Why are some people so mean?
By Sissy15
@sissy15 (12269)
United States
September 7, 2017 11:34pm CST
You ever wonder why some people are so hateful? I often wonder that. Today I was at the store picking out a donut, I didn't realize anyone was behind me because no one was even around when I got there. Had I realized I would have been quicker about it but no one even alerted me to their presence.
As I made my last selection I realized there was someone behind me but went to close the door to the donuts because I didn't know if she knew what she wanted but she gave some attitude and told me not to shut it. My husband was not happy with her and made a comment. She then got so irritated and yelled to keep on walking because we don't want to deal with her attitude. I never once said anything, this woman was rude enough to also cut in front of the guy that was originally there and gave the workers there a hard time too.
I don't like conflict so I do my best to avoid it but I often wonder what is wrong with some people that they need to be so hateful to everyone around them? I don't waste my time on people like that and refuse to bring myself down to their level not that I haven't wanted to a time or two but all it does is create more issues, they think they've won but they haven't. In reality, they are the ones who lose. Being a child doesn't make them the winner, people assume they win when someone walks away but a lot of the time it's because they aren't worth wasting your time or resources on. People like that will never be persuaded with logic and to argue with them only makes you look like a bigger idiot than them.
It's so easy to let anger take over but today I refused and I walked away and I had my husband walk away because to start a fight with someone like that would only bring us down to her level, and I never want to be so hateful and spiteful that I feel the need to argue with a stranger over something so stupid. I don't want to live in a world where I'm angry over nothing. If she wants to be rude and make enemies let her. I am not going to be one of them. One day she will tick off the wrong person and that will be on her.
I mean we all have bad days and sometimes we do or say things we wouldn't otherwise say but I've never taken it out on strangers over something so small. I have been irritated but I have never yelled or been rude to people because of my bad day so I will never understand those that are. Maybe she's normally a decent person, who really knows, maybe she had an off day but I do know if she keeps up that attitude she will make the wrong person angry and I do believe in Karma. All I can do is speculate but I do know that at least I can say I didn't bring myself down to her level. Sure, I wasn't happy with her but as the day went on I let it go, and I'm not upset talking about it now but I often do wonder what makes people that way? I suppose it could be one of many things but I'm just happy I am not like that.
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17 responses
@sissy15 (12269)
• United States
8 Sep 17
@Courtlynn lol, it's part of the whole "If you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all" approach. I've found it works for me.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
8 Sep 17
Well, obviously that lady was hangry and you were preventing her from getting her donut! 
Seriously though, I don't know why people are like this. Some people are just angry at the world and want the rest of the world to be miserable with them. There are so many people who just have confrontational attitudes and seem to go out looking for a fight. You are the better person for walking away and not even acknowledging her petty attitude. Some day she will confront the wrong person and then who knows what karma will have in store for her.
Seriously though, I don't know why people are like this. Some people are just angry at the world and want the rest of the world to be miserable with them. There are so many people who just have confrontational attitudes and seem to go out looking for a fight. You are the better person for walking away and not even acknowledging her petty attitude. Some day she will confront the wrong person and then who knows what karma will have in store for her.3 people like this
@sissy15 (12269)
• United States
8 Sep 17
Haha, of course. I get mean when I'm hangry too but I'm not super confrontational I just snap more easily but I am definitely not just plain mean.
Yeah, I hate to see the dose of karma coming her way. I'd like to give her the benefit of the doubt and say maybe she was just having a bad day but most people aren't that mean on their bad day. Usually, people like that are mean all the time. People like that think they're cool for being all big and bad when in reality they look like a bully. They're the kind of people I'd love to smack at times but ultimately wouldn't do it because it's not worth the jail time lol. Regardless I know I did the right thing but it took some will power. It's easy to let anger get the better of me but I let it go and walked away.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
9 Sep 17
@TheHorse Yes, yes she is. You don't want to mess with a hangry woman. Just throw food at her and back away slowly. 
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@mildredtabitha (16087)
• Nairobi, Kenya
8 Sep 17
I don't blame anyone. Some people don't know what they are doing unless we sit down and talk to them on a personal level. Some people might be sick. You can only understand when you are in their shoes
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@sissy15 (12269)
• United States
8 Sep 17
Maybe, but it doesn't matter what your personal life situation is it's not an excuse to be mean and hateful to others. I have had a lot of bad life experiences but I'm not mean to those around me. I mean it's sad that they feel the need to be mean to those around them but it's not an excuse. Some people are that way even when they're not sick or going through anything currently, and I've met people who think they're above others because they were spoiled as children. While there are a thousand reasons for people to act that way, ultimately there is never an excuse. If you want others to be nice to you, you need to be nice to others. I do my best to be nice to everyone even those who may not deserve it because I'm an adult and I know that the way I act towards people is a reflection of myself. I know that arguing and being mean doesn't get me anywhere in life. I may not like some people and therefore won't go out of my way to be nice but I also am not mean to them.
