Holidays
@BellasmamaTiff (2544)
United States
November 26, 2006 10:36pm CST
If you are divorced, or separated, where do your children go for holidays? My ex's family wants to take my daughter on Christmas, and I want her with me! My ex is in prison, and has NEVER seen his daughter. His family has had no contact with me until now, asking to start seeing her on holidays. What do I do? I don't want to keep her from her family, but, I have been the sole provider, and am afraid they will take her to the prison to see him. I have no problem with him seeing her, I just have a problem with my daughter as young as she is seeing the inside of a prison, and connecting that experience with her father! What do I do?
2 responses
@Justme2007 (1848)
• United States
30 Nov 06
Please don't do this to your baby she won't miss what she hasn't had. prison is not a place for children, plus it will be crowded. do you want people and their germs all over your baby? If they haven't asked to see her before be very careful because you don't know what will happen. I wouldn't do it but its your choice
@euniceeleanor (5966)
• Singapore
27 Nov 06
hmm..that's really tough, huh? i dont think it's wise to let your daughter be with his family during the holidays season since they have not bothered to keep in touch before. if they really intend to bring a small girl to see the father in prison...hmm...why dont you bring her yourself instead? but i will advise not to if you daughter is too small to understand.
@BellasmamaTiff (2544)
• United States
27 Nov 06
Its really a brain buster what to do in this situation. Im really stressed about it. I mean, I want her to know who her real father is, but she is 19 months old, and has NEVER been around him because he went to prison when I was around 6 months pregnant. And, I am too scared to take her there myself, I am afraid of what could happen while we are there. No matter how much security they claim to have, you really just never know. I watch the news.
@BellasmamaTiff (2544)
• United States
27 Nov 06
Its really a brain buster what to do in this situation. Im really stressed about it. I mean, I want her to know who her real father is, but she is 19 months old, and has NEVER been around him because he went to prison when I was around 6 months pregnant. And, I am too scared to take her there myself, I am afraid of what could happen while we are there. No matter how much security they claim to have, you really just never know. I watch the news.
@euniceeleanor (5966)
• Singapore
27 Nov 06
hmm..in that case, why dont you wait until he's out from prison then only let him see your daughter? i guess it's the best way in this situation. Whatever it is you do, have to put your daughter first..i think she's too young to understands still.
