Boyfriend Investigation?
By Bella27
@Bella27 (387)
Waverly, Tennessee
September 23, 2016 12:24am CST
So I know the saying trust is everything blahblah..But when you first meet someone they are total stranger's. Its hard not to snoop around the bush and find out about them. When I first got with my current boyfriend he had a lot of ex's on his social media site. I wasn't that concerned with it because it was his past. I was wondering why he had kept them on there though. I knew he must of kept them on there strictly to make them jealous after awhile. The reason I say this is because one of his ex's really done him bad, but he still keeps her around, and even after nine years of me and him being together i still find myself snooping. I guess it's major trust issue's, or just a girl thing. So my question is do all girls snoop? If so has it been a repeatedly thing?
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@CinnamonGrl (7083)
• Santa Fe, New Mexico
23 Sep 16
I don't think it's just a female thing. A man would want to know why you kept exes on your social media, if you did. Did you ever ask him why? Maybe he just keeps them there out of curiosity from afar.
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@CinnamonGrl (7083)
• Santa Fe, New Mexico
23 Sep 16
@Bella27 lol, that's funny for a grown man.
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@XinfulThotz (4140)
• Singapore, Singapore
23 Sep 16
I don't snoop... if I want to know something, I ask him directly.
It's not so nice cos I won't like it if others do it on me...
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@wasteomind86 (76)
• Cebu, Philippines
23 Sep 16
I know for a fact that my wife snoops. xD But I like it since it let's me know she cares.
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@wasteomind86 (76)
• Cebu, Philippines
23 Sep 16
@Bella27 Well yeah, guess you're right.
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@ThatWifeyLife (150)
• United States
24 Sep 16
LOL Bella, you raise a lot of great questions when it comes to relationships. I think everyone snoops on some level, tho it varies from person to person when you're in a relationship. Me personally, I dont really find a need to snoop in my husbands email or on his social media sites, he makes me 100% secure in our relationship, however...If I saw a strange number or something come up on his cell if it was layin around or a text, I'd ask. But he has given me the passwords to everything he has, so I feel confident he has nothing to hide. But I dont think it is unusual to question or snoop, even after so many years. Its probably just your minds way of worrying because you love him like you do.
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@Bella27 (387)
• Waverly, Tennessee
24 Sep 16
Yeah the mind plays tricks from time to time! My boyfriend would never give up his passwords or show me his messages on social media site's. Even if I doubted him. I trust him because in reality im the one sleeping beside him, but as a woman I wonder why a lot! But that's a normal reaction in my case!
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@Bella27 (387)
• Waverly, Tennessee
24 Sep 16
@ThatWifeyLife yeah after nine long year's i dont think he'd Flush me down the toliet lol
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@annierose (18974)
• Philippines
1 Oct 16
My boyfriend is not addicted to social media. He has his nose always on his work. 
Poor me, I cannot investigate if he is doing something against me. Anyway, I trust him. We are miles apart but love cannot live without trust. So when he says he is busy with work, I trust in him. He does the same thing with me. Well, if he cheated on me, it will be his lost and not mine.
Poor me, I cannot investigate if he is doing something against me. Anyway, I trust him. We are miles apart but love cannot live without trust. So when he says he is busy with work, I trust in him. He does the same thing with me. Well, if he cheated on me, it will be his lost and not mine. 1 person likes this
@annierose (18974)
• Philippines
2 Oct 16
@Bella27 Oh, I hope it will not happen. Just try to get rid of negative thoughts. Those kinds of thoughts will just invite wrinkles on your face and it is not good. I have pimples now, though.. It is not because of my boyfriend but because of stress.
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@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
23 Sep 16
All girls snoop but the degree of snooping varies.I don't snoop around that much now that we are husband and wife compared when we were boyfriend girlfriend.
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@Bella27 (387)
• Waverly, Tennessee
24 Sep 16
I don't snoop massive amount. Its been about a year since I've did any snooping! When I did snoop i found nothing to be concerned about. The only thing that bothers me is his social media that he hides and Lock's away! He takes it as far as not wanting to sign into his accounts on any mobile device thinking I may ask to use his phone! Even though he has never caught me snooping he acts very shady!
@amandajay (23264)
• New Zealand
23 Sep 16
Snooping is not just a female thing. I have seen many guys who are snooping than women. If he is not communicating with them. Just forget it. Let it be. After all he is yours...
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@amandajay (23264)
• New Zealand
23 Sep 16
@Bella27 hehe... Dont worry. He will not.
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