Should Women stay home after having a child?

@TRAK77 (202)
United States
November 26, 2006 1:46pm CST
I believe they should until the child is school age. It is very important to raise your children yoursel and not let someone else do it.
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@_hope_ (3906)
• Australia
26 Nov 06
that is a choice everyone needs to make for themselves Me personally i stayed at home with my five children to see them grow and to go through the different stages of growth it`s an amazing process and i wanted to be there as mother nature intended there are some people who don`t want this or maybe better said cant do it because of either todays financial demands or the fact it`s not for them wew are all different and people should not be made to take on this role if they don`t have their heart in it
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@PatriciaL (2080)
• United States
26 Nov 06
I would have to disagree. Some mothers can't stay at home, they have to go out and work. And also I really don't think that it's going to have a big effect on your baby.
@TRAK77 (202)
• United States
26 Nov 06
Thanks for the response. I completely disagree though. How can a child being without it's mother all day not have an affect??
@MakDomMom (1474)
• United States
26 Nov 06
my children were in an in home daycare up until about 3 months ago. They were very well nurtured in the care. How the child thrives away from the mom all day depends on the care they are given while the mom is away. The lady that was watching my kids treated them as if they were her own and they love her as a grandma.
@PatriciaL (2080)
• United States
27 Nov 06
I know that it won't cause any trauma because I know this from experience and I've been around babies like that and children that were raised like that. Have you seen evidence that is does have a bad effect on a child? I know that you have a little one of your own but it's fine.
@jjn1983 (1353)
• United States
26 Nov 06
My baby - My Son playing under the coffee table
i went back to work when my son was about 2 months old. I wish i didnt have to do it. My husband stayed home with him. The only babysitter he has ever had is my sister, or a close friend. Now i stay home with my son, we moved to arizona, and my husband works now. I love it but my son is so spoiled because he is with me all the time. It is going to be hard to leave him with a babysitter...when it is time to do so.
@TRAK77 (202)
• United States
26 Nov 06
Even though you had to go back to work you still made sure a PARENT was with your baby. that is so wonderful to hear. I love hearing how couples CAN make it work.
@jjn1983 (1353)
• United States
26 Nov 06
Its very hard...i can't imagine it without my husband.
@Cortney (3982)
• United States
26 Nov 06
I think that it is better for the mother to stay home as long as they can. it is better for bonding with the child. but if you can not stay home, it doesn't make you a bad parent. we had to do what we need to do to support our families.
• India
26 Nov 06
i think is good for the mother to stay at home for the kid... atleast till the kid is bout 10-12 yrs... a mother is very imp for the child's growth... n there are a lot of things that can be done from home too....
@TRAK77 (202)
• United States
26 Nov 06
Thanks for the comments. I am glad to see others see the importance of being in your childs life. As far as being a "bad" parent..no I don't think it makes you bad persay, just neglectful, even if you HAVE to work, you are still neglecting your child to an extent, whether or not it is intentional.
@Metallion (2228)
• United States
26 Nov 06
It would be great if they can afford it, but it's not always reasonable financially for that to happen.
@TRAK77 (202)
• United States
26 Nov 06
Thanks for the comment. I don't understand why someone would be selfish enough to have a child that they had no intention of raising themselves though.
@PhonetiX (339)
26 Nov 06
yeah i totally agree with you. i think also that, it is aa good idea to get back out again or back to work again. it would do your confidence a world of good
@TRAK77 (202)
• United States
26 Nov 06
What about your child's confidence?
• United States
26 Nov 06
I'm a stay at home mom and plan to be until there both in school. I won't ever get this time back with them.
@TRAK77 (202)
• United States
26 Nov 06
Glad to hear it! I think there is such a stereotype on stay-at-home mothers today. I never thought I would see the day when you were actually thought of as a bad parent for NOT leaving your kids with a sitter to go to work, but here it is. I'm glad you are doing what is best for your children, not your pocketbook. Bless you.
@ajcffmn (35)
• United States
28 Nov 06
I agree but some people do not have this option.
• India
27 Nov 06
Absolutely....!!! I plan to be a stay-at-home mom once I have a child....
• United States
27 Nov 06
I believe it is up to the mother in question. But I do believe that children benifit much more by having a mother at home that will teach them, love them and give them an example to set for when they have their own children. I have been a stay at home mother for five years. I did work with my first daughter and the only downfall that I can see is that my oldest has no qualms about leaving me when she has to. But my 4 and 2 year olds cant stand to be away from me. Which sometimes can be very annoying.
@rash219 (808)
• United States
27 Nov 06
i think its better if both the parents stay at home not necessarily at the same time...it important for both the mom n dad create a bond with their new born child...
@amy0214 (1513)
• United States
27 Nov 06
As long as they can afford it.
@malsun (1528)
• United States
27 Nov 06
it has to be the mother's choice. i know of women who can manage both work and house very well. but if there is an opportunity for her to take time off for few years than it would do her and the new baby a lot of good. i have a one year old kid and my wife is at home. but that has been her choice and i have supported her.
@willywill (352)
• Turkey
27 Nov 06
i do not know now
• India
27 Nov 06
I was working in a Government office but resigned after having my son. Everybody was against my idea of leaving a government job but I was adamant. My mother was working and I had felt her need many times. I think I had made up my mind at that stage itself that I would not go out to work if I had a child. I too believe that a child needs a mother's care upto a stage. Unfortunately, this decision can't be taken by the woman alone, no, in most cases.
@sanell (2113)
• United States
27 Nov 06
I do agree, but I think that when the husband has the burden of bringing home the paycheck it can get very nervewrecking for him and the wife when the paycheck has been reduced down to just one instead of two....so I say to allow for women to find other ways to earn as long as they can stay at home with the kids....that is what I do, if you are ever interested in learning more just let me know, I have many ways to help many moms who want to stay home and need to still bring home some extra dollars! http://www.mymommyswebsite.com
@mansha (6301)
• India
26 Nov 06
I have opted to do so.Kids need you so many times.I hate leaving my kids alone at home or with maids.I have found many times other people neglect them and with rise in child abuse cases I am scared to trust anyone alone with my child on regular basis.
@pooja_cg (1735)
• India
26 Nov 06
it depends on circumstances .if earning i s for ur livelihood or situations does not permit u to leave the job,u cant do anything.even working people can be good parents.child needs quality time nd not that mom is around him everytime.
@mayammb (1816)
• Australia
26 Nov 06
yes the mom should be near the child until she starts going to school.
@Artsimba (1335)
• United States
26 Nov 06
I totally agree if its possible, that is the best way.