The wife of my son's father is making friends with me

@blinjk (617)
United States
July 12, 2016 2:21am CST
The father of my son and I are not really in good terms.We are not talking to each other anymore for about 12 years now and I am good with that. But one day I received a private message in facebook and it was a girl and she was telling to me that she is the wife of the father of my son.Well,that's good to know that he married someone already and his wife is always talking to me about my son and keeps on messaging me on fb.I always reply to her to let her know that I am okay in being friends with her but I am still not that close to her.I really don't feel awkward talking to her maybe it is right to talk to her.Just sharing this.
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@shivamani10 (11038)
• Hyderabad, India
12 Jul 16
better you avoid her..
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@blinjk (617)
• United States
12 Jul 16
Most of my friends told me to stay away from her.I think it is still right to respond to her.She said that she just want my son to know that he will have a brother.
@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
12 Jul 16
Why do you think so? Can you explain?
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12 Jul 16
I am not clear about her intention, is it just a friendship or something else she is looking for? It is quite possible that she is not happy with him ( your son's father), that's why she wants to share some things with you, maybe she feels comfortable, discussing things with you because you also know him better.
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@blinjk (617)
• United States
12 Jul 16
She know him well and she loves him very much.I can tell because she is really proud about him.
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@blinjk (617)
• United States
13 Jul 16
@Manishankarroy thanks for the concern.I will be careful.They are just sending message to me and we are far from each.
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13 Jul 16
@blinjk Ok, If that is the case, before being more intimate friends, you be careful about her intentions.
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• India
12 Jul 16
As far as you have good intentions & look out for each other, there is a win win situation for everyone involved.
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@blinjk (617)
• United States
12 Jul 16
Of course I have a good intention.I just want to be in good terms with them and I guess you are right.
@Shavkat (137202)
• Philippines
12 Jul 16
For some occasion, we can consider it to make friends with the enemy. But this point of time, I think it is fine to make friends with her. However, we need to be careful. We don't know what's her real intentions on you. I am not being paranoid. I am just saying.
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@blinjk (617)
• United States
12 Jul 16
I really don't see her as my enemy and I really like to be in good terms with them.At first,I felt that she have a bad intention before but no.She even apologized to me because we have some petty fight before.All I can say is that she's a good person and I am happy for the both of them.
• Philippines
12 Jul 16
how come your not in good terms with him? well, nothing wrong with being friends with her. At least there is some connection there.
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@blinjk (617)
• United States
12 Jul 16
We always argue before because he doesn't support his son but we are fine now at least he is talking to me.I don't expect him to support my son anymore because I know that he really can't do that most specially now that his wife is pregnant.
12 Jul 16
Maybe she's lonely and needs a friend to talk to. She sounds sincere. Is she? Just hope that what separated you and your ex-husband would not happen to them. Your 12-year old son, how is he? Such a tender age who needs all the happiness and security of a home must provide.
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@blinjk (617)
• United States
12 Jul 16
My son is doing fine and I don't get why he really can't accept his father.I always encourage him to talk to him but he doesn't want to do that.But I think his wife is sincere.Her husband is also chatting with me right now using her account, and I guess it is a good thing.
12 Jul 16
@blinjk Many children of young impressionable age can't see their fathers as their heroes and model. I hope your ex-husband will see and understand his father-role and be best friend to his son before other lawless influences win his son's heart over. God forbid!
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
12 Jul 16
There's nothing wrong talking to her at all. It's good that you are friends and civil to each other. I hate dramas and it's good to know you can talk to her.
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@blinjk (617)
• United States
12 Jul 16
I really don't have any bad feelings about her and her husband so maybe it is good that I have to talk to them.Thanks for your comment.
• Asaba, Nigeria
12 Jul 16
in as much as she meant no harm, there is nothing wrong in being friends with her.
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