Does age matter in relationships?
@nilesh1s (67)
Rajkot, India
September 9, 2016 6:48am CST
This afternoon i was watching "An Education" a real life event based movie. It Portrayed a beautiful romantic story of a couple with great age disparity.
A school girl falls in love with a man in his 40's and the rest is poetry in motion, picture perfect.
So i thought this can be a great topic for discussion.
what do you say...
can age disparity be a big boulder/hurdle on relationship? or is it just a test challenging the bond between you and your partner?
Don't forget to make your opinion count.....
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12 responses
@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
9 Sep 16
I think it depends on the individuals and their maturity levels. It may work for some but not for others. I have a niece who is over 20 years younger then her husband and they get along great. They have been together for many years now and have a strong relationship. My daughter is living with a man who has a daughter the same age as her. There is almost 20 years age difference. She has always dated men her age in the past and it never worked. She is happier now then she has ever been. She has always been very mature for age so this relationship suits her well. I think age is just a number really.
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@nilesh1s (67)
• Rajkot, India
9 Sep 16
hmm that's perfect, exactly the response i was looking for. Also don't you think society and the mentality of the people around you plays a crucial role? To elaborate, i mean for instance in an orthodox society with narrow minded people i guess the very feeling of awkwardness will put undue pressure on the budding relationship and it may never reach that level.
good to know about your relatives, it's really difficult to find the perfect match.
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@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
9 Sep 16
@nilesh1s I get what you are saying but I have always been of the belief that you have to live life for you and what makes you happy. There will always be narrow minded people who will frown on such relationships or anything for that matter but you can not let those people decide who you love and who you want to spend the rest of your life with. It is your life to do as you choose you don't need the approval of anybody else.
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@ms1864 (6886)
• Bangalore, India
9 Sep 16
Age doesn't matter but there are factors within that age difference that might. I know people might say maturity and love is key, but taking the example that you have given, a school girl will NOT in any case have the maturity to be with a 40 year old man. It is a romantic notion but not practical in reality. There are things in life that we learn with age....someone in their 20's will have very different expectations for their future than say a person in their 50's.
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@crafty01 (480)
• Jamshedpur, India
12 Sep 16
I agree with you,if I have to look at LOVE as one of the component of life, and we can look as if we are all are completely disorientated with our ambitions, pride , authority etc because the BEATING HEART within use becomes highly active and attains supernatural powers the moment one is in the state of love, in this case practicality has no role to play.
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@nilesh1s (67)
• Rajkot, India
9 Sep 16
Absolutely, there are no general answers and our opinions differ more or less but that is why discussions are so amusing and entertaining.
yup, maturity is an important aspect, anything else you would like to add?
@arintellect007 (533)
• Kolkata, India
9 Sep 16
If its a fake one then it matters seriously,but if its a true one,then, it will never going to matter.True Love,i guess,is beyond anything & everything.
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@nilesh1s (67)
• Rajkot, India
9 Sep 16
yeah! love is the binding agent but there are more aspects in a relationship too, do you believe only love can sustain the bond in-spite of all the odds?
@princemaxp (2027)
• Bhubaneshwar, India
9 Sep 16
Nothing can stand in front of Love......but in some society it is different, age can become a hurdle especially age of a female.
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@nilesh1s (67)
• Rajkot, India
9 Sep 16
I completely understand what you are referring to.there are times when you selflessly let go your partner, for his/her/family's reputation/image in this "let's poke nose" society.
although as aforementioned in the discussion, you have to live for yourself and you need not prove whatever you do is apt/legit to any third person.
thanks for your opinion, it was really straight forward and honest.
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@ria1606roy (2797)
• Kolkata, India
9 Sep 16
People who can make it work despite personal and social obstructions....then its okay. Most of the time, the humongous age difference brings different perspectives and maturity levels in living life and creating relations, and those views more often than not, clash. It may be a hurdle or may be very smooth, it all depends on how the two people handle it.
@ourlot (982)
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22 Sep 16
In many cases girls date a way older man (20 years difference) because they have some issues of their own. They feel insecure or inappropriate, or admire something they could not become. Or are pissed off with their past boyfriends.
They should also do the math, and recognize that they will have 20 years of healthy life when they partner goes to a nursing home. And they would be at a terrible age (60+) to go find a new partner.
@shaheena11 (375)
• India
9 Sep 16
I really feel whatever age difference the couple have....the relationship will never go without a fight, discussion, adjustment, love, care, concern....it is normal and I don't think any thing can change this...not age...not status...not education...nothing!
If Two imperfect people tend to make a relation to accept each other's imperfections and lead a simple comfortable life...then that's it...it's FOREVER
@EMbakes (1142)
• Philippines
9 Sep 16
I don't think age matters in a relationship, but the level of maturity does. 
@crafty01 (480)
• Jamshedpur, India
12 Sep 16
There is a clear difference between desire to be loved and the state of being in love. Love is divine, its pure, the effect is sublime, when a couple is in love its initiates a cyclic order of emotional dependence, Very few ones are lucky to go through or glide in that state of love, I declare age is just a barrier, bodies will perish at some point of time but love will stay for eternity.
