Sorry but suicide is selfish
By Ryan Haydon
@ryanalion47 (72)
Pinellas Park, Florida
April 3, 2017 10:25am CST
Selfish. This isn't something you can say to someone who is considering taking their own life. Honestly, it's hard to tell the person how disappointing it is to hear that they feel so bad about life. Sometimes tough love just won't work.
It doesn't really matter how disappointed you could be by it. Your friend, coworker, neighbor, guy next to you on the bus, they all need you to be there for them. Sometimes you just need a hug and to be told you aren't alone. That what you feel, might it be irregular, isn't unheard of.
I recently lost a friend. He took his own life. I never would have guessed that he hurt so much. I bet he would never guess that I hurt often myself. Often it's impossible to think of others when your own dark thoughts consume you. Sometimes getting out of your own head and seeing other peoples lives through your own eyes can help.
Though, I never think of self harm, or taking my life, I still need help. We all need help in reality. When you learn that you aren't the only one who needs help; When you learn you aren't the only one who hurts; Its freeing.
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@diosabella (4789)
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3 Apr 17
Its hard losing someone. And much harder losing them that way. If I take my own life, I know that I am selfish. Because that means I don't consider what my family would feel and my friends too. All I can think about is how hurt I am and I cannot take it anymore. But thinking of what my family will experience if I go that way, the questions why I did it, that is hurting me more. But no one really knows what's inside of us but us, not our friends not our family. So when I get depress I just think of my family.
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@ryanalion47 (72)
• Pinellas Park, Florida
3 Apr 17
Sometimes friends are family, and they can mean more to you than true blood.
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@diosabella (4789)
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3 Apr 17
@ryanalion47 It depends who is our main priority. Sometimes no matter what, blood is thicker than water. But I have a friend that became my family too. So now I don't consider him as a friend only but as my own brother.
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@TheInvisibleMan (17603)
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3 Apr 17
I got your point, but I think it's complicated to judge.
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@ryanalion47 (72)
• Pinellas Park, Florida
3 Apr 17
That's why you just gotta be there for your friend. No matter how you feel about it.
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@Blushandglow (725)
• India
3 Apr 17
You made an important point there. We have to look others pain through our own eyes as well. Often many people think that their problem is the biggest and like there is no solution to it and it's not worth living. But they forget that there is a lot of pain and problems in this world and many people are still living with it. The key is to stay strong among your loved ones and stay hopeful that one day all the problems will fade away.
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@dhoyalahoy (1414)
• Philippines
6 Apr 17
They're the bravest person living. Why? The problem they're bearing is heavier than us. The real issue is, who among his friends have ears to listen. They tend to be lonely and alone. But some of them were happy outside but broken inside. Friends and family must pay attention. Listen and listen than talking
@ryanalion47 (72)
• Pinellas Park, Florida
6 Apr 17
@dhoyalahoy Actually that would be depression. Sometimes depression is just a part of who you are. I was there for him. All of us kids from the block hung out DAILY. DAILY!!! Who wasn't around to listen? They all know I have problems. They can all come talk to me. I talk to them.
@dhoyalahoy (1414)
• Philippines
6 Apr 17
@ryanalion47 You are an amazing friend. I hope he's family as good as you.
@DanieGirl80587 (2713)
• United States
3 Apr 17
I'm so sorry for your loss. One of my very close friends took his own life 3 years ago and I was beyond shocked and sad for him. No one knew he was in such a dark place. I wished I could've been there more for him.
I've never been serious about taking my own life or self harm, but there have been times where I felt so alone and wondered if I did leave this earth or run away if anyone would even miss me. It's very tough battling you're own demons in your head. But you have to remember that life is a gift and to also remember that someone DOES love you and other people are fighting to live. Don't give in to the demons.
As for it being selfish? It depends on how you see it. In a way it is, but you also don't know what they are going through or how far they have come to really see no way out.
@redurnet (1799)
• United Kingdom
5 Apr 17
I agree with a lot of what you say. I do think that some people actually reject anything that could potentially help them because they don't feel ready to face things. I have been shocked by knowing people who have killed themselves. In a lot of cases in my life it has been men who maybe did not feel like they could be open and honest about how they felt.
@manasamanu (3746)
• Bangalore, India
3 Apr 17
This is something we cannot judge. The person when thinks of taking his own life, its not really an easy decision. He must have a hard heart and think of the worse situation that he might have faced. Yet it is not right to kill ourselves. God has given this life and only he has the right to take it
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