But, do you think it is a good thing to state your opinion honestly when asked to do so? My theory about it is if they didn't want to hear the honest opinion, then they should not have asked. People just get so offended easily these days, it kind of bothers me.
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@Jdaw1985 (3967)
• Harrells, North Carolina
15 May 16
I try to be careful these days when doing this. If it is on here i will be polite and say i am sorry i do not agree with you and this is what i think. I agree with you that if they did not want to know it then why did they ask in the first place.
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@AnnaAutopsy (705)
• United States
15 May 16
Exactly. Most people tend to be polite when they disagree for this exact reason. I just wondered what everyone thought because most people I know don't really be honest about their opinion for the sake of not insulting anyone through disagreement. I guess I grew up where honesty is the best policy and today's world doesn't like that anymore.
@Jdaw1985 (3967)
• Harrells, North Carolina
15 May 16
@AnnaAutopsy You are right. I have found myself if i do not agree with something and i am scared that it might offend someone i will just say i do not have an opinion on it or just not say anything about it.
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@AnnaAutopsy (705)
• United States
15 May 16
I guess that would all depend on the importance of the situation. If the truth needs to be said or not, really depends on what is going on. If it were a bad situation then the truth should be spoken regardless. My point is when people ask for the opinion and then act like we insulted them if we disagree with what they want us to think.
@LittleBrownGirl (11)
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25 Jul 18
It also bad when someone asks for your opinion and then you give them your honest opinion. Then they start freaking out because you told them your opinion on the matter that THEY asked you about.
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@renitaperrone (547)
• United States
15 May 16
I totally get what you are saying. I think it's good to say what you really feel rather than placating people, but I also feel it's important to be sensitive about HOW you say it when you know it could offend someone else. What really irks me, though, is when you have offended someone and instead of telling you what you did to upset them, they just give you the cold shoulder and quit speaking to you. I have someone who has done that. I've asked why but they won't answer. I've said I am sorry for whatever I may have done and they just won't answer. At least TELL me when I've offended so I can make it right. I don't always realize it!
@renitaperrone (547)
• United States
15 May 16
@AnnaAutopsy I agree. And sometimes you just find out they weren't really the friend you thought they were. :( Better to know the truth, but still hurtful.
@AnnaAutopsy (705)
• United States
15 May 16
How you say it does count for a lot, because it can be taken out of context. I have always despised when people would lie just to spare my feelings. It hurts more when someone you trust lies to you. You know? That bothers me too, but I have learned to take it lightly. I just got done saying to someone else how if others deny the truth, then they are living in a lie. Recently, I have been helping a friend of mine anonymously and she's been doing really well. Sometimes all it takes is an outsiders point of view, I guess. But, if they have quit talking to you then they probably just need some time to digest whatever is going on. All you really can do is just apologize and wait for that person to come around again, and if they don't then you know that maybe they just need the time to mature and realize that you weren't trying to offend them.
@AnnaAutopsy (705)
• United States
15 May 16
@renitaperrone Agreed.. At least if you learn that they were not the friend you thought then you can take the negativity out of your life slowly. It does hurt, but in the end it would probably be a good thing. I hope this friend of yours does come back around though, and I'm sorry that this happened.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
16 May 16
I do agree that people do get offended to easily but there are always more appealing ways to state things. So I am honest but rarely brutally honest if you get the difference.
@AnnaAutopsy (705)
• United States
16 May 16
I do, and I agree with it. The problem that I should have stated was that even though people can be polite, they still get offended only because it is not what they wanted to hear.
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
16 May 16
I agree with you but not with your observation that this is a problem of our times. It has always been like that.
When you have an online conversation, you don't see the person you're talking to. Body language and facial expressions are very important to get a message across. So there are more misunderstandings on social media than in real life.
@rubyheart (14)
• Beijing, China
16 May 16
I think it's right to tell your friends your true idea. Coz there must be same same characters among your guys! But, be careful to tell your opinion to others who you didn't get along very well with.In fact,a lot of things are contradictory following with human society development.
