Plans don't out ways work out the way you want

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@dfollin (27267)
United States
February 11, 2017 5:38pm CST
In 1996 I knew the bill was going to be high for our daughter's birth, so I had told my husband (then my fiance) that we needed to wait to get married after the baby was born. That was a very good thought cause it turned out that my daughter was breach and then if I had changed to his insurance then they would not cover her birth. The insurance I was on was for Single Woman only.. Our daughter was born in late January of 1997, after we got home settled with the baby and after I finished recovering in a few more weeks I began to plan our wedding to be on April 2nd. We went to the court house to get our marriage license to find that we could not get it until my husband brought in copies of his divorce papers from his previous marriage. Going thru a few people we finally contacted his ex wife to find out that she had never filed for the divorce!!!!! I asked him how he did not know when he did not get his copies of the divorce paper's sixteen years ago? Well Duh!!!!!!! He said that he did not know that he was supposed to get any. Really?!!!!!!! We did not have enough money to do a regular divorce, so I did a self divorce, still had to buy a packet of papers, get them noterized and wasted a lot of time by keep taking them to her house....only after her and her boyfriend left to work and hiding the papers that she had to sign behind a porch chair. Then I could not come back and get them till the next day during the same times because she did not want her signifigant to know about the divorce..... LMBO!!!!!. Go take recorded affidavit's at a lawyers office.....$$$$$$, file them at the court house. On May 16th 2:00 PM I called the courts and got the judge to fax a signed copy of the divorce paper's to the license office. We got to the license office at 3:40 PM and had out license in ten minutes, 10 minutes before they closed,lol We used all the wedding money on the divorce and had $50 cash that we owed for a bill in two days. The next morning I got an old off white short dress that I wore at my oldest son's christaning. My husband took his dress pants into the laundry room to run in the dryer to get the wrinkles out, but when I went back in the room to collect them they were gone, he ended up wearing a pair of work pants!!!! We drove to the church where we were just going to have a private ceremony that cost's $50. There was a fair in the parking lot, so we parked on the street. We went inside and I moved and the zipper ripped out of the back of my dress. Errrrrrrr!!!!!!!!! My husband was able to squeeze it back together before the pastor came in. We got married!!! We went outside to find a $50 parking ticket on our car!!!!!! We went home, his pants were returned to the laundry room!!!!!!!!! We needed them two hours ago!!!!!!!! My husband went to do two side plumbing jobs to pay the $50 back for our bill and $50 for the parking ticket! We were to host our family reunion picnic the next day. So I went to the bread store to get hot dog buns. Came out and removed the baby from the cart to put her in the car and the shopping cart rolled off the sidewalk and hit my car! We spent our wedding night sleeping! lol
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• United States
11 Feb 17
Oh my goodness, what an exhausting time! I just can't understand why his ex wife never filed the papers. Was it just simpler for her not to? I wouldn't think so. I'm thinking more along the lines of financial liability, but I guess any joint accounts were disolved when they separated. I was married once, my ex took care of all the divorce arrangements. All I had to do was sign the papers and get them back in the mail. That was a tough time in my life, but gah am I glad it's over.
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@dfollin (27267)
• United States
12 Feb 17
She said that it cost too much. But I was surprised that there was not anything with her name on it that came with taxes or anything.
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• United States
12 Feb 17
@dfollin Maybe they always filed separately? But you think, I mean if nothing else, car insurance would have been something they'd had together. I think it cost my ex about $500.00. That's not a small drop in the bucket but it could have been much worse as well. I have friends now who aren't divorced because the (still married but ex) husband is having health issues and my friend's insurance (which he is on) is better than what he would be offered at work. It works for them, they each have another spouse and all involved (the other spouses) understand and are fine with the situation as it is right now.
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@dfollin (27267)
• United States
12 Feb 17
@ScribbledAdNauseum This was in 1997 and we called a supposed to be cheap lawyer and it was $2,000!!!!! She lived with her boyfriend and they had two kids. I think he wanted to get married and she said she couldn't because she did not know where her husband was to divorce him, that is why she did not want me to come before they left and wanted me to hide the papers.
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@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
12 Feb 17
Wow!! What memories. There are some I think I will never forget about our Wedding day either, but not sure I want to share here as their are men on myLot who may not want to read about it.
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@dfollin (27267)
• United States
12 Feb 17
I understand We chat some on Facebook or you can IM me here if you ever want to.
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@prinzcy (32299)
• Malaysia
12 Feb 17
When something like that happened, it will become a memory you never forget. Plus it was on your wedding day.
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@dfollin (27267)
• United States
12 Feb 17
Your right. I will never forget it
@jstory07 (148798)
• Roseburg, Oregon
12 Feb 17
You went through a lot to get married. At least you got married.
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@dfollin (27267)
• United States
12 Feb 17
Yes we did, thank you