Do you think a girl and guy can be just best friends?

May 28, 2016 2:35am CST
I have always wondered if a girl and a guy who are best friends can remain so throughout without one of them developing feelings for the other. While I'm not saying this is true in every single case, most people(around 90%) that I've known have eventually become a couple. That includes me!! Most of the times, they end up liking each other or atleast one of them does! I have phases where I believe that it is possible for them to just best friends, but at other times, I've almost treated it like a myth! What do you think? Have you ever had a best friend you've had a thing for?
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@Pankhini (485)
28 May 16
Well it is not difficult initially to be friends... but high chances to for them to turn into couples iventually... I know a girl and a boy were very good friends and all were thinking that they would be a couple... but they got settled with some other persons and they are still good friends...
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28 May 16
Yeah . That's a very true observation.
• Xian, China
28 May 16
What's wrong whit them? why are they only be friends eventually?
@stephjoy (759)
• Philippines
28 May 16
Yes the woman and a man can be best friends eventually after their long years been bestfriends they could have feelings from each other..only 10% would not pursue as boyfriends and girlfriend
28 May 16
Yes. That observation seems to be similar to mine because even I've noticed that very few people don't pursue these relationships
@stephjoy (759)
• Philippines
28 May 16
@Curlybobby yeah thats right..I have a bestfriend which is a boy. But we never be a lover. I dont know why.maybe because hes not my type.and im not his type also to be lover
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• Xian, China
28 May 16
@stephjoy Why don't you have a deep talking with your male friend about your feelings?
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@allen0187 (58448)
• Philippines
28 May 16
I think it is possible for a guy and a girl to remain friends and not be romantically involved.
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@allen0187 (58448)
• Philippines
29 May 16
@Curlybobby I really don't think so.
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29 May 16
@allen0187 While I wouldn't exactly be as hard-line as you.. I do agree to the extent that it is very possible for a girl and guy who are best friends to remain so throughout.
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28 May 16
What about when they're really close friends. Almost like a best friend. Don't you think dynamics may change then?
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@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
28 May 16
I have had several male best friends that remained friends until now. So I know it's not a myth and it's not because I'm unattractive either lol. We just had a rule that we shouldn't fall for each other or we won't be friends anymore.
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• Xian, China
28 May 16
So, can I conceive it that you would not develop a relationship with your male friend in order to be friends forever, even naturally ?
@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
28 May 16
@transcendent yes you can. because all of them are already married and so am I. And we are all happy as friends even back then telling each other who we wanted to marry. We still keep in touch and drink once in awhile and talk about how we missed our past single lives.
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@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
28 May 16
@transcendent ever since I was a kid I always get along with the boys.
@Ianist (278)
• Indonesia
28 May 16
I had one like that. We were quite close and liked each other, but in the end we didn't hook up. now we dont meet as often as before because of graduating highschool, but when we actually meet we can still talk of a lot of things.
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28 May 16
Ohh. Those friendships have their own sweet things abt them. So what if you didn't get together? It's a p pretty beautiful feeling to have experienced. In fact it may sound weird but I miss tje time when my bf and I were just good friends. That has a different feel to it altogether!
• Xian, China
28 May 16
So do you feel pity about this?
@Ianist (278)
• Indonesia
28 May 16
@Curlybobby yeah I kinda miss those time. Not that I still want to be with her, but it was just a fun time
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@shamish (202)
30 May 16
They can be only friends.
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31 May 16
Yes. It is quite possible. But more often than not, they seem to develop feelings for their best friend.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
31 May 16
Yes it is very possible to have just friendly relationship between man and woman. I have few good friends who are males.
@Shavkat (135950)
• Philippines
28 May 16
It depends on situations. But they can be BFF.
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@Yar_Joey (3271)
• Philippines
29 May 16
I believe that is possible. There is a platonic love anyway, so it is possible
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@JustBhem (70601)
• Davao, Philippines
29 May 16
Me and the boyfriend started as friends. We are friends for almost 10 years. Then feelings change and now we are in our 6 years and 5 months of being together.
@Amel94 (1741)
• Serbia
28 May 16
That is very usual, guy and girl try to be best friends but some day they just admit each other that they got a crush both. But I think that those couples can last long because if they did not lost their friendship they can keep their relationship even better. Friendship is very important part of relationship. I personally never had female besties, but my girlfriend is like best friend for me, we perfectly understand each other. We do not act just like couple all the time. And answer is maybe, I don't know, but girl and guy to be best friends for a long time it is almost impossible.
28 May 16
It's great to hear this about your girlfriend! I mean the best thing that can happen in a relationship is that you start treating your partner like your best friend! It's actually quite beautiful. And I do feel the same way sometimes about girl and guy best friends..
@buzzg3 (230)
28 May 16
It all depends on so many factors. I always feel that friendship is the best relationship shared by any two beings. If friendship be the base for any relationship..be it...parent child...siblings...husband- wife...then the relationship is a sure winner. So a boy and a gal being just friends is possible. And if it grows into a life long relationship why not
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28 May 16
That is indeed a very nice response! Thank you!! ??
@Dramista (543)
29 May 16
I do however they can not experience the greatest form of female and male bonding :)
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