Meeting biological family

@nixxi76 (3191)
Canada
June 4, 2016 11:10am CST
I met my biological sister about six years ago. Since then, she has filled my life with love. There's quite an age gap between us of 16 years but we have so much in common. We both have the same quarky styles when it comes to fashion and basically she's a younger version of me! When my husband and I got married last September I asked her to be a bridesmaid for our wedding and she happily accepted. I thought she was a very important person and one of my best friends and it was indeed a great idea. There's still one part of the picture that we're missing... our biological brother who we know somethings about but not everything. Back in 2002 I met our biological mother and realized where my sister and I genetically got our anxiety and depression from. Our mother spend a percentage of her life in mental institutions. One night my sister and I were on the phone and decided to look up our mother's phone number and we found it for my sister. She called our mother and they set up a time to meet. Our mother kept giving excuses after excuses why she couldn't meet up with my sister. My sister received a letter from the adoption agency to basically leave our mother alone from now on. My sister was devastated. I tried my best to reassure that she wasn't missing anything and filled her in on all our mother's issues. My sister wasn't giving up. She looked for her biological father and found him and met him and found out a lot more about our mother. I asked my sister if she could find out about who my biological father was but she mentioned that her father had no idea who he was. I was the oldest child who our mother gave up for adoption at a young age. Our mother then had our brother (who we're searching for still) but our grandmother brought him up and took care of him. Then she had my sister who she also gave up for adoption. Meeting my biological mother didn't change my life in anyway, but meeting my sister sure has! I love her Are you adopted? What's your experience?
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@MGjhaud (23099)
• Philippines
5 Jun 16
i feel sad for your sister when your mom denied to see her. im glad you both are getting along very well. i hope you get to see your brother soon too.
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@MGjhaud (23099)
• Philippines
6 Jun 16
im sorry it happened.. i wish you and your sister a long lasting happiness.
@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
6 Jun 16
Yes that was very difficult for my sister when our mother did that to her but I always reassure her that I'm here for her and tell her that maybe it would be a bad reason somehow if that were to happen. The last time I was suppose to see our mother was back in 2002 when she invited me over and I went but she didn't answer the door. It was heartbreaking because we had got together a few times prior and I thought things were okay
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@marlina (154166)
• Canada
4 Jun 16
No, I am not adopted and I am child #6 in your family, the baby.
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
4 Jun 16
I am not adopted but have know people who are. One of my dear friends had 2 sisters and a brother all by different fathers, they do communicate (the siblings) and are very close. The mother once left one of the girls at 2 years old down by the river all by herself, if not for someone coming along and seeing this child she would have drowned. The mother finally had the children taken away and they grew up in some foster homes.
@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
6 Jun 16
That's horrible and I feel bad for those children. Actually there was a story on the news late last year about a two year old left for ten minutes outside and devastatingly the child did take off and ended up in a creek and they found his little body :(
@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
6 Jun 16
@nixxi76 Isn't that just the most horrible thing to happen to a child.
@piya84 (2581)
• India
7 Jun 16
your sister is lucky she got you. I hope you find your brother. I dont know anyone close enough who is adopted.But i can understand desire to get connected with your biological parents,to want to know why you were left like that for adoption. If you are getting depression try to join gym or yoga.Esp yoga works best on these mind related problems.
@jaboUK (64362)
• United Kingdom
4 Jun 16
I've read that meeting your biological relatives (if you are adopted) is not always a happy experience, so I found this interesting. At least you have found someone that you can love, and I hope that she is always in your life now.
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@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
6 Jun 16
When I met my sister it was one of the best days of my life! Yes I heard many horror stories and bad experiences about adoptees meeting, but my sister and I since we've met, have always been on a positive note, I feel like I can share personal things with her and she feels the same way of me... there was an instant trust with us and love. It's truly unbelievable how when I look at her baby pictures how we look very much alike!
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