She's NOT His Mother, or Anything to Him

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My boyfriend of 10 years has a very complicated and dysfunctional family. He has six half-siblings from his biological father (that he knows of; there are allegedly more out there) and he's only ever met two of them. One half-sister actually moved in with us for a couple years, but that's a story for another time. After the experience of having her live with us, I have absolutely no desire to meet any of the other half-siblings. They all have the same mental and behavioral problems that she does, because their mom was a dope addict who wouldn't give up the drugs when she was pregnant. Anyway. The most messed up of his half-siblings is the youngest boy, "D". All of the half-siblings were adopted out to different families when they were little, and they didn't find each other until they were older. Well the youngest boy, D, is so messed up his own adopted parents TRIED TO RETURN HIM and only kept him because they would be arrested for child abandonment otherwise. Which is all kinds of messed up, but after hearing about how bad this "kid" is (if you can call a 25-year old man who is mentally frozen at the age of 12 a "kid"), I kind of can't blame them. He can't be around animals because he sexually abuses them. He was incestuous with his own sister, the one who lived with us, when they were teens (they grew up knowing about each other and their families would get together sometimes so they could see each other; they had to sever their contact as teenagers because they were being incestuous with each other. They were still being incestuous over the phone when she lived with us.) Oh, and D grew up to follow in his mother's footsteps and is on drugs. His adopted parents had him conserved and he was in a group home until he got kicked out because he kept breaking the rules. This all happened when the sister was living with us, and his stupid adopted mom tried to pawn him off on us and sign over guardianship to me and my boyfriend so she and her husband didn't have to be responsible for him anymore. No way in hell were we going to take over legal guardianship of a full grown man-child who abuses animals and can't keep his hands off his own sister! Anyway. So the half-brother is messed up, and his parents suck. This is all just some background as to why I'm currently ticked off at the adopted mother. Yesterday was my boyfriend's birthday, and this woman had the nerve to post to him on Facebook "Happy Birthday. Love you son." My boyfriend is NOT her son, or anything to her! They have never even met and have only spoken on the phone maybe two or three times. They have not had any contact at all in the last three or four years. And this is a woman who tried to pawn off her own son to us, after trying to return him to the adoption agency when he was little! So what right does she have to claim my boyfriend, a 38 year old MAN, as her "son"? Of course it's all for appearances. She wants people to think she has some close relationship with her adopted son's half-brother, when really she doesn't. Or it's a manipulative play for power, since when the half-sister lived here she was always calling ME and acting like she had some kind of authority over the sister and my boyfriend. She has no authority over anyone! Seeing her refer to my guy as her "son" just really ticked me off. Especially knowing how she is with her own son. Not to mention the hard feelings and confusion that's going to create for my boyfriend with his own family. Just, ugh. I wish that lady would go away. My boyfriend doesn't ever even hear from his half-siblings anymore, so there's no need for D's adopted mother to be asserting "ownership" over him. /endrant