My former sister-in-law died Wednesday. Daughter headed to Utah.

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I haven't been married since 1989, yet I still consider my former inlaws family. I've kept in contact with many of them, especially now with Facebook. When I was first married and pregnant, I lived with Vina and her parents because my husband was in prison (another story for another time). I depended on their kindness and generosity greatly. They welcomed me into their home and I cannot forget that. Vina never married. The story as I heard it was that she was engaged at one point, but he died suddenly, so she never tried again. I don't know the whole story, but having stayed divorced all this time, I can actually understand not wanting to try again. She helped raise her brother's son after he passed and all the grandkids (27 of them) knew Aunt Vina would be there if needed. A couple or three years ago, she had a stroke and was moved in with another family member because she could no longer live alone. She was ambulatory, but no longer independent. Then, on Tuesday, she suffered a massive stroke. My ex called me at 1AM and left me a message that they didn't expect her to last the night. She eventually passed late Wednesday afternoon. It was as I was preparing a small montage to post to Facebook that I realized that she had died on her father's birthday. Had he lived, he would have been 117. She had just turned 81 in January. He was also 81 when he died. She was very close to her father. I felt that she 'chose' his birthday to join him. It was amazing to me. Anyway, my daughter is flying to Utah in the morning to attend the funeral and will visit her family while she's there. She hasn't been out to see them for four years, so she's looking forward to the trip. My question, to make this a discussion, is if you are divorced, are you still close to your inlaws? If a family member were to pass, would you have to travel far to attend their funeral?