fight between the Self-respect and Ego
@AnthOcean (407)
June 9, 2017 1:15am CST
I was in this situation today. I had a word clash with my roommate. She asked me for a favor. She asked me for a fake date with the person she has crush on. A Fake Date just to know if he is a good man. Good trick. But i don't favor this method.
I said no to her.
then began this world war of high valued sentiments and disagreements between us.
Point 1. i don't want to date someone. this is personal. And so it came on my Self-respect.
Point 2. I did not like this idea of Fake Date. It would be only me there who would know that it was a fake. this is exactly like cheating someone. i would not do that. Self respect again.
Point 3. I am not helping my friend in this regard. She said it was my Ego. Is it really?
i said her if you like him just go and talk to him. But the question was to know about the purity of his soul in this century and about his dedication to her in every aspect.
Ohh.. it's so much.
How should i help her?
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@AnthOcean (407)
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10 Jun 17
hahahha.. Actually yes, this is also the reason i didn't try this fake date. Because what you said come real, i would definitely end breaking someone's heart. And this will be no good to anyone of us.
@AnthOcean (407)
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10 Jun 17
@prashu228 Thank you for support. I am not helping her in this way. And i'll never be.
@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
9 Jun 17
I think it is more to do with self respect than ego here.
But I still dont get the story. Your roommate wanted you to go out with a boy she like? To see if he is a good man? But why does she want to find out if this boy is a good boy or not, so she stops liking him if he is bad? Then this is not love...
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@AnthOcean (407)
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10 Jun 17
yeah, exactly. You got it correct. I don't understand since when the love is conditional. If it's her love or just crush.. it must be she to find out.
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
10 Jun 17
@AnthOcean and what happen if that boy is falling for you, or you falling for him? and he is also a good man? So does she still want you to go out with him?
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@AnthOcean (407)
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12 Jun 17
@atoz1to10 you said it all so correctly. This is all i have been trying to make her understand. But she failed. Now i think she must be understanding all these. 
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@m_audrey6788 (58482)
• Germany
9 Jun 17
Wow you are such a great friend..same here..I will not help a friend who will use me to cheat someone just to give her satisfaction..I suggest that you tell her that if she likes someone just be herself and if that man really is for her then it will be..A long lasting relationship usually comes from being a friend and then develops Love..
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@m_audrey6788 (58482)
• Germany
10 Jun 17
@AnthOcean ..I have the same friend like yours but I gave her time to calm..She will realize it in time, for me she can think whatever she likes to think but as long as I know that what I did was for her own good, Then, nothing is wrong not helping her. 
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@AnthOcean (407)
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10 Jun 17
yeah. I said the same to her. But you know, sometimes our mind is so well blocked that no matter what people say to you.. it will remain stubborn not to change the topic, not to understand the thing.. and stay over the blame game.
She is not ready to listen to me. Whatever i say she just says that i am not there to help her. What shall i do to her now.
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@AnthOcean (407)
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11 Jun 17
@m_audrey6788 Thank you very much. your these words are very relieving for it came after an experience. yes i too have kept myself on hold to show no aggression and also not to leave my decision of not helping her with this idea.
I am wishing the time shall come with some healing thing 
@prashu228 (37525)
• India
9 Jun 17
It's not ego .she is wrong. She should not use you to cross check some one. What if he turns bad, and fake and you will be in danger. You life is precious for you.
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@AnthOcean (407)
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10 Jun 17
yes, this is what i have been telling her. She says no.. he is a good man. I ask if he is so great then why she fearing so much?
She says it's your ego that you are not helping me(friend).
i hope she will understand it soon.
@josie_ (9780)
• Philippines
10 Jun 17
@AnthOcean _Why don't you just make the introduction and let them take it from there. Chaperone her.
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@AnthOcean (407)
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12 Jun 17
@josie_ yes, this idea had hit my mind. I told her this. But since she is so shy.. that she is refusing this idea all the time.
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@AnthOcean (407)
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10 Jun 17
i suggested this to her. Yes, she is shy. And i am frank enough to say hello to person i meet. This why she chose me. But i am unable to help her on this regard.
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