Is Loving Someone Needs to Meet Some Standards?

@Shavkat (137238)

Philippines

March 14, 2017 7:27am CST

I was thinking if we love someone, do we need to meet the standards? There are some people who impose on meeting their standards. I find it weird. I thought that loving someone should be unconditional. Correct me if I am wrong. If a special someone set standards, it is like we are applying for a job. It is like an interviewer needs to accomplish the checklist requirements of the applicants. That seems so weird and needs in meeting the high expectations. Are we applying for a job?

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

14 Mar 17

If you want to feel love, set away the standards. And beside, being with someone you like is the best feeling ever.

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@Shavkat (137238)

• Philippines

15 Mar 17

I agree. I don't know why some people need to have standard.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

15 Mar 17

@Shavkat I know someone and until now she doesn't have someone at the age of 40.

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@Shavkat (137238)

• Philippines

15 Mar 17

@JustBhem That's being overrated choosy, my friend.

@marguicha (215818)

• Chile

14 Mar 17

THe person I love (specially a partner) has to have certain qualities I´m interested in.

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@Shavkat (137238)

• Philippines

15 Mar 17

I do think that we need to love someone with their own qualities and not to impose personal standards. If this particular person doesn't meet the ideal someone, then it is better, to be honest, and find another soul for us.

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@marguicha (215818)

• Chile

15 Mar 17

@Shavkat That´s what I meant, really. It is not that I would try to change anyone. Noone can change. But I would try to find what I need. I had the luck that I met that special person when I was 16.

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@Shavkat (137238)

• Philippines

15 Mar 17

@marguicha You are lucky, my dear friend. You found your true love.

@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)

• Pamplona, Spain

14 Mar 17

A lot of people I have known have set standards. I don´t set standards as such. I don´t put a list of things like he should be this and that and the other. Its what comes from the heart that is the real thing.

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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)

• Pamplona, Spain

15 Mar 17

@Shavkat I do have one standard but its minimal for them to be as honest as possible. Being honest makes it easy on the two of us and we can make better choices for the future.

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@Shavkat (137238)

• Philippines

16 Mar 17

@lovinangelsinstead21 As for me, I have only two requirements in loving someone: honest and respect. I think this is a perfect combination of making a relationship will last for a lifetime.

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@Shavkat (137238)

• Philippines

15 Mar 17

I agree. That's what I can't understand with my former partner. Then, there is no need to continue the relationship.

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@shubhu3 (36464)

• New Delhi, India

15 Mar 17

I agree with you. Love is something that just happens. It doesn't follows any standards or terms and conditions. People should have a receptivity towards it.

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@Shavkat (137238)

• Philippines

15 Mar 17

@shubhu3 I don't want to love someone living with particular standards, If I do, then it is not me whom this person loving with.

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@Shavkat (137238)

• Philippines

15 Mar 17

I think it should be unconditional. We need to love somebody with their qualities and not to change them according to our preferences.

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@shubhu3 (36464)

• New Delhi, India

15 Mar 17

@Shavkat Exactly. Accepting the other and loving unconditionally should be the perspective.

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@magallon (19280)

• Philippines

15 Mar 17

I believe that in loving someone, there is no ifs or no buts. Love has no boundaries. But it is true, that there some people who really set standards in love. Some meet these standards but some are not.

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@Shavkat (137238)

• Philippines

15 Mar 17

It is really not a god ideas. They might set standards but they also should see themselves first.

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@Shavkat (137238)

• Philippines

17 Mar 17

I am into that, my friend.

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@magallon (19280)

• Philippines

17 Mar 17

@Shavkat Yes I agree. they should know themselves too, as if who they are and what they are.

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@thelme55 (76481)

• Germany

14 Mar 17

You will not be happy if you keep on checking your standards when in love. Of course your love one has some qualities you have set for yourself.

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@Shavkat (137238)

• Philippines

15 Mar 17

I agree. We should love the uniqueness of a person we loved.

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@Shavkat (137238)

• Philippines

15 Mar 17

@thelme55 I can't agree more.

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@thelme55 (76481)

• Germany

15 Mar 17

@Shavkat yes, we should otherwise it is a boring life if we are all the same.

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@FayeHazel (40246)

• United States

14 Mar 17

I think that you're on to something there. In a way I think finding love is like applying for a job. Of course after we already love someone - standards should relax, if we already know about the other person. However, people change.

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@Shavkat (137238)

• Philippines

15 Mar 17

I think it is fine to have standards. But it should not extend within the relationship. That would be weird.

@diosabella (4789)

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15 Mar 17

Where's the loving in that? Giving a standard whether its high or low will hinder on finding that special person. Just my opinion I don't think I can show my true self with someone who thinks I'm the other just to fit in the standard.

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@Shavkat (137238)

• Philippines

15 Mar 17

I agree. It is not good to fill in the standards of others. Love is not to be this way.

@Manvi_83 (155)

• Bhubaneswar, India

14 Mar 17

I don't want to name it standards .But yes you have to know the person you love is worth or not..otherwise you will end up hurting..

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@Shavkat (137238)

• Philippines

15 Mar 17

I do think that getting to know each other is matters most. If things are not matching up, then it is better to stop.

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