Sister in law says she doesnt want her husband's family name
By Jcvee
@jcvee2009 (151)
Philippines
10 responses
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
11 Mar 18
I wouldn't mind. That is her civil rights. In our country, a woman has the right to retain her name even after marriage and not many people know about that. I retained mine and because people around me understands the law, as I do educate them about that, nobody holds a grudge against me.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
12 Mar 18
@hereandthere For law grads it's normal. And some doctors too.
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
11 Mar 18
another filipina mylotter who is also a law grad plans to do the same, keep her parent's surnames.
@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
12 Mar 18
@toniganzon i didn't know female doctors do it, too. so your sister retained hers?
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
11 Mar 18
I don't think that pride at all. IN fact a woman in this country has the right to retain her name even after marriage. She's just exercising her legal rights.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
12 Mar 18
@mydanods Isn't love more important than the surname? Why can't man respect what a woman wants? When a man loves his wife this things don't matter.
We have a different culture and practices. It may matter in your country, but in this country, women are given that right and it should be respected especially by the man who claims to love his wife.
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@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
11 Mar 18
@toniganzon What about the husband's right that she bears his name? That right is above her own in this matter I think.
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@anikoonline (3250)
• Hungary
11 Mar 18
Here it is not a big deal. Women usually keep their maiden name.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
11 Mar 18
Hi. If I have a choice I would do the same as your sister-in-law. Women are wired to change their last names when they get married. It is a matter of choice but it does not mean that she loves your brother less. 
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
11 Mar 18
She loves him, Thats the main thing. Common law couples who never marry keep their own last names and live just as happily.
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@luisadannointed (4171)
• Philippines
11 Mar 18
It depends... maybe she just said that because her husband's surname is ugly, or maybe she just mad to her husband family but marry her husband still because she loves him.
@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
14 Mar 18
Well I've heard of this happening before. Couldn't she have a double barreled name and use her own and his.
@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
11 Mar 18
if she told him about it ahead of time and he's amendable to it, then no problem. as far as i know, it's allowed in our country.
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
11 Mar 18
It is definitely allowed in our country as it is a woman's legal right to retain her name even after marriage.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
14 Mar 18
my son wants to use my maiden surname instead of his father's surname.
@jcvee2009 (151)
• Philippines
15 Mar 18
It is really a choice but sometimes it depends upon the reason and motives on why you choose it...it was just so sad on our part bec. The motive of the girl was not so nice....but still, its her decision...
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
17 Mar 18
@jcvee2009 my son uses his father's surname but his name on FB, he uses my maiden name.
