How do you deal with loneliness?
@unisa000 (67)
May 27, 2016 5:35am CST
I live alone in this big city. Renting a small space for myself. Been living alone for over a year and it feels so lonely a lot of times. I do have some few friends to talk to but when the bed is calling, I am there again, alone.
Most of the time I go out and buy some beer to help me sleep and forget about this loneliness. It is just too hard to battle this loneliness and depression. I know prayer doesn't work. Done that many times.
What about you guys, specially those living alone, how do you battle the loneliness?
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@unisa000 (67)
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27 May 16
I do that a lot but I still feel lonely after. Because a lot of times I feel like I don't fit with talking to some few friends. You know the feeling of you are in the group but you don't fit there. That weird feeling.
@youless (112131)
• Guangzhou, China
27 May 16
Perhaps you can think for the positive way, being lonely is not so sad all the time. At least you can enjoy the time and do whatever you like and nobody will bother you. Once you get married and have children, you will know how precious to be alone
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@Bluerain25 (812)
• Philippines
27 May 16
It really depends on you on how you live your life. I used to do that several years ago before I have my little boy with me. Ok so i have two kids 1 girl the eldest but stays with my parents ever since she is a 6 months baby due to my works nature. The time I got assigned to one place she is already around 5 and is already going to school and get very much attached to her grandma so she refused to stay with me during school days but agreed to be with me on summer breaks. What I did when I get home just turn the music on and get ready to sleep and I do not find it hard to sleep. On times that I do not have office, I do some gardening, cleaning inside and outside the house, or just did anything that could kill the boredom.
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@GreatMartin (23675)
• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
28 May 16
I decided 40 years ago--yes 40--that I am better off living alone! I have never regretted that decision. Because I live alone does not mean I am lonely! I have too much to do like just look at the wonder of Mother Nature--make and keep friends which takes time and a giving on your part--I read--I write--lately I am making a collage for the first and it is a disaster but it is fun--there is a whole world out there to explore--volunteer in homeless kitchens, libraries, helping people, visiting senior centers, etc. People NEED you to make their life better and in most cases just want someone to listen to them.
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@unisa000 (67)
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28 May 16
Wow I salute you for that Mr. It's only been a year that I am single and I cannot take it. I feel lonely no matter what I do.
@rina110383 (24495)
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27 May 16
Like you, I also rent a place in a big city. I've been living alone for more than 5 years. I never felt lonely. I've always been a happy loner/introvert/anti-social. I make myself busy by working a lot, doing my chores, reading, buying my necessities, etc. I have no time to think of "being alone" because by the time I'm done with work, I'm already tired and I immediately sleep.
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@unisa000 (67)
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27 May 16
Wow 5 years and you never get lonely. Maybe I have to hang on with this life. It's not been long since I live alone so this living condition is a learning experience. I should try your way and hopefully it will help me. I will keep your ways in my mind.
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@cmoneyspinner (9221)
• Austin, Texas
28 May 16
Just because you live alone doesn't mean you're lonely. But if you say you're lonely, then you must equate “your loneliness” to something in your life that's “missing”. Figure out what's missing and fill the void. “Feel the rain on your skin. No one else can do it for you.” I think those are lyrics from an Avril Lavigne song. Anyway I think you get what I'm saying.
@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
28 May 16
I lived alone for 6 years but was not lonely, I'm now married so I'm not alone but i do get lonely. I have issues so l rarely leave the house apart from going to work.
I have accepted things and this makes it easier to deal with.And no, i don`t have depression.I chose not to have social life
@Dramista (543)
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29 May 16
Its ironic that a city so big would make someone feel so alone.
Loneliness is a feeling we all go through.
I know that going out and having fun may distract you from the feeling but the loneliness returns after the party is over, right?
I suggest having some other purpose in life aside from work,partying and drinking.
I'm not taking about joining some religious group or anything but I want you to find your own meaning in life and live it.
I think your loneliness stems from lacking a purpose.
Hope my suggestion helps:)
