You can't have a happy family life and a successful career. Do you agree?
@IlijaMarkovski (1056)
Australia
October 12, 2016 11:38pm CST
I was walking in the city streets when i saw a couple arguing. I didn't know what they were saying until i walked right past them and the women said to the men "You are always at work, why don't you spend some time with your family, don't you like us or something". The men responded "Well if i don't go to work, who's going to provide the food on the table and buy clothing and pay the bills and whatever else you want". They were arguing or discussing whatever you want to call it about this topic for at least 10 minutes with their child there as well. The child was probably around 5 years old. I was ordering some food, so no i wasn't ear-dropping.
There have been many of these cases where how much time do you spend with your family and how much time you are at work. I think most of us will spend more time at work than at home with their family. If we spend more time with our families then who's going to buy everything we need.
Overall we need to work out a balance for both. Spending time with our families and going to work. Some people are very lucky and work from home or run a online business. Some people prefer to actually physically want to go to work and get out of the house. Overall it's up to the individual to decide what's best for themselves plus their families.
Share your thoughts and tell us what you reckon
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@saulgoodman (2643)
• Dundee, Scotland
13 Oct 16
I totally disagree.
Its quite easy to have both
We have had a really happy family life and have both done well running our own businesses.
You cant generalise.
The average working day is 8 hours.
That leaves 16 hours for other stuff.
Its about time managment.
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@IlijaMarkovski (1056)
• Australia
13 Oct 16
@saulgoodman Well not everyone sees it that way. I guess most people might have to work more, depending on their occupation. Some people yes are lucky, but some not so much.
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@IlijaMarkovski (1056)
• Australia
14 Oct 16
@saulgoodman Yeah i guess we need different personalities, for the life to keep spinning. If you don't mind me asking; What hours do you work and how much days in a week?
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@saulgoodman (2643)
• Dundee, Scotland
14 Oct 16
@IlijaMarkovski
Was doing 6 days 7 hours in summer
Work from home in winter
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@IlijaMarkovski (1056)
• Australia
13 Oct 16
@ms1864 That's right we have to find the balance, but again sometimes it's not possible. What if your normal roster was working 12 hour shifts 7 days a week, starting 0630 and finishing 1830. For each day you receive 2000 AUD each day, convert it in your currency if you want. This means you are working 7 days a week 12 hour shifts and pretty much no time to spend with your family. What do you do?
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@IlijaMarkovski (1056)
• Australia
13 Oct 16
@Shivkat read the comment i left for @XinfulThotz and tell me if 1 day a week is enough time to spend with your family?
@IlijaMarkovski (1056)
• Australia
13 Oct 16
@XinfulThotz You make good points, but you still would want to have a family adventure where you go somewhere
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@XinfulThotz (4140)
• Singapore, Singapore
13 Oct 16
@IlijaMarkovski it's not only about the amount of time spent. The quality of time spent and the communication and bonding makes the difference. One can spend many hours with family but all those time are use in quarelling or arguing and another can spend one hour everyday but make sure there is communication and understanding. It depends. For me i work 6days a week but still managing.
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@Happy2BeMe (99392)
• Canada
13 Oct 16
I do believe that you can have both and I did when my children were growing up. You have to find that balance between work and family time. It is also good not to live beyond your means and then you don't have to work so much to pay bills. You have to be able to spend quality time with your family and do fun, family thinks together. I can be done.
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@IlijaMarkovski (1056)
• Australia
13 Oct 16
@Happy2BeMe I guess anything is possible if you want it to be.
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@XinfulThotz (4140)
• Singapore, Singapore
13 Oct 16
I don't agree..it's how someone manage his/her time in order to achieve a work-life balance.
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@IlijaMarkovski (1056)
• Australia
13 Oct 16
@XinfulThotz If you get up early in the morning and come back late at night, do that for 6 days a week, which there are some people who work like this, that only leaves 1 day a week to spend time with the family. Some people can manage no question about it, but some can't There has been a lot of marriages lost because of this.
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@IlijaMarkovski (1056)
• Australia
13 Oct 16
@XinfulThotz Yes that's true quality of time matters not so much quantity.
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@XinfulThotz (4140)
• Singapore, Singapore
13 Oct 16
@IlijaMarkovski understanding one another and finding quality time spent together despite busy schedule is the key. If there is only one off day left, and the person still wants to choose wasting it on argument instead of sharing lovely moments together, the person may not be that wise...?
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@mysticaura (202)
• Jamnagar, India
13 Oct 16
More than limited time, I think it is our egos that play spoil sport. We are creatures of habit, and it is very difficult for us to work out a compromise where both can feel comfortable in the relationship and at the same time committed to the relationship. Constant communication, feedback about things that went wrong and that can go wrong, acceptance of differences, and a give and take nature is required to make things work out mutually. This calls for a lot of emotional intelligence and high self esteem.
@IlijaMarkovski (1056)
• Australia
13 Oct 16
@mysticaura Constant communication and working out what is the best path to take is a good idea. The only problem would be can you find a job that has the working hours you want and the number of days you work a week and then of course does it pay good.
@Letranknight2015 (51531)
• Philippines
13 Oct 16
After reading this post, I realized I am happy with my life, probably just bored and nervous with things am not used to all the time. I think they are lucky and happy they just don't know it.
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@IlijaMarkovski (1056)
• Australia
13 Oct 16
@Letranknight2015 In what way do you think they're happy? Yes they have a child together and are all healthy, but the male pretty much worked the whole day 6 times a week, by what i heard, so that leaves 1 whole day to be with the family, and even probably then he would still receive work calls.
@WorDazza (15833)
• Manchester, England
13 Oct 16
Part of the problem is lack of communication.
Men think they know what women want out of a relationship. They think that women want stuff. House, cars, fancy clothes, expensive furniture etc. so set about trying to provide that. Unfortunately this almost inevitably means a lot of time spent working.
In reality, women often do want that but not at the expense of seeing their husband and having him more involved with the children.
It's just a question of talking to each other and working out what is the most important. Money, or together time.
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@IlijaMarkovski (1056)
• Australia
13 Oct 16
@WorDazza Most of the time women would say that they want to spend more time with their husband instead of wanting money and other fancy stuff, but then the women would want something from a shop and they would expect their husband to pull out the money from out of nowhere. So, what do you do? You lose either way.
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@WorDazza (15833)
• Manchester, England
13 Oct 16
@IlijaMarkovski Then they're obviously married to the wrong woman 
@shivamani10 (11038)
• Hyderabad, India
13 Oct 16
yes. you are right. We can not sail on two boats. We have to sacrifice one for the other.
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@IlijaMarkovski (1056)
• Australia
13 Oct 16
@shivamani10 Depending on your work hours and how much days a week you work, then unfortunately you probably will have to choose one or another.
