I&#39;m not sure that I&#39;m doing this right..

@Hanyouyomi (2186)

• Dallas, Texas

20 Sep 16

@teamfreak16 Yeah that crossed my mind earlier, because speaking from experience when I'm not looking for signs of hope and optimism in this literally God Forsaken world, I tend to meet some interesting people. That's how I met my upperclassman who I missed the opportunity of dating. I wasn't actiely looking for a girl like her, and yet out of nowhere we ended up meeting as she came off as weird as I was. But to even get that lucky again I'mma need to venture oyut again, hich is why I'm hoping to get a job in the next few weeks with the aid of a program I signed up for so I get back to living my outgoing geeky life of movies, Metal Concerts and comic-book/anime conventions. That and I've got books to sell.

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Linda Cann Pearson

@LindaCPearson (2240)

• United States

28 Sep 16

I think you should get working on this! You may need to kiss many girls before you find the right one.

Linda Cann Pearson

@LindaCPearson (2240)

• United States

28 Sep 16

@Hanyouyomi Good luck with everything.

@Hanyouyomi (2186)

• Dallas, Texas

29 Sep 16

@LindaCPearson Thanks for the vote of confidence, especially since I turn 28 tomorrow. That was the same age my dad was whe he was dating my mom. And given what I plan to do in the next few months in terms of getting a job and finally moving out of my parents' apartment, lord knows what's in store for me during that time...? -_-

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@Hanyouyomi (2186)

• Dallas, Texas

28 Sep 16

@LindaCPearson I suppose, I mean I haven't actually kissed a girl in eighteen years. Most of the girls I've met after highschool were in online chatrooms, and I had a few chances along the way admittedly while I was in high school, but didn't take them. Might've been for the best really... Though I've gotta keep my standards hidden, as I know how some people think. If you have something desireable, people will do whatever they can to win your good graces until they get what they want. My sister's like that, which is in part how I know. Thankfully I'm a stereotypical adult geek living with his prents, so merely my ambitions alone don't make me a good catch. But given what I'm doing to better my situation and accomplish my ambition of establishing an independent comic-book label, I've gotta be careful in the next few months. Which is why it's good that I'm a private person who give vague answers. But I tend to quietly evaluate people, which might be a problem...

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (323168)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

22 Sep 16

No, NO, NOOOOO, do not settle for whatever you can get. Do I need to repeat that? Good idea leaving it in God's hands. He knows exactly who will be best for you and while you're pursuing your career, you might come upon that young lady.

Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (323168)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

4 Oct 16

@Hanyouyomi

You seem very intelligent for one your age, and that's saying a lot coming from someone of my generation as you keep pointing out. I'm sure the right one will come along and I hope more sooner than later.

@Hanyouyomi (2186)

• Dallas, Texas

28 Sep 16

@just4him Yeah I keep thinking(and in all honestly hoping) that the girl I end up falling in love with is an artist or writer. I feel it'd make our life easier as we'd be able to better plan date nights nd vacations better if we're working together. Problem though is my misgivings towards my generation as you are aware, but that's why I say I'm asking for an angel. Because I'm not looking for a subdordinate, but a partner equal and opposite of me, and if some of the girls I've met are any indication they don't understand that. Though I'm not stupid as it seems to be clear that without proper guidance, anyone would confuse partnership with subdordination. Though eventually I'll meet that exception who's as crazy as me, and who knows she might teach me a few things.(Actually knowing my dumbluck, she will...)

