You Have Got To Be Kidding!
By jujunme
@jujunme (2501)
United States
March 15, 2017 2:38pm CST
Now i know that both my brother in-law and his wife have lost their minds.
they live in a very nice 3 bedroom apt 2 of the bedrooms are quite large and the other which is downstairs, is quite small and of course they occupy the largest one.
Problem is, there are now 12 people living there, some for over 8 months to one year and you most likely may be asking yourself who these people, are so, in no particular order..
Their oldest daughter 28 and her husband 36 (on disability )and their 3 children ages 9, 13 and 14
Thei rnext to eldest daughter 25 and her 2 babies 1 year and 6 months old and lets not forget , her lazy worthless boyfriend also lives there
then,last but not least their single 23 year old son who has had more jobs than you can shake a fist at.and is currently out of work. in fact the only one who DOES work is their 28 old daughter
They were all taken in for one reason or another, evictions, loss of a job etc.....
Every day my brother- in law calls my husband complaining that he wants them out , but no one is budging. they come up with one excuse after another. and because they are family they don't want to call the police. where it is likely they would be forced to leave.
So now for the real kicker, my brother-in law and his wife are now thinking of MOVING out of their own home into a smaller apt, i find this incredible and shocking that this is the last resort in ridding themselves of this burden.
so what i want to know is. what do you think of this arrangement and also what would you do in the same situation
Update- My brother in-law 's oldest daughter , her husband and 3 daughters have found an apartment and are moving out on April 6th. now at least some of the financial burden has lessened so, both my brother-in-law and his wife won't be moving out of their home.
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@jujunme (2501)
• United States
16 Mar 17
They have been given way enough time to move out since most of them have been there 8 to 12 months. the oldest daughter also has a job and money saved and has only recently looked for a place.
as i mentioned in my post , the last resort was calling the police which they have threatened to do , but because of the children involved they don't want to do this.
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@AmbiePam (86018)
• United States
15 Mar 17
That's pathetic. Now, are they keeping the original place with the new apartment? Or are they going to a smaller apartment only so no one else can fit?
Because if it's the second one it sounds like my grandmother who lives next door to her son, my uncle. She owns both houses. She loves her house. However, she's so tired of doing every single thing for him (he calls her an average of 25 x a day for something), that she's selling her house and car. She's moving into an assisted living center with a tiny room just so he can't use her anymore, which included that sale of her car.
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@jujunme (2501)
• United States
16 Mar 17
That's the sad part, they are thinking of moving to a smaller apartment for exactly the reason you mentioned. and also for financial reasons , since all these people have moved in, the landlord raised the rent , and never mind the heating costs and water bills.it is PATHETIC I just can't believe they have let this go on for so long.
Wow , your poor Grandmother, having to leave a home she loved and not only that, having to resort to live in conditions she can't possibly be used to. it' is more than shocking that a grown man like your uncle cares so little for a woman who has basically sacrificed her own peace and happiness taking care of him, i wonder what he'll do now that the can't sponge off her anymore. My heart goes out to her.
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
15 Mar 17
I think such a high number of occupants might be against the law. Have your BIL and his wife check out zoning ordinances in their area. They might be able to tell their relatives that they are breaking the law and will be evicted if they don't make them move out. This would be a good "out" and create no hard feelings, they could even have their landlord evict the unwanted occupants.
I'm surprised the landlord hasn't already taken action.
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@jujunme (2501)
• United States
16 Mar 17
I am shocked the landlord took no action against them, what he did do was raise the rent and their water bill is much higher also their heating bill is through the roof and the only one who helps pay for this is their oldest daughter and her husband.
but , that was after a huge argument.
i guess the landlord doesn't care how many people live there as long as money is involved
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
16 Mar 17
@jujunme If they are breaking the occupancy laws, which seems likely, the landlord can get a hefty fine or jail time for allowing it. The laws are made to protect people--I'm sure you know that many people in one residence are at risk for all kinds of health hazards and accidents!
