Hold On or Let Go?
By Christie
@jainaproudmoore (457)
February 11, 2017 8:48am CST
Some people say that if you really love the person, you have to set them free. If he/she comes back to you, then he/she is really yours.
Some say that if you really love the person, you have to fight for your love no matter what. Because that will show the person how much you love him/her.
I am thinking, how can you decide between the two when you're at the crossroad?
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@jainaproudmoore (457)
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11 Feb 17
Good point there. They will really find another. Rare is the moment that they won't find another, then return to you.
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
12 Feb 17
@jainaproudmoore but then it's not fair, we become that person's second choice or even third... 
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
11 Feb 17
To your first point: I will let that person know that I still love him but he is free to go. If he chooses to stay, then he is mine.
To your second point: I will not fight for the love but I will show that person he is a very important in my life.. I will care for him..
So, it depends on how much you love this person and how much he/she loves you. It's no use fight for the love if that person doesn't love you.. It is hard decision because your heart and your mind will want to take over you..
@jainaproudmoore (457)
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11 Feb 17
You have covered every point well.
Perhaps the quality of the person really matters, yes? Because no matter how much you love the person, if the person cannot love you back, it's useless. Unless he/she falls in love with you during the process.
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
12 Feb 17
@jainaproudmoore Yes, so true. So try not to fight for your love if that person doesn't love you... I remember I was told that one should marry the one loves her/him, not the one one is in love with...
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@jainaproudmoore (457)
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12 Feb 17
@atoz1to10 thank you. I am wondering why most people would do as my friend is in dilemma right now. They actually both love each other but, you know, I think she loves him more than he loves her.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
16 Feb 17
Well, since I have been Happily married now for just over 18 yrs, it has been a long time since I have been there. But I look at it this way, when you meet the right person you know. There is no decision making. Things happen and it is up to you to progress from there.
@jainaproudmoore (457)
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19 Feb 17
It's really difficult when you're caught in between. When faced the dilemma during the rocky stage.
@lokisdad (4226)
• United States
19 Feb 17
Love is a lot of things. People are where they want to be. No matter how much you fight or do for someone if they don't want to stay nothing will change that they have to want to stay. Relationships require lots of work like a car. If you neglect it eventually it stops working and after it becomes irreparable.
You have to have a good strong foundation to build on and god materials or it will crumble. These are just the starters you need to get you going in the right direction. Bring these to the table as what you have to offer and don't allow the person who joins you not to have brought the same to offer.
Communication, Honesty, Respect, Loyalty, Trust, Faithfulness. Without those you might as well not bother because it will only be a waste of your time and efforts not to mention hurt and heartaches.
@chooseyourmissy1234 (532)
• , New York
3 Dec 17
Those in relationships need to respect each others feelings.
@jainaproudmoore (457)
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19 Feb 17
You are right on. Everything you said is true. One-sided relationship can be very very difficult.
@jainaproudmoore (457)
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11 Feb 17
Thank you for your response. That's a good point as well.
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@PatZAnthony (14752)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
19 Feb 17
The point might be that the other person should realize they are not forced to stay. This help many people know that they want to stay.
