My Friend The Marriage Counselor Is Single Again

Well I'm not religious but still have morals and beliefs on staying faithful and such. That said it isnt just a religious thing as I would not want someone trying to tell me what to do when they obviously have no clue or they do not follow their own advice. I have been married for over 30 years and if someone came along trying to tell me how to keep it together that cant do it themselves well I cant see me listening to them!

You made me smile, we had a marriage counselor at Mental Health, who fought constantly with his wife and ended up divorced! How could Stanley actually help anybody else? You are right, Biblical standards never condone a divorce. If a person isn't living it, they need to go find someone to teach them, instead:)

Maybe your life is different from this friend of yours. Sometimes it's just too easy to give advice and it's different if it happened to us personally.

I think it depends on the reason for the divorce. I'm a Christian and was divorced, but my reasons for it were all biblically substantiated. I wouldn't want to be a marriage counselor, but having been married, I think I could give some good advice on how to stay married.

I agree with you to an extent.. depends if her marriages failed because of her, the guys, or just mutual agreement though as to if she should be a marriage counselor since divorced.

They may be counselling out of experience.

That would be like me applying for a job as a maid! I keep my house clean but I pay no attention to small details when cleaning.

Yes that does sound as if she may not be the best person to be counselling.

Three marriages. Hmm maybe she is an expert or the one that has the problem. However saying that there are many circumstances that may lead to a divorce in which sometimes one of the couples may have no blame. It is far too easy to cast aspersions on others. You could also say the same for priests who have no experience of married life and yet they are deemed to know all about married life. The incidences of paedophilia that has come to light in recent years makes me wonder if the church is really as purely white as one would like to think it should be. So if God is so forgiving then surely it is he that is the only person to judge. My views of people changed many years ago. I was sitting behind the vicars wife and overheard her tongue which was like a razor blade. The nasty things she was saying about others in the congregation was astonishing. She was supposed to be a christian, so you would believe, but she sounded such a nasty bitter sour old woman which one would not expect being the vicars wife. I would never encourage anyone to stay in an abusive marriage and I would be the first person to suggest they leave the abuser. The trouble is that they have been beaten into submission, not necessarily physically but psychologically and made to feel that it is all their fault when in fact it is the abuser who has systematically made the person have such low self esteem they actually believe it is their fault. Perhaps her advice would be don't do what I did? Or she is just one very unlucky lady??