Would you befriend your bully?

Canada
April 23, 2018 1:56pm CST
I am friends with a woman who was bullied in school by one girl. This girl trolled her on the school grounds, after school, and sometimes in class. This girl would also trap my friend and put a beating on her. Today these two women are the best of friends. They have been best friends since highschool graduation back in the 80's. They do everything together, even helped each other raise their kids. I think it is amazing when someone who was treated so badly by another can have so much forgiveness, and the other so much courage to change her ways. These two women are inseparable and I love them both dearly. Would you befriend your bully?
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@Courage7 (20032)
• United States
23 Apr 18
That is quite a story. I had never heard of such a thing. Good luck to both of them, but I am afraid I may not be so forgiving not sure.
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@Mavic123456 (19890)
• Thailand
23 Apr 18
Do you still talk about the past? Did she apologize?
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• Canada
23 Apr 18
It isn't me. It really is a friend. They both told me their story and at first I found it unbelievable!
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@Mips555 (37)
23 Apr 18
i wouldnt.its hard to forgive someone who hurt me so bad and befriending him is having the constant fear of what will happen if we fight and this person will bully me again.wouldnt trust that
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@Hannihar (76449)
• Israel
24 Apr 18
@Starmaiden There is a bully that lives above us and he is horrible. I believe he is either acquainted with the ones that live here before him because he acts and does things that they live. I do not trust him or like him.
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• Canada
24 Apr 18
Have you reported him to the landlord?
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@Hannihar (76449)
• Israel
25 Apr 18
@Starmaiden No, will not do any good and anyways I want to stay here. The one that showed him the apartment is very noisy too. One day he was up there making so much noise. Nothing can be done. I do not like calling the police because they interrogate me so that is out. I try to ignore him or yell up the ceiling. I know that encourages him to do more. I had a couple before him and I believe they taught him what to do. He does what they did.
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• Canada
25 Apr 18
@Hannihar some apartments have paper thin walls and ceilings. A pin drop can sound like a herd of elephants. I used to live in one such apartment. It's hard when you can't afford to just pick up and go.
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@august18 (3963)
• Tunisia
23 Apr 18
I bullied a lot of boys in high school but they eventually fell in love with me. I still don't know what made them feel this way though.
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• Canada
23 Apr 18
They were attracted to your aggression?
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@august18 (3963)
• Tunisia
24 Apr 18
@Starmaiden Yes, apparently
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• Canada
24 Apr 18
@august18 It could be the best friendship you ever make.
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@Deepizzaguy (25161)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
23 Apr 18
If the bully has seen the errors of their ways and try to walk the straight and narrow. Go for it.
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• Canada
24 Apr 18
I believe that's what happened. She still has an aggressive streak, but she uses it towards protecting those she loves. I think she's a security guard now.
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@Deepizzaguy (25161)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
28 Apr 18
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@allen0187 (34679)
• Philippines
24 Apr 18
Sure, why not? Bullies are sad people who need to experience kindness the most.
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@cintol (10741)
• United States
23 Apr 18
Its good that they overcame their problems and the bully toned it down. Sometimes the person who bullies just needs to be understood and they have no outlet for their actions so they bully. My grand daughter had a girl like that in school, 2nd gr, that was much bigger and would push her down, call names, etc. My daughter found the girl was from a broken home, mom always traveled and dad was too busy with his new family. The two of them are now good friends as well.
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@Corbin5 (163451)
• United States
23 Apr 18
Well, if the bully changed his or her bullying ways, we could be friends.
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@Icydoll (29589)
• India
23 Apr 18
Never quite different story it is ..I never befriend my bully.. definitely no.
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@mlgen1037 (29404)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Apr 18
Personally, I will not but that woman is such a brave and strong lady. She was able to forgive the person who have hurt her.
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@jstory07 (83703)
• Roseburg, Oregon
23 Apr 18
I would not befriend by bully. Bullies are bad and some people kill themselves if they are bullies all the time. They are just tired of it.
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