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@Hanyouyomi (2186)

• Dallas, Texas

5 Oct 16

@just4him That much I'm aware of, which since I've decided to follow my dad's lead and leave in God's hands could be problematic See I tend to get engrossed in my pursuits which makes me blind to everything around me. So odds are a day will come when out of an orange colored sky, love's gonna hit me in the eye. (I apologize if that reference makes you feel old, as my dad turned me onto Nat King Cole as a child. :p)

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Timothy Roberts

@theBlock (2657)

• United States

29 Sep 16

@Hanyouyomi I appreciate your romantic take on dating. But I think you may be over thinking, over romanticizing. You have to put yourself in position to meet the type of girls you like, then take the initiative. And most girls like guys who are "real," not pretentious. Once you find a girl, and she reciprocates your feelings, then that's when the romance comes in, baby---you got her :) Now, if I could just find me a girl

Timothy Roberts

@theBlock (2657)

• United States

30 Sep 16

@Hanyouyomi I know exactly what you mean---I was in the same situation for years as a young man--until I found out that women love it when a man takes the initiative. But I do wish you love....

@Hanyouyomi (2186)

• Dallas, Texas

5 Oct 16

@theBlock Well if that's your experience, being older than me there must be some truth to that. Whelp, I'm more than a man of God, I'm also a man of science,(mostly social science) so some experimentation is in order. See no one says this, but they exhibit it, as humans are generally no different other breeds of animals, as they seek out a mate to suit their needs. Women generally seek out a provider with great physical strenth and stamina, and guys tend to find a woman who can care for the kids, and as of recent help increase the finances with her own means of income. I don't have the physique or bravado that attrct women, but if things go well in the next month or so, I'll be sure to keep my financial affairs a secret. Because being independent and financially stable will be the only draw I have. But after reading that I'm sure you understand why experimntation is in order, because in being aware of the variety of people with various needs, I need to learn what does and doesn't work when more is required than the basics I mentioned above. And I might be overthinking it, as the last time I tried this with my high school crush we got along well. But we were both geeks into Japanese cartoons and comics, so we already had a common interest. :p

@Hanyouyomi (2186)

• Dallas, Texas

29 Sep 16

@theBlock As of midnight today, I turned 28, that's only ten years away from the age I was when I overthought my sitution with my highschool crush. So I'm not surprised to be overthinking this in any shape or form. As for "over romanticizing," engh I'm a geek, it's kinda what some of us do. :p Also finding a girl who appreciates me for being "real," that depends on where I look. Guys like me who suffer from what I've come to call "nice guy syndrome" tend to look in the wrong places. Simply because like how women think they can tame a "bad boy," we tend to look for "bad girls" to tame. Thing is, I might seek a girlfriend amongst my fellow geeks, but as for me making the first move? Nah I'm too bitter for that, since due to being part of a generation that has embraced the fallacious claims of being "selfish entitled n'er do-wells," I'm at the point where she'd have to be the one to make the first move. I'd need to be shown that such an endeavor is worth it because I've pursued several that weren't worth it.

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Manisha

@ms1864 (6882)

• Bangalore, India

20 Sep 16

i don't think you need to lower your standards or settle...because if you do...you might end up blaming the girl if you don't like the situation you would be in. Try not to draw rules....love doesn't happen based on them anyway...let things take their course...

@Hanyouyomi (2186)

• Dallas, Texas

23 Sep 16

@ms1864 You're a Millennial too huh? I should've figured as much... And if your assessment is accurate then finding my counterpart will be like finding a needle in a hay stack. Although if my experience is anything to go by, it's not "a few" ma'am. People who are open-minded aren't the minority, after all it's called "the silent majority" for a reason. Because we don't wanna deal with any consequences of speaking out against the common consensus. I guess we're idiots in that regard too, but I digress... My point is in this world of the loud vocal minority, since people like me are a quiet sort, finding a girl who's as perceptive as me will be tough but not impossible. As for being open to her PoV, such suggestion isn't needed, as she'll come from a different world than mine, as it seems rare people hail from a two parent home these days. However she'll have to be careful when conversing with me. See I've been actively seeking inspiration for new story ideas, and any aspect of her life or personality might trigger an idea or two. I've lost track of how many characters I've created based off of people I've met... :p Some of whom were girls I've met and e-dated online too. _ Huh, might wanna rethink this, because the stuff she might put me through could cause me to make a whole catalog of story ideas... Might wanna weigh my options now...

Manisha

@ms1864 (6882)

• Bangalore, India

23 Sep 16

well it is great you know what you want...i wish you the best.

