Well, well, well.....my ex husband has a girlfriend!!

@jerzgirl (9147)
United States
April 3, 2017 9:47pm CST
My daughter's been home since Thursday morning from attending her aunt's funeral and visiting with her family. She stayed with her father at his house. Just a bit ago she tells me. "Oh, I met Dad's new girlfriend. She's nice." New girlfriend?? Doesn't he currently have a wife?? I know they're separated. He met her while he was separated from me. Told her he was divorced when he wasn't. I wonder what he's told the new one? Is it cheating? I'm not sure. The wife still does things with him on weekends, but does she actually believe the marriage is over? I don't know.
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@Happy2BeMe (97571)
• Canada
4 Apr 17
Hard to say what he thinks. He is just not a one woman man I guess.
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@jerzgirl (9147)
• United States
4 Apr 17
Honestly, I don't think he cheated on me while we were together under the same roof. I think it was after I had filed for divorce that he found himself wife #3. But, honestly, I didn't think he'd do that again, especially since they were still on friendly terms (we weren't) and together every weekend. So, it was still a surprise to learn he was making moves yet again. He's getting too old for this crap!! LOL
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@Happy2BeMe (97571)
• Canada
4 Apr 17
@jerzgirl I guess he just can't be happy with any woman.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Apr 17
OPmcer a cheater he will go right on cheating any woman he is with iok kik
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@jerzgirl (9147)
• United States
4 Apr 17
He didn't cheat while we were together to my knowledge, Patsie. But, he did lie to her when he started seeing her. And got mad at ME because I told her we weren't divorced yet. So, that IS something I suspect he would do again. Certain behaviors definitely do repeat themselves.
@sol_cee (38224)
• Philippines
6 Apr 17
Your ex- he is still wandering.
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@jerzgirl (9147)
• United States
6 Apr 17
He's probably still lying at the very least.
@Hannihar (128891)
• Israel
3 Jan 18
It sounds like you are better off not being married to your ex. He sounds like a real liar.
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@jerzgirl (9147)
• United States
3 Jan 18
Our problem was his abusive nature and threats to my well-being. I have been much better off away from him, though I still love his family.
@Hannihar (128891)
• Israel
4 Jan 18
@jerzgirl Wendy, I can relate to being more healthy away from my ex and not having any animals near him again.
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4 Apr 17
It's complicated to say something...
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@jerzgirl (9147)
• United States
6 Apr 17
True - I'm not in their shoes to know what is going on.
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7 Apr 17
@jerzgirl That's right.
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@diosabella (4789)
4 Apr 17
He's probably doing the same thing over again.
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@jerzgirl (9147)
• United States
6 Apr 17
I can't say that he's done this multiple times, but I do believe he's doing with #3 what he did with me (#2). I had the advantage of knowing my predecessor was deceased.
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@jerzgirl (9147)
• United States
6 Apr 17
@diosabella He actually did more for me with all the negative behaviors then I'd have ever thought possible. I learned to do for mE and not for others only. I learned I was as important as anyone else. It's made a huge difference.
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6 Apr 17
@jerzgirl Godd for you! He will drive you nuts if you didn't get out.
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@AmbiePam (83860)
• United States
4 Apr 17
I would consider that cheating. And it seems like he has a habit of that since he wasn't divorced before he went out with his now soon to be ex while he was still married to you.
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@jerzgirl (9147)
• United States
6 Apr 17
I agree in the sense that the marriage is still on the books and especially since they still get together every weekend. But, they've also been apart for quite a while, so it probably doesn't feel like being married at this point. I was never able to go out while I was still married and then didn't want to go out once I was divorced. Still haven't in 28 years.
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@meticulo (1286)
• United States
4 Apr 17
Only the people involved knows the truth or what is really happening between them. I rather not say anything I might end up judging them when I don't really know the real score among them. But I hope everything is good with them.
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@jerzgirl (9147)
• United States
6 Apr 17
I guess I'm judging in a way, but more that I think it's funny. I had no idea he'd go looking again. To me, he's too old to be trying again (70), yet I don't feel my age inside, so he probably doesn't either. Then, I remembered he wasn't yet divorced, so I remembered when he got mad at me for telling Christie that he was still marred after he'd told her he wasn't. It's the lying that bothers me more than anything.
• Philippines
4 Apr 17
Is this really a cursed nature among men I guess I envy some of you to have learn to accept it.
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@jerzgirl (9147)
• United States
6 Apr 17
I got to the point where I didn't want him around, period. Yet, the day he actually remarried, I cried like a crazy woman. I surprised myself. Once it was out of my system, though, I didn't give a flying firetruck.
@Morleyhunt (21478)
• Canada
4 Apr 17
If they are separated I would think she realizes that the marriage is over.
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@jerzgirl (9147)
• United States
5 Apr 17
Yes and no. They went back and forth multiple times and they're together every weekend. He and I got along better when we weren't together every day and broke up and got back together multiple times. It wasn't until I filed for divorce that he began seeing someone. But, he lied to her about us being divorced. And, she was the kind that mattered to. Now she's in my position then. Did he do the same thing again?
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@Courtlynn (67003)
• United States
4 Apr 17
Sounds like a person whos cheating, and likes to do the same thing over and over again. But shouldn't your focus. Live your life and dont let anything he says or do get to you.. which does if you feel you need yo mention him. Learned in therapy
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@jerzgirl (9147)
• United States
6 Apr 17
I'll defend him on the over and over again part. I don't think he's doing this repeatedly. It took him a while after separating from this one for good before he got himself a girlfriend. But, my concern is more for her and whether she knows or doesn't know if he's still legally married. Or does she not care?