Right and Wrong about Helping
By Firefly
@cttolledo (5459)
Legaspi, Philippines
October 21, 2017 12:32am CST
When can you say that you are really helping?
I have a friend. A very generous human being. Her happiness is to help her family. She has her own family. She is not rich but have enough in life because of hardwork.
Eversince, she is a go to person of her siblings specially in money matters. Her siblings has their own family also.
To help the needs of her siblings, she even loaned money for the siblings wedding, for vaccine of her niece, for the washing machine, for the ultrasound of her sister. etc.
We once asked her, if she is sure that she indeed helping.. or she is just helping them to be more dependent to her.
My point is, how a person can stand alone and be responsible if she is always there provinding.
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6 responses
@cttolledo (5459)
• Legaspi, Philippines
21 Oct 17
We are just worried because she has kids.. Her kids should be her priority. Its okay to help but giving your savings and loan for them just to buy material things is too much
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@ilocosboy (45155)
• Philippines
21 Oct 17
You have the point there. I remember a famous saying about helping "give fish to a person and you had help him in a day's meals, teach him how catch fish and you'll help him his entire life.
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@cttolledo (5459)
• Legaspi, Philippines
21 Oct 17
@ilocosboy maybe its better if.. family and relatives must also think of the welfare of the giver. If it is emergency why not. but for other things like material things is too much
@ilocosboy (45155)
• Philippines
21 Oct 17
Sometimes we have to learn to say no to our relative and friends.
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Oct 17
She is being used and she needs to worry about her own family.
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@prashu228 (37518)
• India
21 Oct 17
If she is happy doing that, then we cannot say anything, but if she is not then comes the question..there is a limit
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@cttolledo (5459)
• Legaspi, Philippines
21 Oct 17
actually you have the point. anyway life is a choice, and if she choses that kind of life.. then thats it
@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
22 Oct 17
the problem is what happens when the wall they're leaning on suddenly collapses? will her husband and kids support her siblings and their family?
@cttolledo (5459)
• Legaspi, Philippines
21 Oct 17
there's nothing wrong to help. but the act of helping could drive them to be dependent I think its wrong already
