NEVER COMING BACK.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

June 11, 2017 6:22pm CST

I could never forget the sadness felt in our home on that day when my eldest sister left on a jet plane for a foreign land. Of course, we knew that she would be back - that we would be seeing her again in a few years, but still, there was a very empty feeling in the house after her departure. Now, just a year ago - in June my sister left again, but this time we knew that she wasn't coming back - she died. It was and still is a difficult time for family members left behind. Will the pain ever go away? I don't know . For the past year I have tried everything to deal with it, but nothing seems to be working. How do you cope when you lose a beloved family member and you never had the chance to say goodbye.

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@Nawsheen (28761)

• Mauritius

12 Jun 17

It takes time to overcome this pain. It is not easy. I lost one of my good friends four years ago. She was very young. She just went away quietly. We still talk about her and miss her. Time is a great healer

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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12 Jun 17

It is still very fresh in my mind.

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@LovingMyBabies (85923)

• Valdosta, Georgia

12 Jun 17

I'm so sorry for the loss of your sister. I don't think the pain ever goes away. =(

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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12 Jun 17

Right now I feel like it never will.

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@jaboUK (64346)

• United Kingdom

12 Jun 17

We all have to cope in our own way I suppose. So sorry about your sister.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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12 Jun 17

Yes, I must find a way to cope.

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@franxav (14588)

• India

12 Jun 17

Gd will give you strength to get over it.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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12 Jun 17

I know he will.

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@Deepizzaguy (122067)

• Lake Charles, Louisiana

12 Jun 17

Just hope and pray that I will see my relatives again in the next lifetime.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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12 Jun 17

That is what I am hoping too.

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@luispas (1674)

• Venezuela

13 Jun 17

:( I can feel what you say, and I'm so sorry for you and your family. All I can say it's that the only thing that will help you with this is the Time, you need so much time, and we don't get over this things, we just learn how to live with this facts. I send you a huge hug

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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13 Jun 17

Thank you, I need one right now.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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13 Jun 17

@luispas I am getting a lot of those. They are the only kind possible online.

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@luispas (1674)

• Venezuela

13 Jun 17

@Kandae11 *psychological hug*

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@Sreekala (34312)

• India

12 Jun 17

It is very difficult to cope with such situations. I think time is the best healer. Still their memory haunts us.

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@Sreekala (34312)

• India

12 Jun 17

@Kandae11 As I told you time is the only healer.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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12 Jun 17

Right now I feel this memory will haunt me forever.

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@TiarasOceanView (70020)

• United States

12 Jun 17

How old was she Kandase? Where was she still in a foreign place and what happened to her? So sorry to hear this. Well I know that those who I have lost, I have felt such great grief that it lessens with time, but it never goes away. So in order to deal with this, I have made it a point of looking forward to the day I see them again. It is so hard to remember I understand when we get a photo that reminds us.

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@TiarasOceanView (70020)

• United States

12 Jun 17

@Kandae11 That makes it even harder when a person leaves us at such a young age, with so much to look forward to in life.

I am sorry for your sadness. RIP your beloved Sister.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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12 Jun 17

What I'll say is that she was too young to die - she was so full of life. She was a fashion designer and owned a boutique in a neighboring island.

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@DianneN (254949)

• United States

12 Jun 17

I am so terribly sorry. My husband lost his older brother last June, too, and his middle brother in June 10 years ago. Not a happy month.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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12 Jun 17

I am sorry about your husband's loss too. June is supposed to be a happy month - but not for everyone.

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@DianneN (254949)

• United States

12 Jun 17

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@just4him (323168)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

12 Jun 17

I'm so sorry for your loss. Everyone grieves in their own way. It can take years or days. You can't force it to come to an end. Grief doesn't work that way.

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@just4him (323168)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

12 Jun 17

@Kandae11 Take it one day at a time.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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12 Jun 17

Thank. I'll just have to find a way.

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@RubyHawk (99367)

• Atlanta, Georgia

13 Jun 17

It's devastating but we handle it as best we can. I've had the experience and it's a fight every day. I have no advice to make it better.

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@RubyHawk (99367)

• Atlanta, Georgia

14 Jun 17

@Kandae11 That's true. I can't think of anything that helps but time and going forward

@Kandae11 (57233)

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13 Jun 17

I understand. Everyone deals with it the best way they can.

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@Happy2BeMe (99353)

• Canada

12 Jun 17

So sorry for your loss. It is so difficult to lose a loved one. You just take it day to day. Sorry you never got the chance to say good bye

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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12 Jun 17

She never liked worrying us about anything, so we didn't know the real situation until it was too late.

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@Happy2BeMe (99353)

• Canada

12 Jun 17

@Kandae11 That makes it even more sad.

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@WriterAI (5373)

• Bulgaria

12 Jun 17

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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12 Jun 17

It is.

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@WriterAI (5373)

• Bulgaria

13 Jun 17

@Kandae11 It's a heavy, difficult and long topic.

@ShifaLk (17811)

• India

17 Jun 17

Oh no. So sad to hear. May God bless you all. It's really a very big loss....

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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17 Jun 17

It is hard, but I know she won't want us to grieve too much.

@jstory07 (148701)

• Roseburg, Oregon

13 Jun 17

That is terrible when you loss a sibling. I lose my brother five years ago.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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13 Jun 17

Sorry about your brother. Now I know the feeling.

@valmnz (17095)

• New Zealand

13 Jun 17

Hang on and remind yourself of all the happy memories.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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13 Jun 17

Thanks. I'll try.

@bluesa (15022)

• Johannesburg, South Africa

13 Jun 17

I am so sorry @Kandae11 , I do not know how I will cope. I only hope that with time the hurt will lessen for you. You could maybe light a candle and take a moment to reminisce and say goodbye. May she rest in peace, and strength to you.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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13 Jun 17

I plan to do several portraits of her as a memorial.

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@sol_cee (38669)

• Philippines

13 Jun 17

I am so sorry to hear about your sister..In time. In time.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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13 Jun 17

I hope so. It is very difficult.

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@CRK109 (14556)

• United States

13 Jun 17

For me, it all depends on the person and the relationship. Some pain lessens over time. Some just never seems to ease up. I guess, the deeper the love, the deeper we grieve over the loss. I'm so very sorry for your loss. Wish I could give you a hug.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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14 Jun 17

Thank you for the kind words. I must say my Mylot family have managed to make me feel a bit better at this time. Last Sunday was the first anniversary of her passing.

@josie_ (10033)

• Philippines

14 Jun 17

We have to live with the pain. It never really goes away. But I sense some guilt in your not having a chance to say goodbye. You have to let that go.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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14 Jun 17

Not guilt, but sadness. It wasn't my fault.

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