Help! What should I do?

China
November 24, 2006 9:57pm CST
How to get my child have meals willingly? It seems that he is never hungry. He hates having meals. Every time he is asked to have meals, he shows unwillingness.
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13 responses
@sweetie88 (4556)
• Pakistan
25 Nov 06
Its really a serious situation. U should make light foods and give only such things to urs son which he likes to eat. U should say to urs son that we'll go outside when u'll have finished urs food. Give him his favourite things after taking meal.
• China
25 Nov 06
Good idea. I will try.
• China
25 Nov 06
Good idea. I will try.
• United States
25 Nov 06
It could be he isn't hungry. Not every child wants or needs to eat at the times an adult does. His palete is different than yours also, things you like, he may not. So ask him what he likes, of course candy isn't a meal so that's out... Perhaps letting him have more input into what goes on his plate or is prepared for dinner would be of help. Sometimes making eating a contest helps encourage a child to eat especially things they are not fond of...the prize could be staying up an extra five minutes or watching an extra program, or even a trip to the zoo. What is the atmosphere at mealtimes like? Is there tension while you are all at the table? If there is this could make mealtimes unpleasant for him... You didn't say how old your child is that that too can be a factor...children go through 'spurts' where they eat seemingly everything in site and times when they simply aren't interested in food, these periods coincide with 'growth spurts'. It is possible that there is a physical reason for his unwillingness to participate in meals, so I would suggest you have that checked as a precaution. Children are endlessly curious and their minds are always busy, it could be his 'inner life' is so interesting and absorbing that he neglects to realize the needs of his body. You also did not say whether or not he has snacks between meals or if he does how long before the meal. To receive better responses more information is needed.
• China
25 Nov 06
u've given me some good suggestions. Yes, I should have given more information. My son is 7 years old and he doesn't have much snacks. However,I do have some good ideas from your suggestions. Thanks again. Your ideas are of great help.
@binitkedia (1172)
• India
25 Nov 06
dont pressurize ur child let him do what he wants to do
• China
25 Nov 06
I agree it's human nature. Sometimes I do feel angry and almost beat him. I accept your advice. Thanks, I will keep your advice in mind.
@emarie (5442)
• United States
25 Nov 06
how old is he? i know my son, when he drinks too much milk he doesn't want to eat. i keep offering him his meals, find something he really likes eating, he's eventually going to eat something, his body will want to.
• China
25 Nov 06
Nice. You are successful.
@polachicago (18716)
• United States
25 Nov 06
I bet he likes sweets. Cut his sugar consumption first. Do not forse him to eat. Make sure all familly cut on sugar too.
• China
25 Nov 06
Thanks. I will do that way.
@not4me (1711)
• United States
25 Nov 06
It depends on the child's age but assuming he is a young toddler, just keep him away from snacks or feed him only healthy snacks like fruit so when he doesn't eat his dinner you know he's getting some good nutrition in throughout the day. You can also give him a nutritional supplement drink as a snack which is loaded with vitamins. If your situation is so bad that he stops gaining weight then take him to a doctor.
• China
25 Nov 06
Thank you very much. It's very kind of u to help me.
• United States
25 Nov 06
Have your child participate in the planning and preparation of the meal. Kids love to cook and help out in the kitchen.
• Bangladesh
25 Nov 06
that is very sad.
@stvasile (7306)
• Romania
25 Nov 06
I belive you should give him treats, but only after finishing the meal. Something good, something he can't refuse...
• United States
25 Nov 06
my little cousin who I take care of does that, So i give him fruit and veggies all day
• China
25 Nov 06
So we are facing the same problem. Thanks for sharing.
@desiret (2117)
• Italy
25 Nov 06
this is a big problem... maybe you can try to give him only his favourite meal... then you can try to introduce other food! but to be honest i don't know exactly, since my 2 daughters eat everything!
@yugi_sen (1741)
• India
25 Nov 06
I would recommend 2 phases. Use a tonic to increase your childs appitate and then try preparing food of his interest and slowly add the nutritious value to it.
• China
25 Nov 06
Thanks for your kindness!
@medooley (1873)
• United States
25 Nov 06
This is what I would advise. Make the meal that you and your family is going to eat. If he eats it, he eats it. But if he doesn't he gets nothing else. He will eat when he gets hungry. And he wont do anything to hurt him, its human nature.
• China
25 Nov 06
Thanks your advice.