Revelation of the Day

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I had a very personal revelation yesterday. Honestly, I am surprised it took me so long to figure this out. My husband has no patience with vacuuming. Yesterday when he was cleaning up some of the work he was doing on the bedroom redeco with the vacuum cleaner he was cursing and swearing like I have never heard him before. He always curses when he vacuums but this was on a whole other level and it scared me. When I hear my daughter arguing with her boyfriend, my stomach turns. As I heard hubby yelling the memories came back, memories of my first husband who would yell and swear and sometimes beat up on me. It has taken me 25 years to realize why this behaviour has bothered me. Also, I only ever saw my father lose his temper once and it scared me. That doesn't mean I was a princess of a mom; I had my bouts of anger when the kids were little, but nothing like this. I think because so much anger was directed towards me I developed my own reactions of anger. With all the uprisings in the world today, I am suddenly aware of my fear of anger. I never really thought about it before. When people ask me what I fear I usually say mice, or being alone, but I now realize that I really fear anger/expressions of anger. I suppose we all are. But this connection to my first husband is making a lot more sense to me now. When we can understand where the fear is coming from, maybe we can be less traumatized when we are faced with it again. I don't know. I'll see. I just felt the need to share this because this is a big revelation to me. But please know, my husband would never lay a hand on me. He gets mad at inanimate objects. I'm still afraid of mice though. Have you had any revelations recently?