Who To Blame?

By TT
@atoz1to10 (6781)
Australia
June 14, 2017 9:22pm CST
I had a conversation with a parent at my son's school about their homework. She told me that her son didn't want to do much homework and that he was lazy. This makes me wonder. Who should be blamed for being lazy? The parent or the child.
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@Shavkat (137238)
• Philippines
15 Jun 17
I think it depends on the situation. If the parent didn't try to help the child, then perhaps it is their fault. If the parents had tried to help the child and child refused to do so, I think the child is really the problem.
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
16 Jun 17
Yes you are not wrong here. I believe if we ''train'' when they are little (give out the time they have to do their homework) then it will be easier for them to get used to the rountine.
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@Shavkat (137238)
• Philippines
16 Jun 17
@atoz1to10 I agree. It always starts with the parents.
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
18 Jun 17
@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
15 Jun 17
It is the parent's duty to motivate the child to do the homework.the parent must also support the child. If the child is lazy the parents must try to change the child's attitude towards homework
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
16 Jun 17
I totally agree with you... I believe no child will enjoy doing his homework when his parents sitting there watching tv or talking on the phone.
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• United States
15 Jun 17
Ultimately does the son do homework though? Child can be lazy, but eventually gets it done. I don't think a lot of children looks forward to doing homework.
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• United States
16 Jun 17
@atoz1to10 No homework at all? It's summer right?
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
16 Jun 17
Believe it or not, I am relieved whenever I find out that my son doesn't have homework. Less stress for me.
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
18 Jun 17
@infatuatedbby he does have homework, but when the teacher is busy she give her students a project to do. Children have 2 weeks to go then another break.
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@prashu228 (37525)
• India
15 Jun 17
If the homework is too much , then we can't blame the child. Too much of work should not be given to children. They loose their inretest
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
16 Jun 17
Yes, I agree. Even myself getting tired of supervising/helping my son when he is doing his homework.
• United States
15 Jun 17
I would say it depends. But then again, I tend to sit back and stay out of what other parents are doing. You parent your kids, I'll parent mine. Simple
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
16 Jun 17
I agree...and no comparing as well.
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
18 Jun 17
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• United States
16 Jun 17
@atoz1to10 absolutely, every kid is different :)
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@vsai2008 (11796)
• India
15 Jun 17
Child can be moulded to do things, so i guess both parents n teachers :)
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
18 Jun 17
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
16 Jun 17
Yes, I agree.
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@vsai2008 (11796)
• India
16 Jun 17
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@youless (112146)
• Guangzhou, China
21 Jun 17
I think it is very normal that students don't want more homework as well as adults don't want to work more. But it is not very right to judge her son is lazy. He may need to find what will be interesting for him.
@youless (112146)
• Guangzhou, China
21 Jun 17
@atoz1to10 The adults are usually responsible and therefore they will behave better than children.
@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
21 Jun 17
Yes, children will always be children. They want to play more than study. Adults, especially if they have to work, will not want to do anymore extra work.. But sometimes they need to make an effort in encouraging their children in doing their homework.
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
21 Jun 17
@youless I hope so too. I myself have to sit with my son when he is doing his homework, but my brother in law (he stays home and my sister goes to work) expects his son to do his homework but doesn't supervise the boy...
@marguicha (216108)
• Chile
15 Jun 17
The teacher could share part of the responsibility. And of course the parents. The grown ups should motivate the children to want to learn.
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
16 Jun 17
This is why whenever supervising/helping my son doing his homework, I try to make it enjoyable.
@allknowing (130247)
• India
16 Jun 17
I would actually do away with homework. Kids need to spend some quality with their homebodies.
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@allknowing (130247)
• India
16 Jun 17
@atoz1to10 Depend on oneself for amusement is more a rule than an exception these days
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
16 Jun 17
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
16 Jun 17
Yes, children these days spend so much time playing (by themselves) on their ipad and xbox.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
15 Jun 17
How our children act is an effect of how they were raised plus the external factors in their life. My son is lazy in doing his homework too but he gets it done and I supervise a lot in his school work. I just want him to have that study habit.
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
16 Jun 17
I agree. I supervise/help my son too.
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@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
15 Jun 17
It depends, if the kid is still very young then the burden would be on the parent. Even before the kid goes to school, the home or the parents are the first influencers and character molders of the kids. The home sets the foundation for which other environmental aspects of learning picks up on, like school. Maybe the kid needs more guidance from them? Or maybe sees an example close by to mimic the behavior?
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
16 Jun 17
You have said it too good and I agree to all. This boy I am talking about is in grade 3, so he is going to have more homework as he's getting older.
@tzwrites (4835)
• Romania
16 Jun 17
Both but some kids are really difficult to handle. I don't think the parents can really force them to do the homework.
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@tzwrites (4835)
• Romania
16 Jun 17
@atoz1to10 Yes, the parents definitely have a big role in shaping the child's attitude towards homework.
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
18 Jun 17
@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
16 Jun 17
I think so too. But if we make it more interesting, or doing the homework with them, hopefully they will do it.
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@gilggg (2538)
• Israel
15 Jun 17
Parents must instill habits for their children from an early age, including doing homework homework should be a good experience, it also depends on the teacher and the parent the way they are presented to the child. Parents need to set an example in the conduct that laziness is a disadvantage in life.
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
16 Jun 17
Yes, I agree that parents should be a role model for their children to look up to.
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@luispas (1674)
• Venezuela
15 Jun 17
Of course who have the blame it's his parent. The house is our first school, and what he's learning from her it's not too good. It happens all the time, parents don't like to do their job.
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
18 Jun 17
@luispas I agree. Children can be lazy but the parents can find a way to make them do their homework.
@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
16 Jun 17
I was thinking of putting the blame on this parent as well. I know she is working part time, but if she wants her son to do his homework and do them all, she needs to set a time for him to do it.
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@luispas (1674)
• Venezuela
16 Jun 17
@atoz1to10 Exactly, she need to put his' son education as a priority, if she doesn't he will do what he wants and won't learn nothing good.
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