Would you date/marry your friend's ex boyfriend/husband?
By Amaka
@ammyluv (611)
Abuja, Nigeria
March 23, 2018 5:41am CST
So, out of curiosity, this question came to my mind.
An uncle of mine got married to his ex wife's sister and I wondered why anyone would do such thing.
Would you do same if it were to be possible? Aren't there other guys/ladies in the world? What would make you date/marry your friend/sibling's ex? Is it justified? Do you see this act as betrayal?
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
23 Mar 18
It's justified if all parties are fine with it. There maybe others in the world but these two obviously fell in love. My sister and I used to date the same people (at different times) when we were younger as we mixed in the same circle of friends; we didn't mind each other's cast offs! We didn't marry any of them though 
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
23 Mar 18
@ammyluv I daresay there are some people that might not be happy with it. If one person had not got over their ex it could present a problem.
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@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
23 Mar 18
That is an impossible question to generalise about. Everybody in an individual and what attracts two people to each other is a double function of two individuals.
It is perfectly possible to find oneself attracted to (and even marry) one person initially and then to find that that person's best friend/sister/brother is the person one is more 'in tune' with. Provided that everyone involved is honest and caring and accepts the situation, how can that be 'betrayal'?
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@ammyluv (611)
• Abuja, Nigeria
23 Mar 18
Well, it seems to me, especially if there was no approval from your friend/sibling. Yes, we can't choose who we are attracted to, but sometimes, we choose who we stay attracted to. Most cases like that of my uncle, the ex wife never gave her approval, but she went ahead anyway.
It's not all about what you feel and what you want as a person, but it's also very important to consider other's feelings while taking certain decisions.
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@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
23 Mar 18
@ammyluv I know (or rather, knew) someone who 'swapped' wives with his boss - in other words, they both divorced and married the other partner. I don't know the details but I do know that all four were still very good friends and happy with the arrangement. I don't know but I don't think that any children were involved or, if there were, they were grown up and also perfectly OK with it.
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@ammyluv (611)
• Abuja, Nigeria
23 Mar 18
@owlwings Wow! Never heard of something like this, but this is really understandable because they both agreed. I'm talking about a situation where there was never an agreement. Maybe I dated someone and one thing led to another, we got separated then my ex now feels "He loves my friend /sibling" is it okay? Would you go ahead with such relationship?
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@Courtlynn (66918)
• United States
23 Mar 18
Nope. Exs of friends and family are off limits. Plus way too many people in the order to do something gross like that.
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@Courtlynn (66918)
• United States
23 Mar 18
@ammyluv nope. No way no how. Not for me.
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and yes definitely it will be betrayal
@elico6666 (177)
• Kfar Saba, Israel
24 Mar 18
I think love is stronger from friendship
it happened to my sister she married her husband best friend
@mohit459 (12568)
• Haldwani, India
23 Mar 18
No it's not.
And if I love her then there is no point of betrayal
@elico6666 (177)
• Kfar Saba, Israel
24 Mar 18
what you prefer to loss your friend or to live with the love of your life
@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
25 Mar 18
I think there's nothing wrong with that as long as they agreed to marry each other.