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@zainkhan121 (805)
• Pakistan
8 Sep 17
I think the atmosphere and the impact of others' behaviour develop some people's personality into such a way that we find them mean and dislikeable.
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@Ithink (9980)
• United States
8 Sep 17
Some people are just rude, sometimes I think it is because they think they are better then others. Some I think are just unhappy and miserable and want to see others that way too. I think it shows how smart and what a good person you are for just walking away.
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@sissy15 (12269)
• United States
8 Sep 17
Thank you, and I think you're right. I'll never understand people like that but it's not my job to. I know I did the right thing even if it wasn't the easiest but now I feel better for it way better than I would have had I said or did something.
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@m_audrey6788 (58482)
• Germany
8 Sep 17
I guess so..wondering too 
You`re trying to understand them but still so angry maybe, not for me of being so friendly
You`re trying to understand them but still so angry maybe, not for me of being so friendly 2 people like this
@TheHorse (207500)
• Walnut Creek, California
9 Sep 17
Is this a summary of her life?
She is loving her new job which simultaneously pays her $100,000/year and fulfills her life-long need to help the poor. She turned down a modeling deal because she wants to keep working at her fulfilling new job. Last night, she and her husband made gentle love for three hours that resulted in simultaneous and explosive ...you know...for both partners. They fell asleep warm in each others' arms. This morning, she got a call from an old fried who just wanted to tell her how much she appreciates their friendship. She has always been a happy person, but since she found Jesus/Moses/Buddhism/meditation, she sees the eyes of God in everyone she meets.
If this is NOT a summary of her life, or even close, then you catch my drift.
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@sissy15 (12269)
• United States
11 Sep 17
Yeah, being unhappy in your life is reason enough to be angry, but I think happiness is being happy with what you have and not what you don't have. Sure that's not her life summary but it isn't the life summary of most people even though we all wish it were lol. I'm sure she'll get a wake-up call one day, hopefully, because if she doesn't I foresee a pretty bleak future for her. Your attitude to the world tends to open up or close doors for you. If you know how to be happy then you're going to be happy despite your current circumstances, not to say we don't all have moments where we aren't happy but some of us are definitely better at it than others.
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@just4him (308536)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
9 Sep 17
I wouldn't mind having that kind of life summary, but I sincerely doubt that's the summary of her life. Probably just the opposite.
@sissy15 (12269)
• United States
8 Sep 17
@vsai2008 No, I'm not and I'm glad I'm not. I mean we all have breaking points and I have yelled a time or two when I felt backed into a corner despite doing my best to try and get my point across but some people just don't listen and I think that's when I finally let loose. I have gone off on someone who was constantly messaging my husband but she was also doing it off and on for 7 years so I finally let her have it but it takes me a lot to get to that point.
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@Behindtheguitarbar (2831)
• Guangdong, China
8 Sep 17
There is no reason why they just misbehave themselves. You did right, just left away and avoid these guys. If the anger arised from those people, then we will be down to the low level like the rudes.
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@Behindtheguitarbar (2831)
• Guangdong, China
9 Sep 17
@sissy15 yes, there is never a good excuse to be mean or rude. Just let it be.
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@happymuslimah1 (18)
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8 Sep 17
It is better to ignore people like that. You did the best thing ignoring her.
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@snowy22315 (171149)
• United States
9 Sep 17
All kinds in the world unfortunately!
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@kobesbuddy (75074)
• East Tawas, Michigan
9 Sep 17
I've experienced people like that, also. The best way to deal with it, is just walk away and try to forget what happened. Some people are chronically angry, regardless of the circumstances:(
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@sissy15 (12269)
• United States
12 Sep 17
@kobesbuddy Thank you, it takes some serious self-restraint but glad I did it.
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@kobesbuddy (75074)
• East Tawas, Michigan
11 Sep 17
@sissy15 You did what was right and that's something to be very proud of!:)
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@blessedLIZ (198)
• Indonesia
9 Sep 17
Some people are mean caused by the influence that they had. For instance, in their family: maybe her parents are always angry and they cannot do anything so to release it, they use other people as their rebound OR their parents are very pampering to them and it could be okay to act as mean since they think that their parents feel okay about that and impossible to get angry with them.
. Or they are bullied by environment. Basically, they do not want to mean, but since the environment made them so to other people, they are mean and feel that other people shall be treated like that, in other means: revenge.
So, if we meet some mean people, do not get some conclusion because they are born to be mean. We have to find out first.
In case, they are mean by no reason. Just let them go. You are way too perfect for people who have mean character.
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