I almost called the Police.
By Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
Davao, Philippines
April 19, 2017 9:11am CST
I was busy working on my requirements online because I was applying for a customer service online. And at the same time cooking our food for our dinner when my second brother went inside the house, telling his children to go home. From where he is, I can smell him he is drunk.
Our mother told him to be still and have his kids eat dinner with us. Then he started picking a fight with me. He told me things about money and everything. I got mad and started shouting. He was trying to punch me and I stood still right in front of him.
I told him if he still going to do that I will call the police and have him arrested for assaulting me. This is not the first time he does that to me. Every time he's drunk, he always picks a fight with me when I didn't do anything to him.
The boyfriend was so furious when I told him and he said, we will go to the Police station tomorrow and have him blotter there.
Do you think it's the right thing to do?
Image I took from google.com
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12 responses
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
20 Apr 17
I think your mother should talk to you both first about what is making him so angry like that whenever he is drunk. Maybe he has a grudge at you that he cannot muster to tell when he is sober. Perhaps, your mother can make both of you reconcile with whatever the real problem is.
If that cannot be solved then next time you can call the police indeed. It will serve him a big lesson.
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@louievill (28846)
• Philippines
19 Apr 17
I think there is a deeper root cause of this problem
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@louievill (28846)
• Philippines
19 Apr 17
@JustBhem who owns the house? Is your father still alive? I would like to share you what I know based on Philippine laws. How many siblings are you?
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
19 Apr 17
@louievill
My parents, yes. My Father is still alive but he is not here. Mom and he got separated 2 years ago but he still goes here every day. We are 6, and I am the eldest. Please share what you know. Thanks.
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@marguicha (230365)
• Chile
19 Apr 17
By all means. And let him stay away from you. He might be dangerous.
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@marguicha (230365)
• Chile
19 Apr 17
@JustBhem I´m sure that they will help if you tell them how agressive he is when he is drunk.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
19 Apr 17
@marguicha
Yes. I'm worried about myself for I can't defend myself anymore. I am sick. I don't have enough strength to fight him,
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@allknowing (153529)
• India
20 Apr 17
Handling a drunk is an art and you should learn that art
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@allknowing (153529)
• India
21 Apr 17
@JustBhem When a person is drunk he is not normal and therefore that is not the time to tackle anything.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
21 Apr 17
@allknowing
For many times I tried to ignore him when he starts picking a fight. For I don't want to create commotion but he is the one pushing me to do that.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
20 Apr 17
that is the better thing to do, have him blotter-ed. he is the only one person doing this, right? how dare he do that to you, and he knows you are sick.
is he your real sibling? isn't he a stepbrother?
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
21 Apr 17
@JustBhem well, maybe he is the black sheep of your family? it is sometimes difficult to deal with these kinds of people.
@allen0187 (59828)
• Philippines
21 Apr 17
Sounds like your brother needs help. Going to the police to report him isn't the help he needs.
@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
20 Apr 17
Looks like he's putting off his frustrations on you because of his pressure of daily life having five kids. That's not fair because your a family, they shouldn't do this to you. Most specially after the commitment you made towards your mother.
Makes me lucky that I got a brother that were decent enough to move out when they had a family.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
20 Apr 17
Thanks. I don't know what his problem. All I know, I didn't do anything to him and his kids or his wife. They are the one who did something to me. He thinks he is the elder. He wants to take control of everything and it's been going for years now. I know when is too much. I just need more patience.
@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
19 Apr 17
If you're going to do anything, it should be now after he tried to punch you. Not tomorrow. Family or not, noone should be like that
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@Hannihar (130150)
• Israel
14 Sep 17
What will happen if you go to the police station? Will they do something? Do you want him to go to jail and for how long? Will it help, but, is there another way to teach him a lesson?
@spiderdust (14756)
• San Jose, California
19 Apr 17
If your brother gets violent and unpredictable when he drinks, then yes... you should report it. Especially if he has young children! Were they safe around him? I'd definitely be concerned. In fact, I AM concerned.
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@spiderdust (14756)
• San Jose, California
20 Apr 17
@JustBhem That's a very serious problem. Call the police.
