What do you consider to be a red flag in a relationship with the opposite sex?

United States
March 6, 2018 1:47pm CST
You have heard of red flags that make you think about a relationship and whether or not it is good for you. What are yours?
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Valerie J. Routhieaux
@just4him (308672)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
7 Mar 18
Saying he's a Christian, but not acting like one. All talk and no action - what he says does not line up with what he does. Seeming to aim to please so you will be acceptable to what he wants.
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DJ
@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
7 Mar 18
@just4him Same here! This one is a big point of contention with me. I can tolerate many things but not this.
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Jesuslovesme
@MsBooklover (3974)
• United States
7 Mar 18
Valerie, you hit the nail on the head. It gets old.
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Valerie J. Routhieaux
@just4him (308672)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
7 Mar 18
@Daljinder Men think women are pliable. I'm not very pliable.
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DJ
@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
7 Mar 18
When their actions do not match their words. That's a big no go for me.
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Jesuslovesme
@MsBooklover (3974)
• United States
7 Mar 18
I couldn't agree more with you.
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scarlet_woman
@scarlet_woman (23465)
• United States
7 Mar 18
hiding things.
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Jesuslovesme
@MsBooklover (3974)
• United States
7 Mar 18
This is a big one. It is difficult when you invest so much time and energy into a relationship and then you find that the person is hiding things.
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inertia4
@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
6 Mar 18
There are many things that can be red flags. Like for instance, my girlfriend and I were deleting some apps from her phone. When I got to Snapchat, well, I asked her for her login and her eyes widened and she said, no, no way, not that. To me that is a red flag. Why? Because if she were not doing something behind my back she would have given me her login. I would give her my logins any time she would ask.
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Jesuslovesme
@MsBooklover (3974)
• United States
7 Mar 18
I hear you loud and clear. At that point, you just think what is she doing behind my back?
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inertia4
@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
9 Mar 18
@MsBooklover Exactly. And that makes it uneasy to deal with someone. And the anger build up and things can explode. I don't want that to happen. But the longer I feel like I am being used or ignored, well, I tend to turn spiteful.
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Jesuslovesme
@MsBooklover (3974)
• United States
9 Mar 18
@inertia4 I understand that, and it is difficult to discuss because what can the other person really say. More lies?
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Carolyn Purser
@CarolynP777 (103)
• United States
26 Oct 18
A red flag for me is trying to get them to meet and socialize with your friends but he always has an excuse not to.