Manisha

@ms1864 (6882)

• Bangalore, India

21 Sep 16

Alright...i get it.

Btw...I am of your generation...and i can safely say there are people like you out there....few....but they exit.

But you should also be open to her PoV if you need her to open up to yours...hope you are cool with that... P.S- you remind me of a friend i had in college.

XinfulThotz

@XinfulThotz (4136)

• Singapore, Singapore

20 Sep 16

I think you will meet the right lady when the right time comes. Don't settle for anything less. You may not be happy if you lower your expectations just to find a girlfriend. Be yourself. Be happy. Best wishes

@Hanyouyomi (2186)

• Dallas, Texas

23 Sep 16

@XinfulThotz Well neither am I, but when I'm out in public I hide it because God forbid I scare someone... Though I've learned to temper it, and it's unveiled itself in various ways. For example it's appeared in the enthusiasm I had when I worked at Pizza Hut. The enthusiasm I exhibited earned me more hours and greater pay, so I suppose my child-like nature is good for something. It also showed when I started attending the Art Institute Of Dallas last year, as going to school was a joy for me. I didn't exhibit too much, but since I was attending a school to get my animation degree to pursue my dream as an artist, every waking Monday was like "Woo! I'm going to school!!!! xD" This is the kind of crap any girl who dates me is gonna have to deal with, and I think it might creep them out. I mean I'mma start attending classes again soon and I'll be working too, most likely before I start class. And if I wer to start dating around that time, any girl I'm ith might find my enthusiasm a bit weird... Won't surprise me if she would prefer my pessimistic side, because at least then I don't like a four year old going to the toy store.

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@Hanyouyomi (2186)

• Dallas, Texas

20 Sep 16

@XinfulThotz "Be myself," huh? I only do that behind closed doors. Given how judgemental and close-minded,(and dare I say ignorant) the general masses are, in public I'm a stoic and courteous man. In the privacy of my ow home I'm an utter child who indulges in childish hobbies like watching cartoons, playing videogames and reading comic-books. plus ma'am, I'm crazy. I can tell in all honesty that all this backwards thinking bullcrap with third wave feminism still thinking women are oppressed and Black Lives Matter is exactly as I described it. "Bullcrap," but in this world of ours I can tell anyone why, nor can I show them why because I understand the perception of Geeks and Metalheads(y'know people who listen to Heavy Metal) and I also know how people act when they're faced with something they don't understand. With fear and loathing. So I'mma wait, but I do go looking, I'mma make sure not to do or say anything that might scare whoever I'm with. Because aside fro my childlike nature I've gained a great deal of perception about this world we live in, as I already displayed, but unless she carries the same degree of knowledge I have to hide my sense of perception.

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XinfulThotz

@XinfulThotz (4136)

• Singapore, Singapore

21 Sep 16

@Hanyouyomi I am old but childish. But I am not going to change that.

Your Highness Emperor Albert Whisker

@CaptAlbertWhisker (32760)

• Calgary, Alberta

2 Oct 16

Tinder exists, I know the creme de la creme won't be found there though. It is more of a Netflix and chill place than a place to find love. Sometimes though love can be found outside our comfort zone because there is a saying opposite attract. My longest relationship is with someone who hates all of my passions.

JB_girl

@sol_cee (38669)

• Philippines

20 Sep 16

I wish @Genipher would read this.

@Hanyouyomi (2186)

• Dallas, Texas

20 Sep 16

@sol_cee Well since you tagged her, she might...

JB_girl

@sol_cee (38669)

• Philippines

20 Sep 16

@Hanyouyomi She's on sabbatical.

@Hanyouyomi (2186)

• Dallas, Texas

20 Sep 16

@sol_cee Oh...I see...

Laurel (L_B)

@Happy2BeMe (99353)

• Canada

20 Sep 16

I don't you have to settle at all. You are still only 28. You have plenty of time to meet somebody. Just let it happen and when it does it will be wonderful.