Trying to refocus

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Well I was doing so well, but getting resentful. My partner and I are in the process of moving. Long story of as to why, and I am sure I will explain elsewhere, but we are now 2 weeks away from he day we have the van booked to move. The last few weeks though, I have felt I am doing everything, and my partner next to nothing. We both struggle with our health and he has a severe ongoing chest problem, and suffers badly with depression too, and he has sunk down over the past few days, leading up to the weekend, crashing on the sofa every afternoon for a few hours, saying he feels funny, yet it will come out at a later conversation, that he didn't feel funny as such just needed to lie down. It's a very long and very complicated story. Anyway, this has built up in me, and then this weekend, I was losing my patience with him a bit, as time is marching on and there is so much I need him to do. It all blew up, led to rows, me 'not understanding his dperession' etc. Well to cut the negative story short for now, yesterday my son was due over, and my partner had promised to get some work done on something for him so he could collect it yesterday. This actually got through to him. We were calmer, but I found myself in the middle, and did actually say this to him, that not only would he then be letting my son down (and not for the first time), but that I was also the messenger stuck in the middle. I then left him be and he 'came back to me'. This is how we describe it after a spell of going low. He 'comes back to me' and we are back as a team again. We have a fantastic relationship, extremely close, and a bit of a fairytale getting together, and the main thing is we talk and talk and talk. This has helped his depression no end over time. I am his full time carer as well as his partner and it can take it's toll. Well normally I am tired but so happy to have him back, but this time, I am just drained still today, even though he is making the effort to stay back with me. I am trying to get back focussed on what needs doing, and also try and stay as happy and cheerful around my partner as I can to stop him resinking again. This is hard as I am feeling tired and stressed doing it all myself.. Aghh well, that's a little insight into my day and my life. Even if no one reads it is was nice to have a little rant and get it all off my chest. Next step, get refocussed and aligned myself, and get on, as we have adventures ahead of us. We are going to be living in a caravan for the next few months in Kent until we move down to Cornwall. Happy thoughts now :)