Differentiating the admiration and being in love

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My hubby and I always talk about our past, only to find out and he told me that the reason he courted me and do different ways on how I can be his girlfriend is that because he felt that I admire his friend, in which later on I admit that fact on him when I was already committed with him during the relationship. This is actually surprising of me that how come he should do that so fast or urgently just because I admire his friend. He told me that anything can still happen what if we were dating already without his knowledge and what if the person I admire appreciated me as well or he might be courting me. I confirmed it to him that his friend never shown any interest for me that is obvious. More so I just explained that I only admire his friend or in other terms I appreciate him for some reason but not to the extent that I became in love already whereas I only saw him just 5 days for me to recognize him as a person. I have no interest as well that my admiration would gone that far. I just don't see myself having relationship with that guy. I also remember the time when hubby and I were just still friends, he kept on asking me if who is the person I admire, and if I want he can help me to do ways that we can be more close to the extent that we will be lovers. I told him so that thing never came to my mind. I don't want to force myself into a person that I know he has no interest for me at all. When my hubby's friend knew that we are already in relationship they were surprised too and even asked him if if isn't that the guy that I want is different which was their common friend? My hubby told them that I never confess it to him who it was when he is courting me already. My point here is why should they assume that if I just admire the guy then it is automatically that I want to commit relationship to that guy just because I like that guy? Isn't that the focus first must be in just admiration? I told my husband too that the reason that I never thought of being in love whit his friend is that because he has also a personality that he tend to be so emotional person and that is so strong because we might clash to each other. I cannot imagine too. I also told my husband that I want to be objective when loving a person and if I want commitment, I don't want to enter relationship or even attempt to have relationship to that guy just because I admire him. I have other things to consider before entering relationship. I also have to consider if our feelings is mutual. And this is how I really differentiate admiration and love.