Love hurts

@Sharon38 (1912)
Jamaica
June 14, 2016 8:48am CST
I have been through a situation where I have been loving this man for over 11 years. I love him so much and then when he one again turned to me declaring his love I was thrilled. However common courtesy as responding to a call to confirm a date was not acknowledged and I had to let him go. I still love him and will always do but if communication, respect and trust are the key ingredients why did he not respond to my calls and watsapp voice notes to confirm? I saw this as blatant disrespect and calmly told him so. I further asked him to leave me alone as I was quite happy knowing that I loved him and burried in deep. He came and declared his love for me and woke up that which was sleeping and I was so happy knowing that he was interested in me. I am convinced that he does not love me and I was just someone who boosted his ego when a relationship he is in goes sour. Let me have your views. Was I do hard on him? Did I do right to protect myself? Remember its not the first time he has done it. He has overlooked me before and went to other women who were more physically attractive than I, had money and dressed better than I. I am just a little Secretary trying to make a life for myself and my child with God's help. Yes am lonely at times but not too lonely to allow a man to exploit my feelings because I love him. Your views on the situation please. Know that I will always love this man because I just do but he never took time out to get to know me while I know a lot more about him than he realizes.
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@1hopefulman (45125)
• Canada
22 Jun 16
It seems to be as you say: "I am convinced that he does not love me and I was just someone who boosted his ego when a relationship he is in goes sour."
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@Sharon38 (1912)
• Jamaica
22 Jun 16
yep thats what I saw and believed in my heart.. just have to move on
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@Sharon38 (1912)
• Jamaica
24 Jun 16
@1hopefulman I am sorry to hear that happened to you. I guess we just have to be careful
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@1hopefulman (45125)
• Canada
24 Jun 16
@Sharon38 Such individuals can only hurt another person as they are very selfish and go whichever direction is best for them and they don't care how much they hurt others. I was hurt so badly and I have been alone for 17 years. I have a hard time trusting people (women). I have friends (women) but none that I would want to be in a relationship with.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
6 Jul 16
WOW!! for over 11 years you love this man who don't love you back? .. My lady, you deserve much better than what you are giving yourself ..You are not "just a little secretary" .. It's an honest job and you ought to be proud that you are working hard for you and your son ..
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@Sharon38 (1912)
• Jamaica
6 Jul 16
Actually i have a daughter. I think the case with him is that he does not really know what he wants so he keeps looking over and about when I am right here. Well its his loss if he cant understand that I am the good thing for him from God. May be it is when someone else gets me he will realise.. it is easy to love but to continue to love someone as I do is not really hard...the love is just there and never leaves
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@Sharon38 (1912)
• Jamaica
7 Jul 16
@epiffanie Thank you.. we cant give up hope
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
7 Jul 16
@Sharon38 oh you are lucky to have a daughter! .. I hope you meet the right man for you who will show your daughter how a man loves a woman .. so that it helps her in how to choose the kind of a man to love someday.. all the best ..
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@hostessman (11871)
• Tucson, Arizona
14 Jun 16
f he comes and goes and sees other women you need to dump him and find someone newi
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@Sharon38 (1912)
• Jamaica
14 Jun 16
I agree thats why I told him to leave me alone.. he is not interested in me but somehow I boost his ego when things dont work out with whomever he is seeing. I am good and thanks for the advice.
@SHOHANA (16096)
• Bangladesh
14 Jun 16
Its better to love after getting married.
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@Sharon38 (1912)
• Jamaica
14 Jun 16
Thats a new view but likeable
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@SHOHANA (16096)
• Bangladesh
14 Jun 16
@Sharon38 its an old view here but for some may found it new.
@Sharon38 (1912)
• Jamaica
14 Jun 16
@SHOHANA I am hearing it for the first time and it does make sense
@just4him (303392)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
22 Jun 16
If he doesn't respect you, then you did right in letting him go. You would only be hurt more in the end.
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@Sharon38 (1912)
• Jamaica
22 Jun 16
That is what I believe. However it seems my telling him to leave me alone caused him to re-evaluate because now he is saying that he longs to see me and is making arrangements, As for me I plan to just relax and wait, watching him because I am thru with the foolishness, Time is too short to play games and these types of games are for teenagers!
@just4him (303392)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
22 Jun 16
@Sharon38 Yes they are. He's playing you. I'm glad you're not falling for it.