What Would You Do?
By Babes Says
@BabeSays (8795)
Mauritius
January 28, 2018 9:56pm CST
So I was brought up by my mother who was single. She loved me and somehow cared about me.
When I reached 18 she wanted me to get married and I wasn't ready for it. At 23 I agreed to get married and she was happy and started to look for the Mr right.
I had an arrange marriage and I am happy about it. I have never been so happy and the beat decision I every made.
But now my mother does not like that I love my husband and look after him. She wants me to love only her. I do live my mother but I can't leave my husband. That's not why I marry him.
My mother doesn't like the fact that I got marries. In fact she keeps on saying she regrets that she got me married.
I feel and see she gets jealous whenever my hubby is around. And she never let me travel with my hubby. She says you stay home I'll go with him.
In short she want me to love her and hate my husband.
What do I do? She doesn't understand that I love her but I love my husband as well. I explained her so many time.
Her behavior is unbearable. Interesting fact is that she is the one who wanted me to get married.
And there's something I hate the most. Every time she is wrong and curse me and my hubby saying we are wrong. And she stop talking to us. Does not answer out phone calls. She talks to us only when she wants. I feel worst than a dog. A dog is treated better than me.
What would you do if you were in my shoes? How would you deal with her.
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10 responses
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
29 Jan 18
Please stay away from your mother. Unfortunately she behaves like a jealousy lady than a mother. She is single for long time and deep in her heart she wishes a partner. She knows clearly you love her a lot, but she pretends that way to make you furious as she doesn't like your married life.
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@prashu228 (37518)
• India
29 Jan 18
@Sreekala do you really believe that, a mother can think like that...
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@CuriousFellow (588)
• Mauritius
29 Jan 18
Wow that is strong. You think her mother is like that. So you saying she not meeting her mother?
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@arthurchappell (44941)
• Preston, England
29 Jan 18
sounds a difficult family relationship for you
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@arthurchappell (44941)
• Preston, England
29 Jan 18
@BabeSays she is probably lonely but she shouldn't try to stop you being with your husband
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@BabeSays (8795)
• Mauritius
29 Jan 18
@arthurchappell She isn't that lonely. She always spend most of her time going home by home and visit her neighbors and a chat with them.
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@averygirl72 (38847)
• Philippines
29 Jan 18
I think she is acting selfish and childish. I do understand her maybe she is attention seeking. Maybe she feels lonely so she think she is competing for love with your husband. Try to do your best to understand her and talk this matter to your husband. Let the two of you help your mother and continue showing her love and understanding
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@averygirl72 (38847)
• Philippines
29 Jan 18
@BabeSays I see it seems a difficult situation. Quite stressful to have a mom like that. Hope you can figure it out how to solve your problem
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@BabeSays (8795)
• Mauritius
29 Jan 18
@averygirl72 That can't be sloved. But I prefer not give call and meet her like I used to before. Nowadays she calls me but I don't answer. Because whenever she calls she argues with me and that affects my health.
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@BabeSays (8795)
• Mauritius
29 Jan 18
Both my husband and I are done with showing and prooving that we love and care for her. Whenever she is sick we drive at her place in the middle of the night 2am. Who would do that?
Sometimes I also have the same feeling. My hubby said he had enough and also thinks that my mom is a selfish person who thinks only about herself.
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@prashu228 (37518)
• India
29 Jan 18
she spent her life alone and single , may be thats the reason , a mother cant be jealous but we can say she is insecure..
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@prashu228 (37518)
• India
29 Jan 18
@BabeSays ahh thats quiet confusing , ask her if she want to get married to anyone if she feels lonely... then you can find a partner for her...
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@BabeSays (8795)
• Mauritius
29 Jan 18
@prashu228 I didn't have to ask her she herself told me she need a man in her life. But she found only people who are interested in living relationship no wedding.
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
29 Jan 18
does she live alone? maybe she needs to socialize more or take up new activities to keep busy.
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@BabeSays (8795)
• Mauritius
29 Jan 18
Yes she lives alone but get a lot of socialize. She goes to her neighbor and gossips about me and they tell her how she should behave with me which she actually follows. I witness it twice I was in the other room when I heard their conversation. It hurt me that my mother prefer to give importance to neighbors and other people than me.
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@BabeSays (8795)
• Mauritius
29 Jan 18
@hereandthere Indeed. Nowadays I prefer not to call and talk to her. It's better that way.
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@allknowing (153544)
• India
31 Jan 18
You remind me of someone here who was so keen on getting her son married. But now she is jealous that he pays more attention to the wife and not her. These are normal feelings but they need to be curbed
@sw8sincere (6032)
• Philippines
29 Jan 18
I guess you must let her understand everything that you wanted to tell her in private. She should understand that now that you are already married you already have your own life and it doesn't mean she will be forgotten and your love for her will lessen. Yes you love your husband but try to not stop showing your love to your mother too for her not to feel sad and jealous about you getting married.
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@BabeSays (8795)
• Mauritius
29 Jan 18
I never show less love towards her. In fact whenever We visit her I spend more time with her. And when she comes at my place I do the same. But she prefer to spread her time chatting with my husband than me.
If my husband talks to me and we go out to buy food she gets furious. She want to eat food from outside but doesn't want me to go with my husband. When I stay with her then she leaves me and say I will go with your husband you stay home
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@sw8sincere (6032)
• Philippines
29 Jan 18
@BabeSays I'm sorry but it shows like she is more concerned with your husband than you and she cares for your husband more as much as she cares about you. There must be something that interests her with your husband for her to show that extreme treatment towards him.
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@BabeSays (8795)
• Mauritius
29 Jan 18
@sw8sincere I am confused as well. I don't understand why she is doing it.
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@CuriousFellow (588)
• Mauritius
29 Jan 18
Your mother is world most complicated woman.
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@BabeSays (8795)
• Mauritius
29 Jan 18
That's the true my friend no one could understand her at all.
