He isn't taking me to the wedding
@shaggin (74612)
United States
September 26, 2016 7:56am CST
I finally got a text back from my man this morning answering my question as to if he is taking me to his best friends wedding.
He is taking his 10 year old son. No one takes kids to a wedding! He should be taking his girlfriend!
I am done putting up with his hiding me from everyone. He never takes me around his friends and it will be 2 yrs we have been together in January and I can't have "In a relationship" on facebook.
I am supposed to go house sit for him tomorrow but he can find someone to always have his back now. I'm done.
This is the exact same problems we had when we were together for a year a few years back before we broke up. He is just never going to treat me how I deserve.
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@responsiveme (22924)
• India
26 Sep 16
Looks like you need to make this stand. Take care .
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@shaggin (74612)
• United States
26 Sep 16
@responsiveme I write here at mylot otherwise I pretty much keep my problems to myself. My sister is going to the wedding and since I am not I am going to be expected to watch her 4 month old daughter. She wants me to take her over night but that is just to much for me. She cries constantly and doesn't let you put her down. I am going to be really upset that day knowing I should be at the wedding. The last thing I will want to do is babysit.
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@responsiveme (22924)
• India
26 Sep 16
@shaggin Its a hard time for you...I hope you have friends/siblings around you now
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@shaggin (74612)
• United States
26 Sep 16
Yeah I agree this is all just pointless to keep allowing him to treat me this way. He just texted me and said he's sorry but he's taking his son the groom is like his uncle. Kids just don't go as dates to weddings its weird. I told him I'm sick of being hidden and after this long I still can't put in a relationship on facebook its pathetic. I told him to have someone else sit at his house tomorrow I'm done.
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@richjohn07 (641)
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26 Sep 16
Don't worry. There is a right man whom you deserve. A man that will always love you and ready to know you to his parents and friends. A man thay will treat you as his queen. :D
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@shaggin (74612)
• United States
28 Sep 16
@richjohn07 We were together for a year then apart for a year and back together for a year and 8 months.
@richjohn07 (641)
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27 Sep 16
@shaggin oh. sorry to hear about that. How long have you been together?
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@Happy2BeMe (99356)
• Canada
26 Sep 16
I am so sorry to read this. I was really hoping that he would do the right thing and bring you to the wedding. It is just not right that he is bringing his son instead. That would be a breaking point for me too. You deserve so much better.
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@Happy2BeMe (99356)
• Canada
26 Sep 16
@shaggin It really is. There is not reason why you should not be at that wedding since you are in a relationship with him and have been for two years.
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@richjohn07 (641)
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27 Sep 16
@Happy2BeMe you're right. If he really loves her, he must ready to present his love to all people.
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@CinnamonGrl (7086)
• Santa Fe, New Mexico
26 Sep 16
I know. The good ones love to introduce you to their friends. You'll find someone who includes you more in their life. It's sad though.I'm happy to be single, but I'm older now so my hormones aren't calling LOL
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@CinnamonGrl (7086)
• Santa Fe, New Mexico
26 Sep 16
@shaggin yeh you probably put up with it longer than you meant to. I've been in that situation. Finally you blow up
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@hostessman (11871)
• Tucson, Arizona
26 Sep 16
t is time you move on.. tell him good by.. staying with him is just going to get worse.. It may be hard to do but you need to think of your self... Just say bye-bye-bye-bye-bye........I
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@shaggin (74612)
• United States
26 Sep 16
When he moved out is when I should have ended it. He just prolonged it this way. I'm done accepting his excuses. A month or so back he told me how much he loves me and how much I mean to him but he never shows it. I needed to see it not just hear it.
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@Drosophila (16569)
• Ireland
26 Sep 16
I am sorry to hear about this, what did you say to him?
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@shaggin (74612)
• United States
26 Sep 16
I told him taking his son instead of his gf or both is weird. He said he can only take 1 and that the groom and his son and him have done a lot together over the years and me him and the groom have not. I told him he doesn't do anything with me so of course I haven't spent time around his friends that they probably don't even know we are together. He replied that he is taking his son who is excited to see the groom get married its like his uncle. I told him I'm tired of being hidden that after this long I can't even put in a relationship on facebook. I told him to have someone else sit at his tomorrow that I am done. His reply was "whatever" see shows how little he cares with his replies.
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@Drosophila (16569)
• Ireland
26 Sep 16
@shaggin I think it's because he knows you ain't going to leave him and he'll be able to talk you into coming back
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@shaggin (74612)
• United States
28 Sep 16
I tried not to think about it today. I took a facebook friend geocaching today to show her what it was all about. She loved it! It was nice having someone to talk to. I hope I wasn't to mopey for her. I am quite queasy with sadness right now so I think I am going to go to bed and hope to feel better in the morning.
@amandajay (23262)
• New Zealand
27 Sep 16
Its a seriouse problem. I think you better move if he doesnt want to expose you infront of others. You deserve better than this. If he is changing his style. Yiu better change. 1
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@LOVEFAIRYTALE (1)
• India
26 Sep 16
I'm sorry u have to go through this but if man is not man enough to even shows u in public profile that's he's in a relationship with u what do you think of that kind of person, the more u let him hurt u the more he will take u for granted pls stand up for urself and show him u deserve to be treated well... U love him I know but in the process of loving him stop ignoring ur self respect... U can do it love
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@Letranknight2015 (52550)
• Philippines
8 Aug 17
I can't believe I missed this post last year. I guess my relatives were still here and I was busy with them. I hope you had move on or found some one that can take care of you.You definitely deserve some one better.
@Hate2Iron (15725)
• Canada
26 Sep 16
That really is too bad. The man certainly doesn't deserve you!
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@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
29 Sep 16
i'm proud 'f ya fer kickin' him to the curb, hon. ya deserve much better 'n so do yer young'uns. 
@shaggin (74612)
• United States
29 Sep 16
I feel dumb for waiting so long. I still wish he would text me and tell me he is sorry and post on facebook that we are together and take me to meet his friends. That is just wishful thinking he obviously didn't really love me like he said.
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@shaggin (74612)
• United States
26 Sep 16
He never takes me around his friends. He never invites me to anything. He doesn't want to add in a relationship on facebook. It just feels like he doesn't want anyone to know we are together.
@shaggin (74612)
• United States
28 Sep 16
No I broke up with him he deserves to not be able to be with me. He doesn't appreciate or care about me enough.
