Cohabitating
@luisadannointed (11848)
Philippines
November 7, 2016 6:38pm CST
I do not know if many people will hate me after this post... I hope not. Cohabitating is very rampant today that many people thinks it is good, or it is romantic.
I think Cohabitating is not for people who wants to be loved or people who wants to love someday. Cohabitating does not provide love but always taking advantage to get pleasure without taking any responsibility. They want it and disregard marriage so they can easily jump in and out of a person's life when they are fed up or thinks they are not having fun anymore.
Many women are suffering and are being abused physically and mentally. Having illusions of having a family when it is all a lie. A person who never commits in marriage is a person who will never commits their lives to someone faithfully and forever is just a blurry dream.
I think people should change their mindset about the world's values that is being promoted by people who are famous and think that life is just for fun.
I think people should still have the value of what LOVE is. And that is committing your life to, sacrifice, and be responsible for everything the way Jesus did on the cross. That is why Jesus love is never suffocating but it endures with a smile, security of joy is in our hearts no matter what happens.
People should start thinking of the environment that they will provide for their future offspring, and save their children from every deception of this world that will hinder them to experience and learn how to be loved and loved someone in its true meaning. Do you agree?
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@louievill (28846)
• Philippines
8 Nov 16
That's one reason why it took me a long time to decide to marry, I got married when I was on my 30's, think " commitment " is the key word but I am not saying that those living outside of marriage are not committed, my point is marriage is a legal binding contract so things like conjugal property etc,,, comes with it
The religious and or faith aspect is different although could be related, that is why we have marrige in church and marriage in the sala of a judge that is legal binding.
@luisadannointed (11848)
• Philippines
8 Nov 16
I agree with the commitment thing. It is really the root and foundation of every relationship.
For me Marriage is a blessing and protection of God that no man can destroy, the blessing of their children is at risk without God's permission.
Everyone are born with God's love, but definitely will they will have the consequence of their actions.
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@louievill (28846)
• Philippines
8 Nov 16
@luisadannointed the. Blessing thing applies only to us believers or so we do believe and other faiths might have a different interpretation and I respect that, but for me personally it only comes with accepting the lord Jesus as my personal saviour and making him part of my life and my relationships, hope you have the same belief cause it worked for me fine despite the many ups and downs
@luisadannointed (11848)
• Philippines
14 Nov 16
@louievill Yes I do... I am just hoping that others might start believing the same way... and accepting Christ Love with full understanding... that might bring their life into a joy that no matter what happens its stays in the heart of every believer... which is sad that many settle down with pain... and settle with their own understanding.
Thank you and God bless.
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@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
8 Nov 16
One will be abused whether or not that person is married or not, if the person allowed herself to be treated that way. Marriage does not guarantee that you will not be abused nor cheated in any way. I have been married before, and it ended just a few years ago because my husband cheated on me with 6 different women, 2 of them are also Filipinas (and they know that my ex husband was married but still that did not stop them from coming to him). I am now "cohabitating" with my boyfriend of almost 2 years (with the blessing of my Roman Catholic parents, my dad is actually a lay minister in church) and I have never felt more respected, more loved, more cherished. We do have plans of getting married after I finished my MBA. But ultimately, it's not really a matter of whether one is married or not. It ultimately boils down to what is in a person's heart. If God is in your heart, whether you are married or not, you have true love to give and to hold. I do not condone marriage - my own parents have been married for 35 years and I hope my next one will be just as long as fruitful. But values is not based on a sacrament or a piece of paper. Marriage will not guarantee that your children will grow up to be good people. So, I do not agree.
@luisadannointed (11848)
• Philippines
8 Nov 16
I hope that one day you will agree. Because even if our current situation shows that being obedient in everything God tells us to do... still it isn't the truth. I know I will face my own fate, and nor I can judge people, but still all I know when we obediently follow God, certainly we can appeal before His throne to give what he had promise to us. a healthy marriage is a marriage that cling only to God, trust to God and most importantly fearing God... that is the only way the true blessing of God will flow.
Many of us has been cheated and being betrayed but our obedient to God will surely stands and will be recognized by God and will definitely fight for that true happiness and bright future. God bless.
@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
8 Nov 16
@luisadannointed I don't think you get what I am trying to say, but I rest my case.
@ms1864 (6882)
• Bangalore, India
8 Nov 16
It is personal choice. People are all individually responsible for the situations they put themselves in...and these days ...marriage is not a everlasting concept of loyalty.
I think if it doesn't harm anyone else and people are ready to deal with the consequences of their decisions...nothing else matters.
