I Hate Being Treated Like I'm Just a Stupid Woman
By StacyB
@Srbageldog (7716)
United States
October 4, 2017 12:53pm CST
I've noticed that when taking with men, they tend to invalidate anything I say. This has happened to me twice already today. This morning a new driver picked me up to take me to my appointment, and he said he took longer than expected because he went to that house with the picket fence that I had him drop me off at last week. I had never seen this man before and have never been dropped off anywhere but my own home, but he kept insisting otherwise and said it was okay, he managed to pull up my home address from his GPS history. Maybe the fact that my address was where he was supposed to go to begin with should have said something? I chose not to argue with him, but was ticked off that this stranger was trying to make me question my own sanity.
Then the driver who picked me up after my appointment kept "correcting" me about a subject that I am well versed on and he apparently is not (The Beatles.) He kept insisting Michael Jackson owned not only the Beatles catalogue but their solo music as well and Yoko Ono has no rights to John Lennon's music... That is false. It's not something worth fighting over, but it irritated me that yet again some guy I didn't know was insisting that I was wrong and he was right. This happens all the time. My gastroenterologist argues with me about this stuff too, and acts like I can't possibly know anything because of my age and probably because I'm just a stupid woman. Even my boyfriend does it. I've noticed women don't tend to do this sort of thing, probably because most of us just nod and go along with whatever is being said to keep the peace. Or we know whatever is being debated is not worth arguing over. I just wonder why guys keep doing this to me. Is it just me? Do they do it to everyone, including other men?
Has this sort of thing ever happened to you?
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11 responses
@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
4 Oct 17
Not just a male thing. Definitely a people thing.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
4 Oct 17
Maybe I overlook it more when it's women doing it, or I just interact with men more often.
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@kobesbuddy (78833)
• East Tawas, Michigan
4 Oct 17
My sister would argue anyone under a carpet!:(
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@kobesbuddy (78833)
• East Tawas, Michigan
4 Oct 17
It made me smile, Michael Jackson owning the Beatles catalogue and their solo music. When the Beatles were popular as a group, Michael Jackson was only about five years old! LOL
We get in trouble with argumentative people, if we allow them to draw us into a debate. Instead, let them blow off their mouth, neither agreeing nor disagreeing with them. Just let them rattle off, then don't add to the conversation. They get sick of listening to their own mouth run!:(
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
4 Oct 17
He did buy the Beatles catalog in the '80s but then he sold it to Sony years later. Paul McCartney was trying to buy the copyrights to the Beatles' music back from the record company (the Beatles had been naive and signed over their copyrights early on in their career) and had told Jackson about it, and had also advised him that it was wise to invest in buying the copyrights to other performers' music...they had a huge falling out when Michael Jackson bought the Beatles catalog before he could. But Michael Jackson never owned their solo music! They weren't foolish enough to sign contracts relinquishing their copyrights to their own work by that point, and Michael Jackson was just a kid in the '70s. And Paul McCartney recently acquired the rights to the Beatles music, or at least some of it.
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@Ithink (10106)
• United States
6 Oct 17
Im sorry that you go thru this. About the only people that have done this to me is the school my daughter was in. Was is the word here. They thought since Im a stay at home mom that I must not be to smart. They did find out they were wrong.
I dont know why some do it thou. You were smart thou and just let it go. I need to learn to do that.
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@Ithink (10106)
• United States
7 Oct 17
@Srbageldog I used to bottle up everything but don't now. Still do some but not like I did. It isn't healthy with the stress and such. I had a BF that used to do that, make a comment and then giggle, like that made it alright. Hence that is why we are no longer friends.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
6 Oct 17
Sometimes I would like to go off on people, but I'd rather avoid confrontation. So I just bottle it in and then come here and rant.
I can't stand it when people treat you like you're less intelligent or somehow inferior. That is one of my pet peeves. I'm glad you didn't just take that from you're daughter's former school. That is wrong that they treated you that way.
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@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
4 Oct 17
When I was married that drove me nuts. I would make a suggestion or tell my husband some information and he would dismiss it. If his male buddies or business associates told him the same thing later he would act on it. I once gave him my opinion on a stock he wanted to buy, I told him he should not do it and gave him the reasons but he bought it anyway. He lost all his investment. It did not make him more amenable to my opinions, though. I'm so happy I don't have to deal with that anymore!!!
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
4 Oct 17
That sort of thing drives me nuts too. I will tell my boyfriend something and he'll dismiss it, then he'll hear it from a male friend or coworker and repeat it back to me like I wasn't the one who told him it to begin with! My dad does this to my mom too, and they are always fighting over it. It's so frustrating!
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@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
4 Oct 17
@Srbageldog I would dump that guy like a sack of garbage. I lived 19 years with a person like that and it was awful. Good luck.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
5 Oct 17
@dragon54u Eh, it's one of his faults. He doesn't do it too often, and when he does I remind him that I was the one who told him the information to begin with. I wonder if I sometimes do the same thing to him. I chalk it up to forgetfulness -- you remember you heard something somewhere, but can't remember where.
My dad, on the other hand, seems like he doesn't believe it unless he hears it from a man (more specifically his brother.) But maybe he is also just forgetful.
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@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
5 Oct 17
@Srbageldog And that is more a safe mode to do, rather than be confrontational.
Although, if you know that you are right, then fight for it.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
5 Oct 17
That's a really good comeback! I hate confrontation and will usually just disengage from the argument, even though I know I'm right.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
5 Oct 17
I agree, it's useless to argue with them. But it is irritating when you are forced to interact with them.
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@thelme55 (79323)
• Germany
6 Oct 17
@Srbageldog yes, so true. It would annoy me much.
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@infatuatedbby (94909)
• United States
6 Oct 17
I am sorry to hear you're experiencing this.
With the first man who was late to pick you up, maybe he got you mistaken with someone else or just his line of saying he's running late but doesn't want to admit it.
The other man , I am not familiar with music and such but some men just like being right or feel like they're right whichever the debate may be.
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@LeaPea2417 (40058)
• Toccoa, Georgia
6 Oct 17
I have a male relative who thinks he is always right. If I say anything about a subject, he always acts like he is more knowledgeable about the subject and will talk over me and wont let me finish what I was trying to say about the subject. It really is irritating.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
6 Oct 17
I am sorry you have to deal with that. It is so frustrating and irritating when people act that way.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
5 Oct 17
I've seen it happening to others, but I don't think it's a gender-based thing. It happened to me too but I eventually managed to prove that I was right. 
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
5 Oct 17
I'm glad to know it's not just a gender-based thing. I think I just notice it more with men because it makes me feel more inferior, and feminists are always telling us (here in the U.S., anyway) that men treat us like second class citizens and we should be offended by it. I am glad that you managed to prove you were right.
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@andriaperry (118793)
• Anniston, Alabama
6 Oct 17
Oh no its not just you. Men TRY to do this all the time with me. I forgot what it was about but just the ther day some guy was "ignoring " my questions but answering Tony who was saying nothing but standing with me. When he asked Tony something he said " I don`t know ask her." After that he got the message the WOMAN that was asking is the boss of this business.
I actually fired this A hole Tony hired, he was going to dump trash in a hole instead of using the dirt right beside it, I told him no and he continued to the back, I ran and got Tony, told him to stop him. He stopped him and I told him walk on, don`t come back again cause you are not working for ME!
I see him now and he gives me the eye, I know he beat his wife till she got enough, took the kids and left his sorry drunk Azz.
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