My mother continuously monitor me and Its so annoying
By piya84
@piya84 (2581)
India
August 31, 2016 6:13am CST
I recently move in with my mother because my husband is in another city and I am pregnant.In one way its delightful.She makes me feel safe and secure.She often cooks dishes I like.Also she does majority household chores so I can take ample rest.She gives me company for morning ,evening walk.
On other hand its annoying.she continuously monitors me. Gives me lecture how i should behave when pregnant.How I should not sit infront of computer long.How should read and see positive things only.She wont allow me watch horror movies,action movies because its bad for baby.I am only allow to watch comedy movies.Sometime its get so annoying that i want to pull my hair.I was just in kitchen to look for snacks and there she comes to tell me eat apple instead of anything oily.
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@skysnap (20154)
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31 Aug 16
on the other hand she is right too. whatever your mind consumes now will be part of childs hardwiring in future. for example you watching some content on internet , tv and even reading newspaper will hardwire your child. so it's natural that she is looking after that part. atleast you have such mother who pays attention to such. not many modern cultured mothers are that caring these days.
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
31 Aug 16
Your mother loves and cares for you. So you are in her house? If yes there is not much you can do, if you are in your own house, that's another story.
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@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
31 Aug 16
I guess it is normal for grandmothers to do that.They just want to make sure that you will have a healthy pregnancy so they are a bit paranoid. Just remember that she loves you too much that is why she is like that.
@piya84 (2581)
• India
31 Aug 16
Venting on this sites makes me calm down.
yes you are right.
Does that happened to you too?
Do you have children?
yes you are right.
Does that happened to you too?
Do you have children?@piya84 (2581)
• India
31 Aug 16
@lealuvy2j
Good luck.It happens when you list expect it.So dont take stress.It will happen when time is right.
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@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
31 Aug 16
@piya84 I don't have children yet but my husband and I have been trying to conceive this past year. Hopefully, we would be blessed with a child for this year. Wish us Luck.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
31 Aug 16
When we move back home it is normal for mother's to get bossy, she loves you. It will end soon enough. Enjoy being with her.
@piya84 (2581)
• India
1 Sep 16
@BelleStarr he/she is then going to vent on mylot about it.
he/she is then going to vent on mylot about it.1 person likes this
@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
1 Sep 16
@piya84 I am a mother so I know, and soon you will be a mother and be the same way with your child. It is universal!!
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@paritosh36118 (140)
• New Delhi, India
31 Aug 16
@piya84 congratulations to you! Also, without taking any sides, I would like to say that your mother is concerned about you; and is giving you advice based on her own and life experience. Compared to how much she is making it comfortable for you, I guess you should let the frustration go somehow. Good luck and God bless. :-)
@paritosh36118 (140)
• New Delhi, India
31 Aug 16
@piya84 yes of course. That's true. It can get very irritating.
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@Cmackk (253)
• Cleveland, Ohio
8 Sep 16
It can be crazy sometimes , but I'm sure she only wants to help u know us moms can be over protected a lil lol I told my daughter if she was ever to get pregnant she cant move out to I know for sure she won't struggle with the baby ... good luck hope everything goes well
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
7 Sep 16
I don't mean to sound patronizing but I feel you somehow. I currently stay with my soon-to-be in laws. And yes, from time to time they meddle into things that I otherwise would have wanted to handle myself. They start getting into your case, approve or nay-say on things which can be very frustrating sometimes. However, one thing I learned is that, parents will beat you by experience and yes, some of their inputs are actually nuggets of gold. A bit of humility in accepting criticisms and suggestions and openmindedness, you will find that there's more good than harm into what they are doing. It can be annoying and by all means you have the right to be annoyed (just don't show it), but think of it as something temporary. It is only till you give birth. However, I strongly suggest that you find your own place once the child is born. Otherwise, they will start meddling into how you raise a child as well. It's good to have parents to run to for advice, but it's another story when they're there 24/7 and their ways clash with your ways. A child must see consistency otherwise, he/she will be poorly guided.