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@jujunme (2501)
• United States
16 Mar 17
@dragon54u I do agree with you, and i am so surprised that after all this time no actions were taken against the landlord.
i also agree about the risks taken, especially since there are young children and babies living there.
it seems to me the landlord is either unaware of the laws ( i find this impossible)or chooses to ignore them, since a lot of time has passed with no trouble for him.
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@Morleyhunt (21745)
• Canada
15 Mar 17
That's one way of getting rid of the hangers on. Time for some tough love.
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@Brittnyrose (1445)
• Aberdeen, North Carolina
16 Mar 17
I'm sorry but they would have to go and I'd do everything I can to make sure they found some were to go due to they have kids. But if it came down to it. I'd move out myself just like there thinking about doing. I'd tell them to Handel the apartment and pay the bills there. Then the sorry boyfriend's would have no choice but to get up and find a job. Sometimes you have to do what's best
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@jujunme (2501)
• United States
16 Mar 17
.There is no way i would allow
this to go on , especially since these are grown adults who every time were in trouble ran home to their parents, knowing full well they'd be taken in and what's worse is they contribute very little or nothing to the household expenses besides buying their own food.
As far as help is concerned, my sister-in law has suggested a lot of places they may be able to rent , but, the excuse is they can't afford it .
i don't know if i would move out of my own home , after 7 years living there but , when it comes down to it , they may have no choice.it's such a shame
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@Brittnyrose (1445)
• Aberdeen, North Carolina
17 Mar 17
@jujunme when I turnt 18 I had to get out my mom's house and I was a good child hehehe
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@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
24 Mar 17
If they move out will they continue to pay the utilities or make them pay them and rent too?
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@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
24 Mar 17
@jujunme Did they talk to the landlord that they don't want them there but they won't leave? I had to do that with a sibling years ago. The landlord wrote a letter and handed it to them that they must leave within so many days. As they were not on the lease or rental agreement.
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@jujunme (2501)
• United States
24 Mar 17
@rusty2rusty Surprisingly all the landlord did was raise the rent and the water and heating bills, so no help from him either.i do believe he is breaking a few zoning ordinances , after all this is only a 3 bedroom apt and the risks of allowing that many people to live there is huge i guess all the landlord cares about is extra money .
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@jujunme (2501)
• United States
24 Mar 17
No, they would be giving up the apartment altogether.
and it would be up to the kids to decide if they want to continue living there.
The rent is not cheap(1,700mo)and mostly it would also be up to the landlord to decide if he wants to rent the apt to them or look for new tenants.and i would guess due to the many arguments they have had there, he would be looking elsewhere
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@KristenH (33363)
• Cuyahoga Falls, Ohio
15 Mar 17
That's insane that they all live together in one place. Why can't they all get along?
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
16 Mar 17
I hope they find one as well, it's getting to the ;point where there are very few solutions left.
@Courtlynn (66918)
• United States
30 Mar 17
I don't really see a problem with them sharing their house with their kids and grandkids.. the only thing i can see a problem with is only one of them having a job out of the two couples and the other adult child. And them wanting them out but not having the guts to tell them. I mean really.. Thats basically on them. Yes, Family is family. But don't complain if you aren't going to change things.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
30 Mar 17
I wouldn't see the problem either if any of them,( besides the eldest daughter) contributed to the household expenses, except for buying their own food they all complain that if one isn't doing it, why should they
As for having the guts to tell them to leave, this is an ongoing argument practically every single day.they come up with one excuse after another (no apartments available, no jobs available. and the only reason they won't call the police to force them out is because of the kids.
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@Courtlynn (66918)
• United States
30 Mar 17
@jujunme yeah thats a tough one. But gotta do something.
@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
24 Mar 17
so sad, so hard to deal with family taking advantage, we have had people move in here without asking and we have had to tell them to go.
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@jujunme (2501)
• United States
25 Mar 17
I can't tell you how many times they were told to leave.
but the excuses continue , can't find work, apartments too expensive and the list goes on.
so, i agree it is a very sad situation, especially the fact that one of the daughters has older children,9, 13 and 14 what kind of example are their parents setting for them?
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